Dieing cat.

anony · Mar 19, 2006

Im so sad right now, i dont really even know how to type this post.
My cat is 16-17 years old and i am 16, meaning my cat is older than i am. i grew up with my cat and he has been my best friend for a long long time. about a month ago he started having breathing problems so we took him into the vet and found out he had a tumor growing under his asophagis and its collapsing his assophagus or somthing (not sure of specifics) so now he walks around the house squeaking and whenever he purs he starts to hurt. i wanted to console him so bad but i cant, im bawling my brains out now, because he cant eat, if he tries he cant breathe and stops. were having the vet come and put him to sleep tomorrow we even made a casket for him. HOW DO I GET THROUGH THIS. I WANT MY CAT!!! what can i do to distract myself from my best friend dyeing!!!??????????????

blueyes · Mar 19, 2006

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this, it is really hard to loose a pet that his been a member of the family, especially, for so long. We have lost two cats in the past few years to old age along with health complications. Its not a pleasant experience but it is an unavoidable part of life. Try to feel comfort in the fact that you have provided a happy and loving home for your kitty for all these years. Understand, that if he is suffering you are doing the best thing for him by putting him down. It is a hard thing to do but you will get through it. Just think of all the good times you had, remember that when you start to feel bad and you will feel a little better. My thoughts are with you and your kitty.

gardenandcats · Mar 20, 2006

I'm so very sorry to hear about your cat. It is a very very hard thing to have to do.But know in your heart that you are doing the right thing for your cat. I know how much you will miss him. Hugs for you..

pombina · Mar 20, 2006

I am so sorry for you Anony, losing a pet you've had your whole life is so hard. I felt like this when my dog was put to sleep a few years ago. After a while you will accept that you did the best thing for your little friend and put an end to his pain, which he will be forever thankful for.
Why don't you go to the Crossing the bridge forum and read about other peoples stories and share about your cat.

miss mew · Mar 20, 2006

I'm very sorry to hear of your cat's situation. You have come to the right place to talk to others that have been through similiar situations, we all understand that they aren't just pets but very important members of our families. Many hugs to you

goldenkitty45 · Mar 20, 2006

I know how you feel. I didn't want to take my 13 yr old cat (1st cat) to the vet because he had cancer and went from a healthy 14 lbs to a skelaton of 6-7 lbs. But I knew it was time to make that decision.

I cried for months and still cry a bit when I think of him. I didn't want him to suffer any more.

Right now we have a 15 yr old rex who I know his time will be within a few years. He still eats/drinks, and uses the litter pan, but he's lost weight. Until he isn't able to get around or seems to be in pain, we will love him and when I feel he's ready, he'll either die peacefully in his sleep (ideal) or we'll have to take him to the vet one more time.

Try your best to think more on the happier times. Your kitty will meet you at the Rainbow Bridge.

crittergirl · Mar 20, 2006

I know just how you feel. I lost one of my best friends in January of 2005 and have a 14 year old that is starting to show the signs of getting feeble. Unfortunately they do not outlive us. You gave your baby a safe and loving home. Do check out the Rainbow Bridge forum when you feel up to it.
We are all here to help you through this.

ginnyp · Mar 20, 2006

There are many here who've lost their beloved pets and are crying with you right now.

Your cat knows you love him very much and will miss him forever.

He's going to a better place where he'll be free of pain and will be watching over you and waiting for you.

Even then, losing him will be very difficult to accept, especially you being so young and having had him your whole life. Everyone here will wrap their arms around you. I'm praying for you and sending

.

cflynt · Mar 20, 2006

Originally Posted by Anony

what can i do to distract myself from my best friend dyeing!!!??????????????

If you do not already have some pictures of him, take at least one,
right now.

While he's still around, love him just as much you can. Tell him that
you love him - don't feel foolish, just talk to him. Tell him that it's
okay, you'll be ok after you've mourned. That this is something that
humans do, and it's a price we pay for loving as much as we do.
Let him -- and yourself -- know that you'll never stop loving him.

Then, when he's gone, let yourself hurt. The only thing that really
lessens the pain is to feel it, so let it be what it is. Look at your
pictures. Write him a letter, that you can add to each day, and
write about both the pain you feel now, and all the happy memories
you have of him. Write his story, from your earliest memories to the
last day.

There's a wonderful place that does on-line chats for people
mourning their lost pets: It's called "The Association for Pet Loss
and Bereavement" Their web page is at http://www.aplb.org.
Click on the button at the bottom of the home page letter, where the
counter for visitors is. From there you can see the menu on the left
side of the page. Click on "chat rooms;" from there you can see
when they have chats you can join. You have to join them first and
get an ID from them -- but then you can chat with bereavement
counselors and others who are in your same position. It really helped
me two months ago when all I could keep saying -- no, SCREAMING --
was "I want Tigger BACK!!!!!!!" (And I'm 52, so it's not just because
you're young, either.) This is all cost free, and truly a big help.

The following may or may not help you, but I offer it in good
faith: Cats really do understand death in a different way than
we do. They have a closer-to-the-earth understanding of the
cycle of life. They tend to accept death, particularly if they are
suffering in life, as a natural relief. They sometimes just hold on for
us, because they love us. After, they don't leave the ones who loved
them so much. I know this for a fact. If you can't accep that (and
not everyone can ...) think of it this way: the pain you feel is in direct proportion to the amount you loved him, and the part of your heart he
filled. As long as you continue to love him and remember him, he will
never truly be gone. Not for you.

And you will always have the knowledge from all the lessons he
taught you.

Know that we all really understand, because we have been and are
in the same boat with you. And still we choose to have animals
as companions, because they are worth it every time.

Come here and talk whenever you need it. I'm leaving on vacation in
a few minutes and will be off-line for a while, but others here will
pitch in.

Bless you and your friend!

Carol

anony · Mar 20, 2006

Originally Posted by cflynt

If you do not already have some pictures of him, take at least one,
right now.

While he's still around, love him just as much you can. Tell him that
you love him - don't feel foolish, just talk to him. Tell him that it's
okay, you'll be ok after you've mourned. That this is something that
humans do, and it's a price we pay for loving as much as we do.
Let him -- and yourself -- know that you'll never stop loving him.

Then, when he's gone, let yourself hurt. The only thing that really
lessens the pain is to feel it, so let it be what it is. Look at your
pictures. Write him a letter, that you can add to each day, and
write about both the pain you feel now, and all the happy memories
you have of him. Write his story, from your earliest memories to the
last day.

There's a wonderful place that does on-line chats for people
mourning their lost pets: It's called "The Association for Pet Loss
and Bereavement" Their web page is at http://www.aplb.org.
Click on the button at the bottom of the home page letter, where the
counter for visitors is. From there you can see the menu on the left
side of the page. Click on "chat rooms;" from there you can see
when they have chats you can join. You have to join them first and
get an ID from them -- but then you can chat with bereavement
counselors and others who are in your same position. It really helped
me two months ago when all I could keep saying -- no, SCREAMING --
was "I want Tigger BACK!!!!!!!" (And I'm 52, so it's not just because
you're young, either.) This is all cost free, and truly a big help.

The following may or may not help you, but I offer it in good
faith: Cats really do understand death in a different way than
we do. They have a closer-to-the-earth understanding of the
cycle of life. They tend to accept death, particularly if they are
suffering in life, as a natural relief. They sometimes just hold on for
us, because they love us. After, they don't leave the ones who loved
them so much. I know this for a fact. If you can't accep that (and
not everyone can ...) think of it this way: the pain you feel is in direct proportion to the amount you loved him, and the part of your heart he
filled. As long as you continue to love him and remember him, he will
never truly be gone. Not for you.

And you will always have the knowledge from all the lessons he
taught you.

Know that we all really understand, because we have been and are
in the same boat with you. And still we choose to have animals
as companions, because they are worth it every time.

Come here and talk whenever you need it. I'm leaving on vacation in
a few minutes and will be off-line for a while, but others here will
pitch in.

Bless you and your friend!

Carol

thanks, this post helped me alot, along with all the rest. im waiting now for the dreaded doorbell from the vet. im trying to spend the last few hours i can with my cat.

batgirl2good · Mar 20, 2006

Oh, I am so sorry that this is happening to you. You and your kitty are in my prayers.

AbbysMom · Mar 20, 2006

That post made me cry. I'm so sorry you are going though this. I lost my Molly a little over a year ago, and I still miss her. Slowly, the good memories, will take over from the bad.

You are doing the right thing by spending all your time with him now and letting him know how much he is loved.

lakeriedog · Mar 20, 2006

I am so very sorry about your kitty, it is very hard to say goodbye to our feline family members. I hope that you can find comfort in knowing that your kitty will suffer no more.

pui hang · Mar 20, 2006

Your post and Carol's post brought back memories of losing Mittens in November and made me cry

My heart goes out to you at this impossibly sad time

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