Originally Posted by ugaimes
I hate to call anyone out specifically and I like you so much Felicia that this is hard to say.
However, I feel like that entire statement undermines sexual assault to the nth degree. To say that the baby's father is an asshole is by FAR an understatement. To say that the baby's father "wasn't so nice" is by FAR an understatement. We're talking about RAPISTS for Pete's sake!
Maybe you meant it more seriously than it came across and if that's the case I apologize. I am assuming that you have never been sexually assaulted and that is definitely a good thing. However, until you have walked a mile in the shoes of a woman or girl who has been sexually assaulted by a relative, a spouse, a partner, a boss, or even a complete stranger, it is absolutely none of your business to judge that mother's decisions about her body. It is NO ONE'S business but that survivor's.
A sexual assault survivor needs and often wants more than anything to begin reasserting power and control over her own life and laws like the one in South Dakota and the ATTITUDES that lead to such proposed laws make that almost completely impossible by making it legal for her to make decisions about her own health.
oh i did mean it in a serious way but the words i wanted to use wouldn't be acceptable here
i'm not saying women who get raped shouldn't have an abortion....i guess i don't know where i stand yet but the thought of abortion gets to me.
no i haven't been raped but i came close twice, first time my friend left me with her brother and his mate, the brother left for some reason and his friend tried to rape me, luckily the brother came back in time.
second time i met two guys, i was at a nightclub but my friends had left, i had just lost my cat and one of the guys said he had kittens and i could have one if i liked, i was tipsy and stupidly decided it would be okay to go with them, when we arrived he showed me the kittens but they were hiding behind a shed so we decided to go inside and wait for them to come out.
when we got inside one of the guys brought out a huge bag of powder that he said was heroin, they tried very hard to get me to have some but no way was i touching it, they had some other drug, i don't know what it was, then one of them said to his friend 'we could tie her up and keep her here, no-one would ever know' i was so scared, not only were they drug dealers but no-one knew where i was, luckily one of them decided he should take me home, i know it sounds unreal but it did happen.....sometimes i can't believe it myself.
there was another incident but it was a boyfriend, he was very possesive and controlling to the point that i was too scared to do anything that might upset him, he even had a concrete basement in his shed with a concrete bench in it and a bucket, he tried to get me to go down there once but i wouldn't do it....i still wonder what it was for, he said he built it for a dare. he also tried to rape me but his daughter walked in, i'm not sure if that's attempted rape because i was his girlfriend...we weren't having sex though because of my religion. the last straw came when he pretty much threatened to kill me and then on the drive home nearly ran the 4x4 into a telegraph pole.....i dumped him but he stalked me for a while, drove past my mums house where i was staying and sent letters begging me to come back to him.....