I'm sorry but I need to vent

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WoooHoooo Im there!!! Now let me see.... whats missing from this party menu...?????... Wait I know!!!! MARSHMALLOWS!!!!!!
... hey anyone got an open fire here so we can roast 'em?!?!?!?
(the Mallows that is... not the hubby's...)
 

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You know, I really hate andrea but I also don't know her. I am too angry and even tho' he wants me to meet her, I just don't want to be picked up for assault and battery because we got introduced and I freaked. I know I am this angry, and I don't want to be around her. It wouldn't be good for anybody.

Anyway, the thing is, she makes him happy - even our daughter has told me this - and my daughter likes her. So I really wish she was a, um, jerk but there's a strong possibility she isn't. Doesn't mean I like her.

As far as my daughter, the only thing she knows is that I dont like the woman. She did ask me why once, and I said that sometimes people just don't like each other, and that it was okay for daddy and I to have different friends, we don't have to like each other's friends. I don't see any reason to start using words like "homewrecker" even tho' I feel that way. I don't think this marriage of his is going to last very long (based on past history that includes me but isn't limited to my marriage) but there is always the possibility that this woman will be around for several years and my anger is no reason to put my daughter in the position of feeling guilty for liking her dad's wife.

And even though it's only 10 a.m. where I am, I sure could use another jello shot! Everything has gone wrong from the start today!
 

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I think we are doing a pretty good job of roasting the hubbys as it is! :tounge2:

Maybe we should turn this into a weekend getaway instead of just a party.

Sunlion - My heart goes out to you girl. You really deserve some happiness coming your way in very short order.

I didn't want to say anything about the whole housework issue in my first post since it would have been way too long, but since we are still venting....this is one issue that drives me nuts!!!

I work full time. I bring home almost all of the money. He works retail, which means he basically isn't working right now. But do you think he can even pick things up? NOOOOO! Can he even find a trash can or bag even if it is less than 2 feet from him? NOOOO! Can he possibly do anything around the house while he sits there all day long? NOOOO! Somehow, I am expected to work full time, plus overtime to pay the bills, which are too high since he can't give up his cell phone or any of the channels on the satellite, AND clean the house, take care of the kitties (feed, water, litter, etc.) and figure out how we can have the extra money for his toys.

He does have his good qualities, too. He does cook dinner for me every night!

Hmmmm...what else can I bring to the party?!?! I can bring POP TARTS!!! LOL OK, well if it's a girl's weekend I'll bring a homemade cheesecake.
 

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Tig - I do tell him to piss off!

I do have to admit he is really good around the house. We divide the chores evenly and he always does the cooking!
 

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Listen here Heidi!! You just CANNOT mention PopTarts like that and they say you'll bring cheescake instead!!!
You MUST bring them both now..... no no... don't complain... its your own doing.... only fair.... don't toy with my emotions like that... :LOL:

You know what bugs me?? (yes... something else!! haha) That if we gals have a day off work, we're EXPECTED to have cleaned the house and tidied up etc... but somehow... when the blokes have a day off work.. its a "holiday" which somehow works out meaning they shouldn't have to do a darn thing??!?! Not sure how that works....
:LOL:

(bless... of course they all must have good qualities too ... or none of us would've married/moved in with 'em right?!?! I guess they're not all bad.....
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All the guys on the board are probably running for cover now! LOL This is a good release though. What I don't understand is when we are sick, and can't get out of bed, we HAVE to anyway, because he can't find the toaster, or the eggs, or where are his shirts? All I get is "sorry you have the feel-bad's...." but does he help around the house? NOPE! Oh, but he does manage to pour his own diet soda before going to plop on the couch!


But, he is a good guy really.He puts up with my passion for animals, and even though he says we can't take another animal, everytime I do, he gives me very little grief about it. I just wish he wouldn't be such an impulsive spender when there are other more important ways to put our money.

Oh, and I made my Bananna Split Cake yesterday, so I will bring that to the party

:tounge2: :tounge2: :tounge2: :tounge2: :tounge2: :tounge2: :tounge2:
 

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Don't worry Rhea! I'll bring both!
We only deserve the best, right??

You are so right about days off! It isn't fair, I tell you! We should strike! But then again, if we strike, we would only have to clean up a bigger mess when we get sick of it...
 

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Ya know what? In reading all of the posts on this thread, I've discovered something. ALL men are exactly alike! It is really strange. In looking at your posts, I see MY s/o in them. He is a wonderful person don't get me wrong, but on HIS days off he goes and plays disc golf and goes out with his friends. But when I have the day off, I have to clean the house(unless we are off together, then I can let it slide), pay the bills, do laundry ya know the usual s**t.
But I have to admit that he sometimes cleans the fish tanks(once a week) but come on. I have never seen him do a load of laundry since we got the washer(4 years ago) and he never loads or unloads the dishwasher. He DOES cook though, a task I am not very good at..
There are a couple of things that really bother me about him though. One is he NEVER replaces the toilet paper when it runs out! OHHHHHHH! does that ever tick me off! we have a small bathroom and the tp dispenser is right next to the potty but noooo it is easier to reach BEHIND you to the top of the toilet to get some not to the side of you! and the other thing is I wanted him to at least put his clothes IN the laundry basket in the bedroom. Well that doesn't work either! He puts them right in FRONT of it (ya know like two inches) and can't seem to muster that extra omph it takes to get the clothes into the basket.
As for the sick thing, he had the nerve to tell me one day that he was out of pants when I just got off of work and had the flu and was dying on the couch. So ya know what I told him? either do some laundry or buy some new ones cause I am NOT your mom!
He runs a Liquor store though, do we need anymore booze??? I can get some free! chips and pretzels too!
 

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I don't have any men problems. Allison. I know its hard to be in a divorce. I am fairly new at it too. My ex had always complained about my working minimum wage jobs, and that I spend my money on groceries, clothes for the kids, and my necesities. Yet, WHO is driving a 95 Mitsubishi Eclipse? WHO is shopping for expensive clothes? WHO just bought a satelite dish?

But I do have a complain. The manager's son. Everyday, I come in and there is a mess that nobody cleans. I am the only one who thoroughly cleans the bathroom. The manager's son is not even 21 and when another employeee has to leave to take care of errands, I can't leave the manager's son unattended. Dan is so whiny! He hates his job(I don't know why sticks around.) The other day, a Mexican woman came in to pay for her gas and some snack. The total was 18.79. She only had a $100 bill. Now, when costumers pay with $100 they have to wait ten minutes or so for the safe to drop the change. 7-11 only has $30 in the till. The rest is put back in the safe. The safe has a code that employees use when change is needed. But Dan told her it takes an hour an a half to get the change! I know that is not true! The customer got pissed. She was tired and hungry and had jsut gotten off work. Dan either told her to go get change at a bank nearby or wait an hour an a half. Then Dan sent her to me since I
speak spanish. I gently told her why this happens. To prevent
a robbery. I calmy told her that she dosen't have to wait that long. That it really takes ten minutes or so. The employee just has a nasty attitude. I was able to calm her down and her husband came in and I told him the same thing. I really want tell Dan what I really think of him and because of him, our store could lose customers and sales.

Hey girls, can I come? I can bring Poptarts, slurpees, hotdogs, burritos, and tequila.




Hey
 

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Since the party is at my place
, sure, bring the marshmallows and other items for grilling/barbecuing. I have a balcony and live on the top floor so the smoke can just float to the sky (shh...don't tell management...and don't mention my contraband cat either
).

I'm still in a bit of a foul mood so I'm not even going to get into the S/O-Husband debate!

HAPPY FRIDAY!!!

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I just got back from Wal Mart and sitting in front of the door was this dirty, scummy looking family with two kids and two boxes. One full of puppies, one full of kittens!
My hubby quickly grabbed my elbow, placed his hand over my eyes and steered me quickly past them! It's not only the animals that need to be sterilized but some people should as well. I did see the kittens were very sickly looking, what a surprise. The pups looked liked rottie pit bulls mix..sigh......glad there is a vent board right now.
 

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i'll bring the brownies.


i can vent too...my hubby pulled some majorly dumb stuff this week. like not keeping track of his spending. so our car payment is late!!!!!!!!!
then he was a total crab the last couple days, like my $4 purchase at the dollar store was the reason we couldn't buy any food.
i have been pretty p***d off at him. and there's the usual lazy-man-about-the-house stuff (being a drama queen about cleaning up before making lunch today, like *i* never have to do the dishes).

AAARRRRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i'll bring brownies and coronas....and 3 neutered males.
 
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Mmmmm all this talk about food is making me hungry. I could go for a piece of cheesecake.....**drools**

Hissy, about the scene at wal-mart... That would have made me angry beyond belief. When will people learn? That's almost as bad as advertising free kittens or free dog to good home. It's a magnet for animal abusers and irresponsible owners.
 

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Well since we are venting here...I have one.....even though we are expecting a baby soon, my hubby thought it would be a good idea to buy my stepson who is 11, a 2,000 dollar dirt bike!!! Then he has the NERVE to complain about all the money I am spending on the baby stuff!!!!!
 

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Oh Debby that sucks! Sorry but it does. You know what they say about men and their toys.....guess he wants his "little man" to start out early collecting those. That money could go a long way in the upcoming expenses you both will be facing soon. Sometimes, I believe men don't think about the consequences of their actions.
 
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Ugh! That's another thing Brian wants to buy, a dirt bike. How about saving your money hmm? He acts like he never gets anything he wants and any free time he has he spends it playing computer games. So if I ask him to do something that cuts into computer time it's awful!!

He never wants to do anything. Never wants to go out or do anything recreational and is fine with us sitting back to back on each other's computers. I get so jealous listening to friends talk about what they did with their husbands and such and how much fun they had. **sighs** I wanted a homebody but not a computerbody....
 

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Men definitely don't think about the consequences of their actions. They remain little boys forever. And I thought that was just a phase.

I really can't complain about money and my S/O. Most of the time, he hands over whatever he makes, and I deal with the bills, etc. Every once in a while he loans money to a friend, and it's usually when we could use it, too. His friends always pay him back, but that is not the point.

Did you ever wonder if a man can use a phone? Sometimes Dan goes out after work, and ends up at a friend's house. I wake up at 3 am, wondering where he is. Does he call? Of course not. Well he does now, most of the time, but it took years of training for him to do this.

I think men have a different time frame than women, too. Did you ever hear these words: I'll be right back. It's like the kiss of death. As soon as I hear that, I know it will be at least 2 hours before I see him, usually 4 or more.
 

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Jessica - you have one of those computer geeks too? (Not that they are really geeks, just computer addicts!)
Bren - I get the same time frame, only he's just in the other room on the computer. At least I know where he is, I guess. I ask him when he's coming to bed at like 10:30. "Couple minutes. I'm really tired!" Then 2:30 or so rolls around and he's still on the computer. Sometimes it's IRC chat, sometimes games, but always the computer!

Didn't you girls know??? There are no consequences! Spend all they want, we will take care of the bills and all that.

A friend of mine told me this one time...Do you know why women have big hips and larger derriers? Because men expect us to pull everything out of our butts!

:LOL: :LOL:
 

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I had to get in on the venting too. My soon to be ex, god is he a s**thead, he thinks that women should do everything. He sat on his big butt (298 pounds of it) and watched me do everything and then when I started complaining about, boy did I hear it. Well, he has finally moved out and I still hear it no matter what. He doesn't stop screaming at me. Even though I am not with him. Yesterday My girls bedroom ceiling caved in literally. Thank God they weren't in there.
Do you think he could do something, no of course not, he takes a cab here and then b****es about it, through cleaning it up. He shouldn't be working for the landlord, then he wouldn't have had to be here. Then not to mention he starts about my cat and their babies because one of them had just done his duty and I was more worried about getting the ceiling cleaned up than take a duty out of the litter box. Oh well, to bad so sad. Anyway when we were together all I heard is how he wanted this and that and the other. When I said we don't have it boy did world war III start over and over again. Men are just that men and they all became little babies when they want something and you pay hell when they don't get it.

I will bring the flat Dr. Pepper, don't drink sorry, Gastroplasty won't let me 132 Pounds and counting.
 

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This isn't about men, but I am just curious...Shaleela, what is Gastroplasty? I have heard the word, but not sure what it means.
 
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