Why do I keep picking the wrong guys?

marie-p · Apr 14, 2006

By the way, I'm surprised at the amount of you that think it's because Wyan lives in Canada!

hmmm... not sure if that's a good explanation. I live in Canada too and it doesn't help me at all.

Ok, seriously now.
How happy are you being by yourself? I'm NOT asking that because I think you're doomed and should get used to it... but it's important for you to consider all the good things about being single.
That way, you might be fussier about guys you date. Only date someone if being with him is better than being single. So if you learn to appreciate being single, you'll also learn to be really fussy.

Hey. works for me!! I haven't dated a loser in years!

Actually, the trial and error strategy is a good one too. I'll need to try that.

menagerie mama · Apr 14, 2006

I really don't like being single. I do like my time alone, but not ALL my time! I do have criteria, and most guys I meet do have a lot of it to begin with, but then they just change, and become someone I don't even know. I know when you start dating everything seems fine, and then stuff changes and the real person comes out, but why can't it just STAY fine?

pat · Apr 14, 2006

Originally Posted by Arlyn

My life has a long trail of wrong guys.

I gave up when I hit 30, stopped looking completely, and the right guy found me

I quit dating when I was 30 too...began being open to dating again at 39 and there he was. Poor babe had just been growing up during those 9 years

cheeseface · Apr 14, 2006

Originally Posted by Rockcat

Shannon, do you actually pick them - or do you wait until they pick you and settle? DON'T settle!!! Go out and get the one you really want.

I actually did a driveby in the neighborhood where I knew the guy I wanted lived. I found his apartment and saw his shoulder in the window. Oh yes, I DID. I recognized him by his shoulder. It took me about 10 minutes to get up the nerve to get out of the car. I didn't know how to find his place from the inside so I took a deep breath and yelled to him from his front lawn.

That was 4 years ago. We are getting married in 8 days!!!

Wow, that's a really unique and fasciniating story you got there.

fwan · Apr 14, 2006

Originally Posted by menagerie mama

Oh, so you're the one that voted that I'm dumb!

i knew i would get caught out because noone else is this mean!
But ey the option was there!!!!!

Youre not dumb at all

katiemae1277 · Apr 14, 2006

cause they're all wrong?? oh did I say that out loud? seriously though,, I guess I am a little cynical, being married and divorced by 28, not that I'm the only one who has that story, but I'm doing the just seeing guys for fun thing and I can honestly say that I really don't think I'll ever get married again- it would have to be a really stupendous guy to make me take the plunge again

I also am not that interested in having children so that's not a driving force with me, but when the right guy comes along it will make you appreciate him all the more since you had to go thru some bozos first

Good luck! he's out there, never lose hope

commonoddity042 · Apr 14, 2006

Because they used awesomely creeptastic deception skills to make themselves look like good guys?

marie-p · Apr 14, 2006

Originally Posted by menagerie mama

I really don't like being single. I do like my time alone, but not ALL my time! I do have criteria, and most guys I meet do have a lot of it to begin with, but then they just change, and become someone I don't even know. I know when you start dating everything seems fine, and then stuff changes and the real person comes out, but why can't it just STAY fine?

well, I guess the trial and error strategy might be a good one. As long as you can put up with some disappointment along the road.

Until then, we need to have some sort of single girls night out.

menagerie mama · Apr 14, 2006

Originally Posted by CommonOddity042

Because they used awesomely creeptastic deception skills to make themselves look like good guys?

Oh boy, do they EVER!!!!!

Originally Posted by marie-p

Until then, we need to have some sort of single girls night out.

Well, that sounds like a great idea!!

jdpesz · Apr 14, 2006

We're all creeps, Shannon. Some of us are just creepier than others.

But you kinda like us that way, don't you?
Maybe just a little, even?

menagerie mama · Apr 15, 2006

Originally Posted by jdpesz

We're all creeps, Shannon. Some of us are just creepier than others.

But you kinda like us that way, don't you?
Maybe just a little, even?

Um, well, yeah....you're right actually. If I meet a guy that is totally all into me and does whatever I say and gives me NO challenge whatsoever, I am not interested. I find that trait unattractive. I want a man to act like a man, I mean to a point. I want to be the mushy one, but I do want him to be nice, not a jerk. I like them sarcastic, but not rude. Attractive, but not pretty. Rugged, but not sloth-like.

Does any of this make sense?

fwan · Apr 15, 2006

Originally Posted by menagerie mama

Um, well, yeah....you're right actually. If I meet a guy that is totally all into me and does whatever I say and gives me NO challenge whatsoever, I am not interested. I find that trait unattractive. I want a man to act like a man, I mean to a point. I want to be the mushy one, but I do want him to be nice, not a jerk. I like them sarcastic, but not rude. Attractive, but not pretty. Rugged, but not sloth-like.

Does any of this make sense?

Hmmm

I also like a man that is funny and can make me laugh all day long but still give a kick in the relationship
Ohh and Blue eyes and blonde hair :drools:

sanctie · Apr 15, 2006

Originally Posted by Rockcat

Shannon, do you actually pick them - or do you wait until they pick you and settle? DON'T settle!!! Go out and get the one you really want.

I actually did a driveby in the neighborhood where I knew the guy I wanted lived. I found his apartment and saw his shoulder in the window. Oh yes, I DID. I recognized him by his shoulder. It took me about 10 minutes to get up the nerve to get out of the car. I didn't know how to find his place from the inside so I took a deep breath and yelled to him from his front lawn.

That was 4 years ago. We are getting married in 8 days!!!

Go get 'em girl - even if that means stalking Wyan!

Oh my god how brave you are!!! Lol, what a lovely story!!!!

sanctie · Apr 15, 2006

Oh Shannon, the story of a lot of our lives, , , Guys=Dumb.
That's my new motto, and like Ryan said, I don't pick the wrong ones really, I just don't pick them at all. I only go out on a date if the guy is so persistent as to be annoying and I do it because I'm tired of dodging them, only to shut them down on the first date (guys can't handle my forward-minded liberal cat-lovin' self, lol, they think I'm an intimidating power-chick, which I guess isnt tooo bad). I am just waiting on perfect, and not robot-perfect, but perfect for me. Perfect for you exists as well, but your Mr. Perfect is either busy becoming exactly the person you'll want him to be, or giving you the time to become exactly what you will want to be for him!

menagerie mama · Apr 15, 2006

Originally Posted by Sanctie

Oh Shannon, the story of a lot of our lives, , , Guys=Dumb.
That's my new motto, and like Ryan said, I don't pick the wrong ones really, I just don't pick them at all. I only go out on a date if the guy is so persistent as to be annoying and I do it because I'm tired of dodging them, only to shut them down on the first date (guys can't handle my forward-minded liberal cat-lovin' self, lol, they think I'm an intimidating power-chick, which I guess isnt tooo bad). I am just waiting on perfect, and not robot-perfect, but perfect for me. Perfect for you exists as well, but your Mr. Perfect is either busy becoming exactly the person you'll want him to be, or giving you the time to become exactly what you will want to be for him!

Well tell him to hurry up!

sanctie · Apr 15, 2006

LOL! It is gonna take a special man to love all those furbabies you've got! They don't come easy, that's probably why you should just move to Canada! Ryan loves cats, so he'll understand!

menagerie mama · Apr 15, 2006

Originally Posted by Sanctie

LOL! It is gonna take a special man to love all those furbabies you've got! They don't come easy, that's probably why you should just move to Canada! Ryan loves cats, so he'll understand!

Me and Wyan, 1 and 1/4 dogs, and 8 cats? What a housefull!

wellingtoncats · Apr 16, 2006

I voted that you should be patient.

Why do I keep picking the wrong guys?

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