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He's being a tool (short vent)

post #1 of 14
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Okay, in a nutshell...
We have a 4 month old son and my husband travels a lot for work. I sometimes feel like I'm raising him myself. Anyhoo, he is gone this week (left on Tues. and comes back Sun.) and he's home till Sat. So I thought he would want to spend time with Brandon and I. Well, told him that my parents are going to watch Brandon on Thurs. so he and I could go out and he said can't we do it Friday (he wants to be able to go out with his friends instead I am mad and really hurt. By the way, did I mention I also have a cast on my left hand. Okay, I feel a little better now. Thanks in advance for listening.
post #2 of 14
Have you told him how you feel? Sometimes men don't pick up on the same things we woman do.......and they don't seem to be the emotional creatures we are! Perhaps he just didn't think about it?? Good luck and I hope you can work it out with him!
post #3 of 14
Yikes, I'd be mad too. I'd say it's time for a little talk so he knows you need his attention too!
post #4 of 14
Thread Starter 
I told him, and he did apologize, but it still hurts. Especially since we just had a big fight about how Brandon barely knows him and about he and I spending time together. He talks about having some time just for him. I haven't had any time for myself since...oh wait, I can't remember when.
post #5 of 14
Awww Laura... Brent looks like good guy and you both look so happy in that photo you posted. I hope this strain doesn't last through the weekend.
post #6 of 14
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Originally Posted by Hydroaxe
Awww Laura... Brent looks like good guy and you both look so happy in that photo you posted. I hope this strain doesn't last through the weekend.
I'd like to break my foot off in his...well, hopefully it won't. Thanks
post #7 of 14
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Originally Posted by goosehazel
I'd like to break my foot off in his...well, hopefully it won't. Thanks
Ouch!!!
post #8 of 14
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Originally Posted by Hydroaxe
Ouch!!!
I hope everything goes alright!
post #9 of 14
Well Laura, put in your situation, I'd be hurt too. There's nothing wrong with a guy having an occasional night out with his friends, but gees, he has a son and wife that he never sees..........I hope he can see this and you guys can have the wonderful weekend that you were hoping for.
post #10 of 14
Hopefully it all works out for you Laura. Men can be so dense sometimes lol. I'd be hurt too.....
post #11 of 14
Yeah, I'd be a little upset. But as long as he really does set Friday aside as a date night, if it were me I wouldn't mind too much. In fact, I'd see if you could get a babysitter for both nights, Thursday and Friday, and use Thursday for either a girls' night out or alone time (NO HOUSEWORK ALLOWED). And hey, maybe then Friday will be even more relaxing since you will both have had some time to de-stress from your normal routine.

If, however, he had some excuse to get out of Friday—well, then I'd be peeved.
post #12 of 14
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Originally Posted by kittylover4ever
Well Laura, put in your situation, I'd be hurt too. There's nothing wrong with a guy having an occasional night out with his friends, but gees, he has a son and wife that he never sees..........I hope he can see this and you guys can have the wonderful weekend that you were hoping for.
I remember those days... being alone with a baby and your husband being gone - doesn't take much for the lonely blues to set in.

I LOVE your siggy btw
post #13 of 14
Ugh, sounds like you are having a hard time of it.

I guess one thing to remember is that your hormones are probably still affecting your moods. Having a baby (which I've done a few times) is the biggest hormonal swing you will ever experience. With my 10 y/o dd, I swear I was a little psychotic! LOL! So maybe something that normally you would take in stride, will send you over the edge now.

Also, while you are home feeling sort of trapped, (although I'm sure mostly your baby is a great addition) your dh may be feeling kind of trapped too. A baby is a big change for both of you, and for your relationship.

I hope you have fun this weekend, and get your date. Take some time before dh leaves again to explain your needs to him. It is hard enough for men to understand us, let alone when they are going through changes, too.

My first dh was in the Navy...I remember how hard it was with a little baby all day, all by myself. Hugs to you. Your baby is adorable !
post #14 of 14
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Originally Posted by jeanor
I remember those days... being alone with a baby and your husband being gone - doesn't take much for the lonely blues to set in.

I LOVE your siggy btw
Thanks for the siggy compliment eva-loves-cats did it for me. She does great work. And you're right, it doesn't take much to get the blues.

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Originally Posted by Beckiboo
Also, while you are home feeling sort of trapped, (although I'm sure mostly your baby is a great addition) your dh may be feeling kind of trapped too. A baby is a big change for both of you, and for your relationship.
Hugs to you. Your baby is adorable !
Thanks At least RSV season is almost over and it is getting warmer so we will be able to get out more.
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