My ten month old, Mitch, is terrified of strangers. It takes him FOREVER to warm up to someone new, and it's only if he sees them every day. The only people he isn't petrified of are myself and my mother.
I know that part of the reason he's so afraid of people is because he was sprayed in the face with mace at a very young age by some police officers (apparently he ran up under some woman's car and she thought he was a wild animal or something and called the police; this is what I was told by the agency I adopted him from). This traumatic experience certainly explains his behaviour, but there are a few things I simply can't get my head around.
For starters, my ex and I adopted him together, and when I brought him with me to visit Mitch and play with him, he spent most of the time curled up in my ex's lap, purring and sleeping. Fast forward a few months, and out of nowhere Mitch starts running from Jeff, hissing at him and freaking out (growling and/or low pitched meow-growls) when he touched him or tried to pick him up or hold him. I never understood why Mitch behaved this way, especially since Jeff never yelled at him or did anything to scare him or hurt him. He and I have since separated, so it's not really an issue anymore, but I'm still wondering what sparked the sudden change in behaviour.
Also, like I've stated, Mitch is absolutely terrified of strangers, especially men. He usually is ok around my female friends (he still hides in the bathroom, behind the fishtank, or under the sofa when unfamiliar people are visiting), but when my male friends visit, he is a big ball of nerves. Most of the time he hides in the bathroom, and when men go to use it, he will cower behind the toilet and hiss until they're done. He hisses when they try to touch him (he's never bitten or scratched anyone).
I don't really know how to make him more socialized and have him be less scared. He is a very sweet boy and loves me and my mom (we can approach him and pick him up and pet him and have no problems at all), but I don't know what I can do to ease his nerves and have him be more comfortable around strangers. I've tried repeated exposure with my current boyfriend and it's sort of working, as Mitch doesn't stay hidden in the bathroom and will come out and walk around very cautiously, but the slightest unexpected sound spooks him and if one of us happens to stand up and walk around, he runs off.
Any suggestions?
I know that part of the reason he's so afraid of people is because he was sprayed in the face with mace at a very young age by some police officers (apparently he ran up under some woman's car and she thought he was a wild animal or something and called the police; this is what I was told by the agency I adopted him from). This traumatic experience certainly explains his behaviour, but there are a few things I simply can't get my head around.
For starters, my ex and I adopted him together, and when I brought him with me to visit Mitch and play with him, he spent most of the time curled up in my ex's lap, purring and sleeping. Fast forward a few months, and out of nowhere Mitch starts running from Jeff, hissing at him and freaking out (growling and/or low pitched meow-growls) when he touched him or tried to pick him up or hold him. I never understood why Mitch behaved this way, especially since Jeff never yelled at him or did anything to scare him or hurt him. He and I have since separated, so it's not really an issue anymore, but I'm still wondering what sparked the sudden change in behaviour.
Also, like I've stated, Mitch is absolutely terrified of strangers, especially men. He usually is ok around my female friends (he still hides in the bathroom, behind the fishtank, or under the sofa when unfamiliar people are visiting), but when my male friends visit, he is a big ball of nerves. Most of the time he hides in the bathroom, and when men go to use it, he will cower behind the toilet and hiss until they're done. He hisses when they try to touch him (he's never bitten or scratched anyone).
I don't really know how to make him more socialized and have him be less scared. He is a very sweet boy and loves me and my mom (we can approach him and pick him up and pet him and have no problems at all), but I don't know what I can do to ease his nerves and have him be more comfortable around strangers. I've tried repeated exposure with my current boyfriend and it's sort of working, as Mitch doesn't stay hidden in the bathroom and will come out and walk around very cautiously, but the slightest unexpected sound spooks him and if one of us happens to stand up and walk around, he runs off.
Any suggestions?