I am loosing my Furbaby :(

My Polly is "actually" my BF's cat. I told him that was the stipulation when we got her, I wasn't in a position to assume financial responsibilty over her, and that if he wanted a kitten he would need to take that on. Of course he was more than willing too, and we adopted Polly as a tiny kitten.

Well, the time has come, and my bf is moving to another town for a new job. A great one, one that will provide well for our family someday, should that day come.

UNFORTUNATLY, he wants to take Polly. I am trying to talk him into letting her stay with me until I go visit him in 3 weeks for my spring break. At which point I will bring her up to stay with him permenently.

He isn't going for it. He will be all alone, no furniture and in a VERY small town. He really does need to have her. But I am not sure I can stand loosing them both at the same time.

I have been in tears since I relized how close it is to him leaving (tomorrow)

I just wanted to share this with you guys.

Aw ... I know you're feeling sad. Maybe it will help you to remember that this separation is only temporary.

I think you should get him to join TCS, so you guys can share Polly with us together!!! (But I'll be thinking of you, I know it can be SO lonely. )

Getting him to join TCS is a good idea.
I feel so bad for you, at least its not forever

I feel so bad for you

I know it wouldnt be the same but how about adopting a smaller pet like a hamster or goldfish for now to stave of the loneliness?

lol About the goldfish, that is the funny thing. He said to me "You will have your fish! I know they arn't furry and really kind of object to being held and petted, but they are little, you can force your way upon them"

I LAUGHED AND LAUGHED. Just the picture of me plucking an angel fish from my 40gal aquarium, in order to sit on the sofa and pet him while I watch tv. HILARIOUS!

I warned him that if he leaves with polly, I am gonna have to get another kitten. lol (he doesn't want another kitten at this time, he is very responsible in making sure that he can financially care for the animals he has. Which is just polly right now)

I don't want to let he go, or even him for that matter! But yes, it is temporary.

yeah like you can hug a fish Nicky It's just not the same....

it's not forever sweetie - and he probably feels the same way that you do. (Maybe this is the time to be the strong one - men do have a big soft spot in there somewhere and they just don't like to admit it - you ever seen a grown man cry? It's heartbreaking!)

Maybe this is something you have to talk a little more over.... but I think he's going to be just as lonely as you are. Getting him to join TCS is a really good idea I think - then you KNOW that you can share Polly together online at least, it's better than nothing... and he's going to love it here too, I bet

I'm sorry that you are so sad It's amazing how our cats become such a huge part of our lives that we can't imagine life without them. Be strong...3 weeks will go by before you know it and you will all be reunited again.

Originally Posted by LilleKat

yeah like you can hug a fish Nicky

It's just not the same....

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lol! But you can talk to it! Or am the only one who talks to their goldfish....

It's three weeks until my spring break. After spring break, I come back to school and we wont see each other for another 4 or 5 months.

It's hard, I never thought I would ever be so attached to a person. But when you haven't had a day go by in the last year and a half without that person being _right_ there, I guess you get attached!

I can't IMAGINE how so many husbands and wives can leave each other and go off to serve us and our country. At least I KNOW we will be together again. With the military, there is always a chance that reunion will not occur. Well, I guess there is even a chance in our case, but the odds are deffinitly much better for us. Thinking that way, really puts things in perspective.

6 months. But I can do it!!

The separation will be lonely, especially since he's taking Polly with him, but think of it this way: He wants Polly with him. That's a good man and a good catch! You know Polly will be well cared for, right?
I like the suggestion of having him join TCS too.

***UPDATE***

He has left. I cried like a baby, (tried to be strong, but failed misserably)

But...

...he left me with Polly. I tried really hard NOT to try to convince him, I wanted the decision to be totaly his. I think that was a good desicion, because he left her with me FOR me. NOT because I nagged. I know it is going to be hard for him, But it makes his sacrifice that much more touching.

I will take Polly up to Mabank TX with me when I head over there for Spring break, and she will stay there with him while I come back to Austin for a few more months.

I don't know if he would join a cat forum. lol He actually created and used to own the biggest BMW-specific forum on the net, so he likes forums. I just don't know if he would transition well to the kitties! lol

I will have to ask him.

Originally Posted by Yarra

I don't know if he would join a cat forum. lol He actually created and used to own the biggest BMW-specific forum on the net, so he likes forums. I just don't know if he would transition well to the kitties! lol

I will have to ask him.

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Or......... we will!
To the members: anyone who would like Yarra's BF to join TCS, please copy and paste the following letter and add your name.
Yarra, please insert his name and send this to him if you so desire.


Dear ____________,
You are cordially invited to join the premium of all cat sites. "The Cat Site!" @www.thecatsite.com.
You have friends here on the discussion forum who you haven't even met yet. The love of your life is a well-liked active member. This will enable you to talk about your beloved Polly with people who care whenever you choose.
Please consider our offer. We are looking for a few more good men!
Sincerely,
Rockcat (Renee)

done!

I invited him. We will see if he bites

Dear ____________,
You are cordially invited to join the premium of all cat sites. "The Cat Site!" @www.thecatsite.com.
You have friends here on the discussion forum who you haven't even met yet. The love of your life is a well-liked active member. This will enable you to talk about your beloved Polly with people who care whenever you choose.
Please consider our offer. We are looking for a few more good men!
Sincerely,
Rockcat (Renee)
Kluchetta (Kim)

Dear ____________,
You are cordially invited to join the premium of all cat sites. "The Cat Site!" @www.thecatsite.com.
You have friends here on the discussion forum who you haven't even met yet. The love of your life is a well-liked active member. This will enable you to talk about your beloved Polly with people who care whenever you choose.
Please consider our offer. We are looking for a few more good men!
Sincerely,
Rockcat (Renee)
Kluchetta (Kim)
Phenomsmom (Brandi)

Originally Posted by Phenomsmom

Dear ____________,
You are cordially invited to join the premium of all cat sites. "The Cat Site!" @www.thecatsite.com.
You have friends here on the discussion forum who you haven't even met yet. The love of your life is a well-liked active member. This will enable you to talk about your beloved Polly with people who care whenever you choose.
Please consider our offer. We are looking for a few more good men!
Sincerely,
Rockcat (Renee)
Kluchetta (Kim)
Phenomsmom (Brandi)

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Cool...

Awwww That has got to be tough on both of you. I am in New Zealand and my husband is still in the USA with the cats. I miss all three dearly. But I take comfort in knowing that they will be here in may. And I was fortunate enough to have my grandparents give me the money for the transportation costs - it was initially a loan but now they dont wnat the money back because they are set to inherit a large sum of money from my grandfathers stepmothers estate so I am very fortunate and am so thankful to them, because if it wasn't for them, the cats will not be coming.