Originally Posted by jcat
I have some problems with a few of the statements you've made here. How long have you been married? 2+ years? How do you know that your marriage will last? Do you really believe that being submissive is any guarantee for a long marriage? I've been married for almost 26 years, and most of my "crowd" married around the same time I did. A lot of my family members married at the same age. There have been a few divorces, and without exception, they've been couples where the female submitted, i.e., believed early on that her spouse had the right to make the "important" decisions. Five, ten, or fifteen years down the line, they, meaning the women, felt that they'd made the wrong choice. Important decisions, e.g., career moves, buying a house, having a child, should be reached mutually, even if it means fights/discord. Otherwise, you're just creating a fertile breeding ground for resentment.
We have been married for nearly four years now and we dated for a year before getting married, how do i know it will last? i just do in my heart, my husband believes that once you marry that's it, he doesn't believe in divorce, his parents have never had any problems and he is a lot like them, it's very hard to explain but we are very close, we tell each other everything and he is always on my side, to him i always come before everyone else as in our vows 'I will never forsake you for any other'
yes, some women might come to resent it but i never will, what would really hurt me is if i was with a man who didn't take charge, i couldn't be with someone like that, i don't want to make the big decisions and i never have wanted to, i love my husband and i love obeying him, there is nothing more rewarding for me than to make my husband happy or to see him smile when i do something that pleases him, i know a lot of women can't seem to understand that but it works for my husband and i.
relationships back when all women submitted to their husbands lasted a lot longer than the one's today, women today seem to absolutely hate the idea of 'submitting to any man' many of them probably have not even tried it so how can they say it's a bad thing? many women iv'e heard say those words are single, if that's what they want that's fine by me but don't turn around and tell me that my way of life probably won't work when you don't fully understand it.
my husband is a wonderful and romantic man, he writes me poems, hugs, kisses and holds my hand all the time, even in public, he's funny, kind and almost everyone who meets him likes him instantly, he's also so understanding and i can tell him anything without worrying what he might think of me, he's never violent and he treats me with the utmost respect, all my friends and family comment on our marriage and say how wonderful we are together, especially because we are so affectionate and obviously very close even after so much time.
i respect that for some women the idea of submitting to a man is a horrible thought but for me it's fantastic and my marriage is only getting better everyday, it may not work for everyone but it works very well for me and i wouldn't have it any other way.