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post #31 of 46
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Originally Posted by booktigger
Sorry if I am talking out of turn, but as your kids are old enough to understand things, you might have to get them to accept that sometimes letting a pet die a natural death isn't an option, in fact it can be cruel, and that is something they are going to have to learn to accept - I know you are going through a tough time anyway, but you can't let them make you feel worse, and stop you making the decision at the right time. When I was 15, my mum had to have our family cat pts, I hated her at the time cos it was just before my 16th birthday and I was having friends round, but she explained that he had cancer, and he couldn't control his bladder and bowel and that wasn't fair on him, as he was a very clean cat and it would have really got to him that he couldn't get outside in time cos he never messed in the house, and I accepted it, cos it was for him.
No, you are not talking out of turn.. I agree with you.. In fact, My daughter is seeing he is not a happy cat anymore...She understands. My son is nit accepting the fact he is sick. Gorby always sleeps in his room and my son keeps saying he sees no change in him but you would need to be blind not to see so I know he is having a hard time accepting this.
I will be talking to my son today and I think we may have to take Gorby this week sometime...Today I noticed even more changes in him....I really, really think It will be this week..
post #32 of 46
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Originally Posted by libby74
Aw Judith, you ramble all you want--you're entitled. I feel so bad for you. Such an impossible choice.
May I make a suggestion about Gorby getting on your bed? I'd be concerned about him jumping down, too. Can you put together some "steps" for him? I've done that with geriatric cats that haven't been able to jump anymore. A footstool or a low chair or even a sturdy cardboard box that Gorby could use to climb onto the bed would be a big help for him.
Sending big cyber-hugs your way, and a good ear-skritching for Gorby.
Thanks so much libby. Impossible choice to say the least!
I don't think I have any problem with him jumping on my bed anymore..
Today he stayed on the floor most of the day... He has be hanging under my sons futon.

He was never fond of stairs and when I tried to put something in fromt of the bed, he walked around it.. He has a one track mind....But, I hope he won't try it anymore..
Thanks for all your support..
post #33 of 46
Judith,

I will be thinking of you and praying for you and your kitty. What a sad situation to be put into!
We had an older kitty a few years ago. He was 16 and went into renal failure. We also have two children, ages 20 and 25 at that time! They protested BIG time about even talking about the possibility of euthanasia. So we waited, and waited. I truly believe in my heart that we waited too long, simply for our own selfish needs. He was so wasted away, and terribly, terribly sick. It makes me cry even to this day, thinking of what we put him through. We eventually made the most heart wrenching decision to take him to the vet's to be put to sleep.
He purred all the way, and licked our hands, almost to say "thank you".
The vet was wonderful....he told us that it was "the ultimate act of love you can give your pet when they are sick".
Believe me, I am not saying this is the way you should go! I'm just "talking" too.
But many of us will be thinking of you at this difficult time.

"kittycatlover"
post #34 of 46
You've got a lot on your plate, Judith. I hope you all goes well with discussing the situation with your children and that Gorby is hanging in there. Hopefully you'll be able to reach the right decision, especially for Gorby's sake. Thoughts and positive vibes to all of you.
post #35 of 46
I think maybe your son knows deep down but doesn't want to have to say goodbye, it is a normal reaction. I am so sorry you are having to go through this, it is an awful time.
post #36 of 46
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Originally Posted by booktigger
I think maybe your son knows deep down but doesn't want to have to say goodbye, it is a normal reaction. I am so sorry you are having to go through this, it is an awful time.
Yes, I believe that. I think he just would not allow himself to even think about it. Gorby was a shelter cat and I was looking at a cat about a year old and my hubby & son liked Gorby and they felt bad because he was older & figured all the young cats would be adopted but he may not have a chance so thats why they picked him.. He has a special connection with him.
post #37 of 46
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Last night Gorby's breathing was very labored and we were going to bring him to an er vet 1/2 hr away. We decided to wait till this morning because he gets SOOOOO stressed out in the car. I could not put him through the long ride and the ER vet was in ER surgery! So we may have had to wait 2 hrs..
So this morning we took him to our regular vet 5 min away at 8am.

Last night both of my kids happen to be home and found me laying on the floor petting him.. My son who took the longest to come around wanted us to take him right then when he saw him breathing.. I was greatful we all felt the same way.. That made the decision easier for me.

This was the hardest thing to go through.. My hubby took my last cat. I could not go then. This time I felt I had to go.
The vet gave him a tranquilizer first and I saw him lay down & relax his body for the first time in a week... I knew it was the right choice...

I want to thank you all so much for your advise & compassion...I love to come here because I love animals & cats especially more than some people... I know I share these feelings with people who come to this cat site..
I have received prayers and warm wisher from everyone I met..I'm not religious and I don't know how I feel about god but, God Bless you all!
Thanks for being my friend in a time of need....
I will still be around because I have Murphy & Boots to talk about.
Judith
post #38 of 46
I am so sorry to hear that you had to let him go, Judith. It was good that your son saw how bad he was, and knew himself that it was the right thing to do, rather than get angry with you cos he wasnt there.

RIP Gorby.
post #39 of 46
Hugs and healing vibes coming at you from our house. Remember the good times you had with him and rejoice in that.
post #40 of 46
Judith, I am so incredibly sorry. I know what a painful decision this was for your whole family. Please take comfort in knowing that you did the right thing for Gorby; it's good that you made the choice to go with him. You have my very deepest sympathies.
((((((Major, major hugs coming your way.))))))
post #41 of 46
Judith, as you know I went through a very similar situation. I am very sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

RIP Gorby
post #42 of 46
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Thank you booktigger, libby, yosemite.

I do feel I made the right decision.. I just keep pictureing him on the table looking at me.. I can't get over how quick it was.. I can't get that picture out of my head. And, I keep looking in the bedroom everytime I pass by the room he slept in. Like he is going to be there.

It so hard to think of him not here aqnymore... I know it will get better...

Thank you all so much for your kind words..

Judith
post #43 of 46
Judith, when you feel up to it, you should write a tribute to Gorby in the crossing the bridge forum.
post #44 of 46
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Originally Posted by AbbysMom
Judith, as you know I went through a very similar situation. I am very sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

RIP Gorby
Thanks Abbysmom...
I know you had a similiar situation... It was soooooooo hard to finally make that decision.. I kept thinking if he looked sicker or acted sicker it would have been easier but that would have been selfish.
I just kept thinking maybe he had another month or two.. But then I would not want him living like that for another month or two.
Thanks for all your support.
post #45 of 46
Hi Judith,

I read this entire thread knowing exactly what you went through because today at 4 I am taking my girl age 16 to be euthanized. I can't bear to do it, but her quality of life is not good, and I have to stop trying to convince myself that because she drinks some tuna water, she is getting better. I cannot bear to let her waste away the way I did with my other old cat 2 years ago. She was like a limp doll by the time I took her. Mozel is not that far gone, but I will not do that to her.

My thoughts a payers to you and Gordy.
post #46 of 46
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Originally Posted by gailuvscats
Hi Judith,

I read this entire thread knowing exactly what you went through because today at 4 I am taking my girl age 16 to be euthanized. I can't bear to do it, but her quality of life is not good, and I have to stop trying to convince myself that because she drinks some tuna water, she is getting better. I cannot bear to let her waste away the way I did with my other old cat 2 years ago. She was like a limp doll by the time I took her. Mozel is not that far gone, but I will not do that to her.

My thoughts a payers to you and Gordy.
Oh gailvscats!

My heart is breaking for you....Their is nothing that anyone can say to make you feel better....I had so much wonderful advice from so many people and it still is a heart breaking decision to make...Looking back, I wish I had done it a week sooner...It IS the right choice to take her now.

I will be thinking about you & Mozel today...
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