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post #1 of 15
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If you pray, please keep my friend in mind. She had to put down her 11 year old cat today, because of his mental problems. Her mother is not supporting her, even though her vet told her that,yes, it was time, and that she had done more for him and put up with more than the majority of people would have, and she certainly did. But it came down to everybody's quality of life, the people, the cat, and her other cat who was suffering extreme anxiety because of him. He was to the point that meds wouldn't help, and he was becoming a danger to himself and others. They were worried that if her older female died first, he would become a danger to her small children, as he already considers them intruders. She knows she did the right thing for everyone, including him, but it is still so hard. She loved him a lot, and will miss the times when he was his normal, sweet self. Thanks for listening; my heart breaks for her today.
post #2 of 15
The poor thing She did do the right thing because she thought of how he was suffering and how it wasn't fair on him

He's long over the bridge now tell your friend, and when the time comes he'll come trotting towards her to give her head butts like she's bever known before

RIP little one, and have fun over the bridge
post #3 of 15
Your friend is in my prayers. RIP sweet kitty.
post #4 of 15
I am sorry your friend lost her cat. Rest in peace dear kitty. You are loved and missed.
post #5 of 15
condolences to your friend and her children, on the loss of their cat. Yes, it certainly was the best thing and hopefully the healing will come quickly to all. With the chaos gone, everyone can breathe a sigh of relief; and who knows the torment that the cat was going through; at least your friend knows that he is suffering no more, and is once again the sweet, happy boy that she loved so much.
post #6 of 15
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Thanks so much everyone; I will let her know.
post #7 of 15
Tell your friend she was very courageous... her cat's mind, at the last, was betraying him... very little of his true self left... such a sad choice to have to make, but the right one. I imagine her cat fought his illness as hard as he could... most cats, after becoming attached to a human, will do just about anything for that human, at least from a cat's perspective...
post #8 of 15
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I spoke to her yesterday and she is still having a hard time. She said it was harder than when she had to put her first cat down because of cancer. I told her it was probably because she had to manage him and his problem and the problems it caused for everybody in the house, whereas the first cat, he was just happy go lucky and she knew he was going soon. Her whole life has changed, literally, and I think she will realize soon that it was really the best thing at the best time. The good news is, her last cat is acting calmer already, is coming out to visit more and is noticably more relaxed. She is still having litterbox problems (she was often attacked coming out of the litterbox), but they already have a med that they know will work for her for that, if she doesn't get better on her own. I don't think she would mind me sharing this, if it could help someone else to make a decision in this difficult position.
post #9 of 15

She did the right thing. Rest in peace at rainbow bridge, precious cat.....
post #10 of 15
Just a quick hint for your friend - sometimes the best way to fill that cat-sized hole in the heart is with another cat. But as far as her current cat, yes, she might be feeling skittish about the box, so a good answer is to place several boxes around the house. "Ambush at the Box" is a favorite sport of kitty bullies; dispersing locations elimates that & tranquility resumes. Just a thought, assuming that your friend & her children might be thinking it's time for a rescue...
post #11 of 15
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Originally Posted by catsallover
If you pray, please keep my friend in mind. She had to put down her 11 year old cat today, because of his mental problems. Her mother is not supporting her, even though her vet told her that,yes, it was time, and that she had done more for him and put up with more than the majority of people would have, and she certainly did. But it came down to everybody's quality of life, the people, the cat, and her other cat who was suffering extreme anxiety because of him. He was to the point that meds wouldn't help, and he was becoming a danger to himself and others. They were worried that if her older female died first, he would become a danger to her small children, as he already considers them intruders. She knows she did the right thing for everyone, including him, but it is still so hard. She loved him a lot, and will miss the times when he was his normal, sweet self. Thanks for listening; my heart breaks for her today.
Please tell your friend her baby is up with all the angel kitties in good hands.
post #12 of 15
I'm very sorry. I will say a prayer for your friend at this difficult time.
post #13 of 15
Thread Starter 
Another kitty I think wouldn't be in their best interest right now, but thanks for the suggestion . I think they are all taking a breather right now (including her other cat). It was terribly stressful dealing with all the medications, only to have none of them work for very long, not to mention his behavior was very stressful day in and day out and she struggled for a long time to decide to put him down. Her other cat is 12 yrs. old and I think she wouldn't take well to another cat, plus she needs to lose some weight, which will be easier if she is the only cat. Having her other cat come out and be relaxed and visiting with them again is just about like having another cat!
She has AT LEAST two litter boxes (she had 3 or 4 at one time),and it helped only to the point that her other cats at least got to use the litter box, but not neccessarily not be bullied about it.
I am bottle feeding a 3-4 week old kitten right now, and believe me, if she would take her, I would be ESTATIC, because I would know she was getting a great home! But it's just too soon.
post #14 of 15
I am praying for her.
post #15 of 15
Thread Starter 
Thank you.
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