Teenagers! Ugh!

nena10

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Okay, okay. I know most teenagers are great. But the ones living in Utah are getting very disrespectful! Two nights ago, I was riding home from work on the bus! And some teenagers got on and one of them didn't have a good form of payment. He argued with the bus driver until he was forced to either pay or get off. So he paid. When we arrived at his stop, this teen showed the bus driver his middle finger. When the bus driver told him not to get on his bus again, the kid swore to him. Then, yesterday another teen got off the bus and kicked at it(I don't know why). Are the teens in your area out of hand?
 

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Nena: Teens are like that everywhere.. it just happens.

I remember throwing snowballs a the bus cause it was the thing to do.
World is full of disgrunteled youth, you dont' even have to be a teen to fit into that.. (Now watching my 24 year old room mate singing "Little bunny foo foo" into his microphone to his buddies on the computer game.)

The best and only way to get teens like that to shut up or be good, is buy them alcohol or let them use your house to smoke some bud, or stand up to them, and i mean REALLY stand up to them (with in reason of course, you don't want to get yourself killed).
 

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My youngest brother and younger sister are both teens. My little brother is 18 and my sis is 19. They both work full time jobs, both are very mature, and treat others well. I've never seen either one of them behave the way you guys describe.

I hate to see all teens labeled "bad" because that simply isn't true.

I also know some teens in my neighborhood who are good kids. And lets not forget that we were all teenagers once, and we probably did things to make adults think we were horrible too!!
 

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There are going to be those kinds of teenagers everywhere, but there are also alot of good ones too. I think almost every teenager acts reckless at one point in their life. I am 19 and I was not at all like that, ever. I was always mature and responsible.
 

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I was actually a pretty nice teenager. It's annoying how there are so many bad ones to give them all a bad rep.

I hate teen customers. I'm a waitress, and teens out on their own in groups are so rude. They run you around, treat you like crap, and tip terribly. One table of 6 came in late at night, made me stay late, were rude and obnoxious, complaining about work, and then left me a nickel and a penny!!!! Another table of 2 teens did the same to me, made me stay almost an hour late (which is a lot when you work a 12 hour shift to start) and left me a nickel. Argh.
 

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My stepdaughter is 17, and is the most well behaved, loveable, caring teenager I have EVER seen!!! She was only 8 when her father and I got together, and it has been a joy to see how wonderful she has turned out! Her mom has done a wonderful job of raising her! And my stepson too, who will be 12 in August...he is well mannered, and respectful. A pleasure to be around. I couldn't ask for better stepchildren. And I know alot of this is owed to their mother, who has done such a good job with them!!
 

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I will be 20 in July so technically I am still a teen. I agree that my generation can be rude and obnoxious but for every teen who is crude there is an adult or senior who is just as ill-mannered.

I agree with susieq that you can blame the kid's parent's often times. Now I am not saying a parent is responsible for their teen's actions but I think a lot of their children's problems start at home. If I EVER was disrespectful to an adult my mom or my dad would have had it out for me or if I was ever to break a rule I was in trouble. I was taught to respect other people if I ever wanted to be respected and I was taught good manners. I was also encouraged to talk about my problems with my parents so they could help me work them out.(Although I didn't always go to them first but when I had made a mess of my life they were there to help me get back on track.)

Now some of the people I hung out with in high school on the other hand could be whom most people think of when they think of teens. Rude, no regard for the law and other people's feelings, rebelious. Then when I met their families and was invited into their household I saw the puzzle come together. They had no rules, their parents never cared to talk with them, or they'd be living in tormoil with constant fighting going on around them.

Everyone goes through a rebelion stage, some more extreme than others. I went through mine and got it over with when I decided it was time to be an adult. I am lucky because I have a mom who is cool enough to talk to about tough subjects like sex, drugs and any thing else a young person faces. Unfortunatly not everyone is able to talk to their parents about things to that nature and that in itself causes a lot of problems.
 

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You seem very wise beyond your years, and VERY mature...I never would have guessed you are 19. Your mother has done a great job raising you!!!
 

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Aw shucks Debby I'm blushing!!


Thank you.... My mom would be pleased to hear that.
 

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I am a high school teacher, so I deal with teens every day, I would not do so if I did not like teenagers, but there are some days when I am perplexed by the base rudeness of students.

One of my darling dears was arrested yeaterday for credit card fraud. His mama bailed him out of jail to the tune of $15,000. I saw the kid that night hanging out with his buddies at the local hangout.


If I had ever been arrested, my parents would have left me to rot for weeks. That was the way I learned to be (I flatter myself) a decent person, but this kid has never suffered consequences for his actions. Even on the cusp of adulthood, his parents are protecting him from himself. I fear the level of destruction it will take for this person to learn how to live responsibly in the world, if he ever does.

Parents are the most important teachers in their child's life. A parent has the power to create or destroy society through his or her actions. I want to take a moment to be thankful for my parents who knew how to let me learn the hard way so that I could become a functioning adult.

ok... I am getting down from my soap box...
 

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I agree with Susieq and Badhabit about the parents often being at fault. There are some parents who just don't care and never will. My own son has always felt he could talk to me about various problems that have come up over the years. I have tried to set a good example and give him the right values. He has accepted all my values except for the one about believing in God and going to church
I talked to my minister about this one and I was told not to force my son to attend church against his will and that there is a lot of time for him to change his mind.

A lot of people blame the use of the time-out method for the attitudes that many teeneragers have. From what I have seen, this isn't a method that works well with every child.
 

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BadHabit: Dang your only 19?? Didn't figure that one.
I was a good little kid.. but from 13-16 1/2 I was just a hell child.

Then I just stopped being.. the way I was, and have become the cold bitter person I am on the outside, today

Nah, I'm actually very nice, I just have to find a person worthy of my time.

My daughter will never be the way I was as a teen, come hell or high water.

I've been arrested, after a while my parents just pretty much figured, "well, she hasn't died yet, so I guess she can take care of herself". So I've been my own teacher since then
Why I know so much about mean youths eh? ha!:tounge2:
 

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Originally posted by AngelzOO
The best and only way to get teens like that to shut up or be good, is buy them alcohol or let them use your house to smoke some bud, or stand up to them, and i mean REALLY stand up to them (with in reason of course, you don't want to get yourself killed).
Geez, no offense, but I hope my kids don't ever run into you. Sorry, but I don't consider your suggestions a solution to anything.
 

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Wait wait wait! That first statement was a JOKE (However it does work) It is a joke. As for the rest of my sentance....

Deb: You must be one of those that don't believe in that teens can learn respect.
There is nothing wrong with standing up for yourself, doesn't matter who it is, maybe you were that push over nerd, but I was that steal your lunch money bully.
 

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Angel:

I am not now, nor was I then, anybody's pushover. Exactly how are you teaching respect by buying alcohol illegally or lending out your house so somebody can get high? Sounds more like selling out to me.
 

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BadHabit: I'm glad your going back for your GED.
I went back and got mine.
I think experiance beats any book you could possibly read. But try telling that to your next employer that says "I want credientials!!"
 

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Deb: Go back and read what I said (I edited some of it) I thought you were refering only to the 'stand up for yourself' I completely forgot I even said the drinking/drugs thing cause it was a joke.
 

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It sounds like you had parents who just didn't care at all. That's very sad.

Megh
My son got arrested just once and I did what I always said I would...I refused to interfere with the legal system. My son learned his lesson and has become a better person because of it.
 

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Well, Angel, I am of the mind that teens can be taught respect: the lessons start when they are kids. That's also when they learn to stand up for themselves.
 
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