I really need some help with this so any type of advice will surely help!
I have a 4 year old female Calico cat. For starters, she HATES my boyfriend. She will not let him near her, she hisses, growls and even attacks him if he gets close. We started dating when she was still a kitten so she grew up knowing him. So there is the start of her aggressive behavior. As she became an 'adult' her aggression became worse and more severe. She won't let anyone near her, she's very jumpy, and she runs and hides at any hint of motion or noise. I would say that when she was about 1 1/2 - 2 years old, she started to be aggressive towards me. Yes, me! Her owner! If I got close to her, she'd hiss. Then it got worse, she'd start to growl. This has been going on and on and on and now she's 4 and she is starting to act like she is going to strike me. I'm in no way afraid of her and I'll grab her in mid hiss, growl and preimptive (??sp) strike. I know that isn't good but I have literally tried EVERYTHING! I took her to my Vet when I noticed her aggressive behavior turning towards me for a "behavioral test". I told the Vet everything she was doing and she wanted to put her to sleep right then and there. I wasn't gonna let that happen so I got a 2nd opinion where that Vet said that I should just leave her alone. There has been no changes in the house, her food hasn't changed, so there is no reason for this aggression. Thing is, I got a cat to be a cat. To play with and be my pal, not to hiss and growl at me. She shouldn't be doing that, I am her owner. I didn't get her from a shelter or anything. My cousins live on a farm and their cat was having kittens so I held her in my hand when she was a baby and came right back out there when she was old enough to be adopted. Her mother doesn't even act that way. None of her siblings do either. She acts almost feral at times which is weird. Anyways, she goes into this aggressive behavior for a while then snaps out of it and she is fine, then goes right back into it. Its very mind boggeling because she and I are VERY close. She is my study partner, my friend, and she is always around me all day then out of nowhere she withdraws and becomes VERY aggressive towards me. Here is a typical example, I will be petting her, she will be purring and looking at me, and me looking at her and everything will be fine and normal. Then, all of the sudden, her purring will stop, her eyes will get bigger then she cowers down and hisses and starts to growl. I have no idea what to do with her. It's impossible to have a cat that won't let you near it. I can't give her away because no one will take her, she'll hiss and all if a stranger even comes near her. I can't take her to the shelter because she cannot be adopted and will be put down at the first sign of aggression (which is almost instantly), and I heard that since a cat grew up inside, you can't put them outside. So there goes that. I really love her but I don't know what to do. She acts like she's been a horribly abused cat when in all actually, she has the best life of any cat I know. So I am seeking any type of advice. Thanks!
I have a 4 year old female Calico cat. For starters, she HATES my boyfriend. She will not let him near her, she hisses, growls and even attacks him if he gets close. We started dating when she was still a kitten so she grew up knowing him. So there is the start of her aggressive behavior. As she became an 'adult' her aggression became worse and more severe. She won't let anyone near her, she's very jumpy, and she runs and hides at any hint of motion or noise. I would say that when she was about 1 1/2 - 2 years old, she started to be aggressive towards me. Yes, me! Her owner! If I got close to her, she'd hiss. Then it got worse, she'd start to growl. This has been going on and on and on and now she's 4 and she is starting to act like she is going to strike me. I'm in no way afraid of her and I'll grab her in mid hiss, growl and preimptive (??sp) strike. I know that isn't good but I have literally tried EVERYTHING! I took her to my Vet when I noticed her aggressive behavior turning towards me for a "behavioral test". I told the Vet everything she was doing and she wanted to put her to sleep right then and there. I wasn't gonna let that happen so I got a 2nd opinion where that Vet said that I should just leave her alone. There has been no changes in the house, her food hasn't changed, so there is no reason for this aggression. Thing is, I got a cat to be a cat. To play with and be my pal, not to hiss and growl at me. She shouldn't be doing that, I am her owner. I didn't get her from a shelter or anything. My cousins live on a farm and their cat was having kittens so I held her in my hand when she was a baby and came right back out there when she was old enough to be adopted. Her mother doesn't even act that way. None of her siblings do either. She acts almost feral at times which is weird. Anyways, she goes into this aggressive behavior for a while then snaps out of it and she is fine, then goes right back into it. Its very mind boggeling because she and I are VERY close. She is my study partner, my friend, and she is always around me all day then out of nowhere she withdraws and becomes VERY aggressive towards me. Here is a typical example, I will be petting her, she will be purring and looking at me, and me looking at her and everything will be fine and normal. Then, all of the sudden, her purring will stop, her eyes will get bigger then she cowers down and hisses and starts to growl. I have no idea what to do with her. It's impossible to have a cat that won't let you near it. I can't give her away because no one will take her, she'll hiss and all if a stranger even comes near her. I can't take her to the shelter because she cannot be adopted and will be put down at the first sign of aggression (which is almost instantly), and I heard that since a cat grew up inside, you can't put them outside. So there goes that. I really love her but I don't know what to do. She acts like she's been a horribly abused cat when in all actually, she has the best life of any cat I know. So I am seeking any type of advice. Thanks!