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Often when cats get scared, they can keep the associations within them! I think it might be a good idea to place your kitty in the care of another loving home, so that the associations will be removed and he can live a long, healthy and happy life.

It is a difficult decision, but at least you know that you will have helped!
 
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so abigail where u live close to iowa? lol actually halfway serious hes only 3 so he has a big healthy life ahead of him.
 

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I just reread the original post to refresh my memory.
http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/showthread.php?t=82369
Honestly, I think it is awful that you are considering rehoming this cat! He simply got frightened, and your daughter took the wrong action. It is unfortunate, but these things happen sometimes. If she falls off her bike and breaks her arm, will you get rid of the bike, or keep teaching her safety?

This is a great time for a lesson for the little ones. The cats have always been loving before, and it appears it was a one time incident. Let the kids know that their needs come before the cats, but that this kitty is coming home, and you will continue to provide a good home for him. Keep working with him, and your daughter, so they can live together happily.

And tell your hubby that cats are different than dogs. A dog that attacks is a much bigger problem, it shows they have gone after the leader. I would not keep a dog that bit my child. But cats do not have pack leaders, and do not look at us as leaders, or someone to potentially overthrow. Your kitty sounds like he was just scared and not thinking clearly. Please give him another chance. I'm sure you and your family will not regret it!
 
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just wanted to let u all know im the one whos cat scratched and bit my daughter 2 weeks ago we brought him home from the vet much to my husbands dismay still looking for a home for him. when we got him home he was timid and stayed under my bed for a while. doing much better now back to his old friendly self slept with me last night. again much to the dislike of hubby. inly thing different is he seemed to have lost his status with other cats as he was always the dominant one well the other 2 are picking on him now. still need to find a home with out small children hes been fine with them since comming home but im still scared he will do it again
 
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well so far so good still havent found him a new home hes been fine since bringing him home. im still a littel nervous but no problems. crossing fingers. havent found him a new home yet but am still kind of looking for a older person with out other kids i just dont feel comfortable thinking it could happen again although he is back to sleeping with the kids. hes not the dominant cat anymore since being gone. and seems a little more jumpy then he was before. as of right now hes sitting on my lap watching me type purring away. i tink hes trying to say hi lol
 

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Hey just read up on this thread. That is too bad about your cat. I couldn't ever bring myself to call the police on my own cat even if it is a law, but good luck finding him a new home and everything. I also would not even consider declawing him because declawed cats are way more likely to begin biting. So since he already had this incident with biting, declawing would be a bad idea. I would recommend that to whoever you adopt him to also.

Did you ever mention if he is neutered? I forgot to ask. That will usually calm males down if he isn't, if he is, nevermind, I skimmed over this quickley so sorry if I am repeating anything.
 
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yeah he is fixed i fix all mine as soon as the are old enough and well if i didnt call they would have came to get him and taken him to the pound i didnt want him there with any stray in town who knew what he could have picked up. ive had cats all my life and never had this happen before. but so far so good hes been fine just more jumpy. also it isnt like hes new we have had him for over 4 years now. hes always kind of been a bully to 1 of our other cats and has flipped out n him before just never a person. if it was just a scared reaction i understand the only part that bothers me is that when my daughter tried to get away he chased after her. but i hope it was a 1 time thing nothing since
 

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April, you may not like to hear this, but chances of the same thing happening again are pretty remote now, if only because your daughter is more clued in, the cat's lost some status, and because it was a one-time thing. However, it is JUST as likely, if it were to happen again, for the problem to come from any of the other cats! It's one of those things that just happen in life and while you're understandably concerned for your daughter, your anxiety is somewhat misplaced. That cat is no more likely to do it again than any of your cats in a similar situation, so you might as well get rid of all of them, or else deal with the anxiety itself. Getting rid of the cat might, in fact, just start up a new one - guilt, and that's no more fun to live with either. I realize this sounds kind of tough, but the problem is your anxiety now, not the cat. You did a good thing when you explained to your daughter about what really happened and how to avoid it again, now go the last step and give her the chance to prove she's learned something, rather than banning the cat (who of course has long, long ago forgotten what it was all about).
 

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I have to chime in here and voice up. I hope you do not gets upset with me.

Skittles came in tot he home at 3 weeks old about 9 weeks my son was asleep and woke up next to the cat and decided he decided he wanted to play and she was ok with it, but something happened and my son had at the least 20 deep scratches all over his hand and arm. He went to doc got on antibiotic and ointment. Since that day Skittles has been so nice to him. Skittles is hubby's cat and after that only Chandler and Chris could pet her. Now she is over a year (had months mixed up) and she has never done it since but she loves everyone. She is the best cat I have had. She is very well behaved. Even when she would not come to me she was still a good cat. I know if I gave her up when she did that I would of never got to see what a great cat she became. My mom has 2 very unfriendly cats and they stay in her room door shut. She lets them out or tries to when no one is home. They like no one else and are very happy to stay in the room. Even if the door is open they will not come out unless the house is 100% quiet and no one is home. They will be 12 and 13 years old. Please do not put the cat down or give up....
 
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just to let everyone know. i have no notion of putting him to sleep. all i was saying is im a little nervous. and really here is the reason. since i had to take her to the dr the bite wasnt bad but the scratches were awfull on 1 leg. i am afraid that if it happened again and i had to take her in again they might wonder about why i would keep him and wonder about if i was protecting my children. that is the main reason of maybe finding a new home. so far it hasnt happened again and hes been fine besides being more jumpy. and dnow my kid knows if it does happen to get away from him instead of trying to comfort him. as u can see i still have him so my heart isnt into letting him go. we are just kid of seeing how it goes for now but if he does show signs of being aggresive i will have to find a new home for him.
 
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oh no didnt think u were at all. this whole thing just has e going a little nutso lol and i value everyone opinion.
 
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