HS Reunion??

Hi Everyone,

OK, last fall I received an email from the reunion committee from the people I graduated with. At the time I wasn't sure if I wanted to go, mainly because I hadn't decided at the time if I was going back to get my masters or what I was doing.
So I never replied back.
This past week, somehow they got my phone number (either from someone I use to know from HS and through college or by google I'm sure) and left me a message.
After a week, I called her back and played stupid that I lost the email.

I know its not until November, so I really have plenty of time to decide. who knows though, I may be too busy when I start my masters this fall to have ANY free time

But I'm curious if you went to your 10 year reunion at all. I know that most wait until the 20 yr, as that's when you've established yourself. But I'm just curious. A friend of mine did and she said she had a ball. But I think she was more along the lines of the popular crowd.
I was more the inbetween...at least that's what I considered myself. I knew a lot of people, but wasn't friends with many people from my class (more friends with people older/younger).
I guess a part of me was feeling a little of that old insecure feeling because most of the popular kids went on to be doctors and engineers instead of like the movies of being in an unhappy marriage by 28.

Thanks for reminding me that my 20th reunion will probably be this year! Wow, I am getting old! I didn't go to the 10th, and I have no intention of going to the 20th. I really dislike bragging and showing off and trying to make yourself look better than everyone else. Most of the people that would be at my reunion are like this and it would make for an absolutely excruciating evening. Actually, I never got invited to the 10th reunion. The people running it only invited who they wanted to. I was not one of the "popular" kids, therefore I was not invited.

I reckon you should go, maybe you will end up having a new best friend?

hmm...I only graduated like 4 years ago, so I havent been to any reunions. But If i were in your shoes....I'd say go at the 20th reunion if yo'd like more time to get your things done.

Are there people you really WANT to see there? Because I just think that'd be wierd seeing a whole bunch of people you used to be great friends with, and then talking to them about the way things are now. I really dont know. I think it just sounds like you dont want to go...and therefore, why go? It's not a big deal (IMO)...but I'd think that the 20 year would be better.

Wow, I graduated 4 years ago - thats so scary!

I have no intentions to go to any of mine - I had a lot of best friends in high school and after we graduated I never talked to a single one of them again - they all stayed back home closer for college and I moved 2 hours away - they all still hang out together and never gained any new friends - which is sad that they could never venture out of that 'high school' mind set.

If I went, it would all be fake smiles and fake happiness to be there - I'd rather save myself the sadness of remembering how close we all used to be and what friendships were lost over time.

oooh I can't WAIT for my high school reunion.
It seems like most of the girls I graduated with got married right off the bat ( I went to a conservative private school. We were taught that it was best to be housewives ).

Not only am I going to have my own career, but I also lost about 30 pounds. I can't wait to be a total snot about looking good.

/self-centered rant.

I wasn't invited to my 10th. No big deal, there are about 5 people out of a graduating class of 400 that I would want to see, and they probably weren't invited either.

Earl went to his 10 year reunion, but he went to a smaller school in a pretty small town. So he actually did know everyone and everyone knew him. Different kind of high school experience, I guess.

Have you called some of the people you really want to see? If you don't care about any of the poeple going to the reunion, then why go? If some of your friends are going, then I would go. Then you can sit together & whisper, point, & laugh at everyone!

Originally Posted by babyharley

Wow, I graduated 4 years ago - thats so scary!

I have no intentions to go to any of mine - I had a lot of best friends in high school and after we graduated I never talked to a single one of them again - they all stayed back home closer for college and I moved 2 hours away - they all still hang out together and never gained any new friends - which is sad that they could never venture out of that 'high school' mind set.

If I went, it would all be fake smiles and fake happiness to be there - I'd rather save myself the sadness of remembering how close we all used to be and what friendships were lost over time.

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Oh wow, I pretty much could have written that exact same thing!! (except I graduated in '03) Over Christmas they invited me to go eat lunch, and I did, and since then its back to not talking. Weird, huh? But we're better off with our friends here at TCS!!

I had a graduating class of 700 and didn't keep in touch with anyone so I decided to skip both the 10th and the 20th. My husband did get a call for some local high school for their 10th. We figured they had been looking for someone else with the same name and left the message. Thought we should go and mess with everyone's mind trying to remember us.

I think high school reunions are more special for smaller schools. My mother grew up in a small town. She goes back often to the reunions and knows the people who were in grades ahead and behind her.

My class didn't have a 10 yr but the 15th was a blast!!! I might have had a tad bit too much to drink on our Friday night get together (oops). The 20 and 25th were fun too. We didn't have a 30th last yr though (I was bummed)
It funny just to see how people have changed!! The balding star quarterback-the class cool guy-still dating girls 25 yrs younger than himself.....

40-odd years later, I have not been to a reunion and I have not missed it. I think for a person who had some good lasting friendships and maintained them, it would be fun if some of those people went too, to reconnect with others. But I was not a particularly popular kid -- a few fairly close friends at the time, all of whom I lost touch with within 10 years. I have since reconnected with one of those people, have missed a few possible opportunities to connect, and may get a chance to see her this spring. That would be nice, but if it doesn't happen, I won't lose any sleep.

Reunions are undoubtedly a lot of fun for some people, or they wouldn't keep happening, but that sort of gathering is not really my cup of tea.

I would rather be poked in the eye with a sharp stick than go to a reunion! It was enough of a freakshow back in 1977, I shudder to think of how some of them are now.

Originally Posted by AshleyNicole

Weird, huh? But we're better off with our friends here at TCS!!

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I think so too - @ least on TCS no one judges you for what you used to be, and what now have become

Originally Posted by lunasmom

I was more the inbetween...at least that's what I considered myself. I knew a lot of people, but wasn't friends with many people from my class (more friends with people older/younger).
I guess a part of me was feeling a little of that old insecure feeling because most of the popular kids went on to be doctors and engineers instead of like the movies of being in an unhappy marriage by 28.

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I too was with the in-between crowd. I went to my 10 year reunion and it was interesting that the "popular" crowd didn't do anything with their lives and it was people like myself (and the band and book nerds) that had become successful.

Looking back, it was a waste of time in general. The real pleasure I got from it was that I had a better life than those popular kids that snubbed me during H.S. But it wasn't worth the money I paid to attend to find that out.

Same here! I never want to see most of those people again. I was NOT popular, for I was a "good" girl, smart, shy, etc.
I was tormented and made fun of most of the time.
I have since heard that most of those popular girls who were so mean to me are FAT, whcih gives me great pleasure (I know that's mean of me to say.)
You'd have to pay me a hcek of a lot of $$ to get me to go. (I graduated in 1974, so my 30th reunion haS COME and GONE.

Originally Posted by AbbysMom

Thanks for reminding me that my 20th reunion will probably be this year!

Wow, I am getting old! I didn't go to the 10th, and I have no intention of going to the 20th. I really dislike bragging and showing off and trying to make yourself look better than everyone else. Most of the people that would be at my reunion are like this and it would make for an absolutely excruciating evening. Actually, I never got invited to the 10th reunion. The people running it only invited who they wanted to. I was not one of the "popular" kids, therefore I was not invited.

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I didn't go to the reunion of the class I spent three hellish years as a 10-12 year old. Our teacher was an alcoholic, though we or our parents didn't realise that at the time, as the other teacher coverded it up. He couldn't handle the class at all, so we had huge bullying problems.

The score:

1 girl couldn't go to normal junior high because she was so afraid of people, she studied at home and went to the school just to take the tests. She tried to commit suicide at 14.

1 girl pretty much lost all her social life when we went to differend schools. She suffered from severe depression at 19-21. She's allright now.

1 girl became really clingy at 13, stalking boys 16-19 years old in our school to get acceptance. The boys used her as a sex toy.

Me: Still bitter. I heard two of the major bullies had kids at 17, their lives a mess. I must confess I was glad.

So, after all this ranting: It depends on the class, if you didn't get along with them back then, you probably won't like them now either.

Wow! Thanks, some of your stories make me feel better.

There were a couple of girls in high school that were popular that I just could NOT stand...even in HS they were on the plump side...makes me wonder what they're like now! I know I'm mean....

The girl that called me though she said she would email me on monday since she doesn't email during the weekend. I know it sounds insecure, but my first thought was 'Oh so you can show off the me where you work?'

There are a couple of people that I lost touch with. One person I was friends with moved out to CA and I haven't heard much since. The other person I haven't seen in a while dated my psycho ex-best friend (which btw luckily was a year after me! I definitely WOULD NOT GO if she were there). But I'd only tell him to be THANKFUL that he got out of that relationship.

I remember running into one girl at a bar that remembered me, but I didn't remember her at all. She thought it was because she changed so much that I didn't recognize her...no it was because I really didn't remember her at all. But I couldn't tell her that.

The only reason why I would go would to satisfy my curiousity factor.
Otherwise I could really care less. Plus I would hate to pay the fee of whatever just to leave within 1/2 an hour.

I went to my 10yr reunion and felt like I was still in HS. The popular girls were still trying to be popular and the jocks were all going bald.

There were only a few people I wanted to see anyway and we had a nice time together. It was pretty sad to see the clicks were still there 10 years later.

DH and I waffled back and forth about whether we should go (we were friends in HS and graduated in the same class). We ended up going and having a really good time. I got reconnected with some great friends I had lost touch with over the years. Some of the popular clique people were still as standoff-ish as ever, but overall people were really pretty cool. It was fun to see how much some people changed, or how little, and to see what they were up to.

We only went to the dinner function, not the happy hour the night before or the family picnic the day after. (DH and I flew in for the weekend and spent that time with our families and non-HS friends.) Apparently a lot of our classmates went to those functions instead because they were free.