Desperate in Michigan

I have a 7 mth. old Female, Dory, who has just recently started her heat cycle ~ 3x in the last month and since this, she has been peeing outside of her litterbox ~ carpet, blankets, and the brand new sofa! My husband has had enough and says its time for her to go ~ I don't want to lose her, she is my baby!! I'm desperate for some advice ~ how can I change my husbands mind!!

Unless you have a very good reason for not spaying Dory, such as your being an ethical, committed breeder who has put in the time and research to breed responsibly, having her fixed will not only stop the problems you're experiencing, it will be better for her health overall.

Get her spayed! Simple. This is very important and will solve these issues almost immediately.

Easy, by calling the vet and getting her spayed. Females in heat will spray - not all but you are finding out you have one that does.

If she's been in heat 3 x in one month, you are increasing her risk of cancer by not spaying her or breeding her. So for her health and to stop her spraying, get her to the vet to be spayed.

Oh my word get the poor cat spayed! Then you won't have to give her away. I hope there is no problem but I would have thought your vet would have suggested this before now, since she is 7 months old already.

Thanks everyone for your responses!!
Yes! I know that she needs to be spayed and the vet has talked to me about it, I believe in spaying & neutering! My husband on the other hand, see's it as "more money I have to spend on them d@#$ cats. I am just sick!! I have to find her a home today or he will!!

Originally Posted by pandory

Thanks everyone for your responses!!
Yes! I know that she needs to be spayed and the vet has talked to me about it, I believe in spaying & neutering! My husband on the other hand, see's it as "more money I have to spend on them d@#$ cats. I am just sick!!

I have to find her a home today or he will!!

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You might be able to find a free spay clinic in your area.

I don't know your husband, but he should have had the sense to know that along with having pets comes financial resposibililty.

I hope everything works out.

Originally Posted by pandory

Thanks everyone for your responses!!
Yes! I know that she needs to be spayed and the vet has talked to me about it, I believe in spaying & neutering! My husband on the other hand, see's it as "more money I have to spend on them d@#$ cats. I am just sick!!

I have to find her a home today or he will!!

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You poor thing!

How did you obtain Dory? Check your local shelters, such as the human society or the city shelter. If you found Dory, as in adoption through not finding the owner or she was feral, often times you can get a discount through the HS for spaying.
If your local shelter doesn't offer this, ask them for a vet with reasonable prices.

We got Dory from a friend of our Daughter.
I am in the process of searching for a Clinic with a low cost spay ~trying to find some type of program out there that will help with it financially, because there is no way my husband will pay for the cost that our regular vet charges, and since we have 2 females that need it done...

Note: My husband is the sole bread winner of the home

Where in Michigan are you? Maybe I can help you find a place.

I can certainly sympathize, as my ex was the very same way.
I simply opted not to keep pets during that time.
It depressed me, but not as much as not being able to do the right thing by my kitties.

I do not envy you, and I do not wish to sound harsh, but perhaps it would be best if you did not keep any pets if your husband feels the way he does?

I do hope you can find a clinic that will help you as I know you do not wish to lose your kitties.

That is awful for you. No offence but why did your husband adopt a kitty if he wasn't willing to fork out on vets bills? If she got really sick and needed treatment what would he do?
I really feel for you and I hope you manage to find somewhere low cost or free for your baby.

That doesn't make any sense, he's putting you and him in a no-win situation. He doesn't want to fork out the money to have her spayed but he's going to force you to get rid of her if she doesn't stop? It seems to me that he's exercising a lot of control over you because he controls the finances. Maybe suggest that you'll pay him back at a later date?

This is simply awful. It's very frustrating to me sometimes how some people really have no regard for animals. Doesn't your husband love the kitty too?

There must be a vet somewhere around there that will offer a payment plan..It's not all that much to get a kitty spayed..(in Canada anyway).

I really feel for you, it must be really hard.

(Good thing my kitty comes before my boyfriend..maybe once we get married it will be the other way around..but right now..she's my favorite

This is terrible...I am so sorry for you. If he were my husband, I'd be showing him the door, but that's just me (and yes, I'm dead serious about that. If my hubby couldn't respect my animals and their needs- because they are such a huge part of my life and who I am-, then I'd wonder about how committed he was to me and my needs. But that's just me and I am by no means suggesting you divorce him.)

This might be out of the question, but is there any way you could get a part time job somewhere? That way, you'd make just enough to support kitty and her bills and your husband wouldn't be upset about forking his money over to a vet.

In the mean time, call around to humane societies and see if they'll spay her for free, or if you can work off your debt by volunteering.

Originally Posted by crittergirl

Where in Michigan are you? Maybe I can help you find a place.

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I live in Berrien County, Michigan ~ I found out that our local Animal Aid has a rebate offer going right now for any pet that gets fixed now till June 2006, now I am calling the local Animal Clinics to see which one offers the most reasonable price.

This might be out of the question, but is there any way you could get a part time job somewhere?

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I am in the process of trying to get disability due to arthritis and a chronic pain condition.

perhaps it would be best if you did not keep any pets if your husband feels the way he does?

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He wouldn't get rid of the dog, (I couldn't let the dog go), the cats belong to me & our daughter, and I hand fed the dove when it was just a couple of weeks old, can't get rid of it either ~ as you can tell, I love my animals ~ I will find a way to get Dory & Pan spayed, even if I have to sell his golf clubs!!

Thanks everyone for you care and concern!!

that would teach him a lesson...golfing is an expensive sport. Check with Detroit Humane Society they sometimes run specials too. Hope you find somene willing to help

I am sure your husband is very nice. You will just have to work on him *grin

Dory is still here!! I am still working on trying to find a Vet clinic with a reasonable fee for spaying 2 cats ~ I have quite a few phone calls to make tomorrow!!
A little about my Cats.
Dory is the sweetest cat, with a very humorous personality and quite the acrobatic. She loves to snoozle. Pan is my cat, she doesn't like anyone petting or holding her, but me!! She spends most of her days snoozing on my computer desk or watching the wild birds at the window, she never messes with my dove though. They both get along well with our dog, Zeus (110 lb. Yellow Lab)

Glad to hear that you still have Dory! I live in Allegan County (really close to Van Buren county) Let me know and I will research as to where you can go.