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post #1 of 17
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I haven't posted much about this but, Bill and I have come to a parting of the ways. Things haven't been good, for quite a while and last fall I decided to establish myself on my own.

Initially, I was going to buy a manufactured house and a piece of land but, after dealing with what turned out to be a shady lender, I've opted to rent for a year, collect myself and then start over. I STILL want to buy my own home.

I am now ensconced in a two-bedroom triplex, with a fenced yard for the dogs and room enough for the cats and me. Last weekend, My dad and I moved most of my furniture and a lot of boxes and we finished up the big stuff, yesterday.

Today, I'm unpacking as much as I can (I need to buy a chest of drawers, as I'm dressing out of totes and boxes). The kitchen is fairly well organized and my phone and Internet are up. The digital cable box isn't working and I'm waiting for the cable guy, now.

One more trip, to the old house, will get my hanging clothes and what few odds and ends are left there. It has been difficult, dismantling 4 1/2 years of my life but, I still have the pets and my friends. In addition, I'm living closer to my parents.

The cats and dogs are confused and aren't sure what's going on. The dogs want to stick close to me but, they seem to like their new yard, even though its a bit smaller than their old one. The cats kept me up, last night, by plundering boxes. My main concern is for Rowdy, as she loves Bill to distraction. He wouldn't take proper care of her, though and she's better off with me.

For the first time, in over 20 years, I'm living alone and I'm sure that it will take some time, to come to terms with that. I would like some mature male companionship but, I'm not sure that I want someone around, on a full-time basis. (I DO have a single male neighbor but, he's kind of weird and doesn't have any teeth).
post #2 of 17
I must have missed something about the situation with you and Bill. I am sorry.

But I wish you all the best in your move, and with your personality, I know you will meet someone else!
post #3 of 17
Hey Cindy, I didn't realize that you hadn't lived alone for over 20 years, but we know you can handle anything that comes your way. I guess you won't be inviting your neighbor over for a plate full of ribs, steak wings... or most things for that matter. What the heck can one really eat without teeth?
post #4 of 17
I'm so sorry about your situation.

I've never lived alone, so I'm not sure what that would be like - I bet it will be strange for a while until you get into a routine. It is nice that you will have your animals to keep you company.

post #5 of 17
Cindy, you're so imminently capable - who else with two dogs and three cats would be able to find a place with a yard at such short notice? - that I think you'll adjust rather quickly. Just don't forget to look for, or buy, some shampoo.
For some reason I'm picturing a post/thread some months from now - "He wants us to move in together!", where you've gotten so used to your independence that you're not sure you want to have a guy actually sharing your living space. Aside from which, living with five fur babies isn't living alone, and they probably give you moreĀ“of themselves than Bill did.
post #6 of 17
Best of luck with your new home and your new start in life! I wish you well for the future
post #7 of 17
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I have GOT to buy a queen-sized bed. Three cats and one hundred-and-plenty-pound woman makes for a crowd, in a twin.

Since my tax refund came, yesterday, I had planned to shop for a washer, dryer and bed today. However, the cable guy didn't show up, until almost 3 and, by the time I got to Bill's place and loaded my car, it was too late to shop. The appliance store is open, tomorrow, so I can get that done but, a bed will have to wait.

I also need to hit the thrift stores, as I need a coffee table. On my own, I eat in front of the TV and don't bother with a dinette set.
post #8 of 17
Cindy...this kind of change can be a real challenge.
Here is a little thought that might cheer you up a bit...
If you start to feel overwhelmed by all the stuff on your to do list, just pause for a minute and remember...
finally ...you will have control of the TV remote.
It's Cindy's turn now.
post #9 of 17
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by xocats
If you start to feel overwhelmed by all the stuff on your to do list, just pause for a minute and remember...
finally ...you will have control of the TV remote.
It's Cindy's turn now.
I've ALWAYS had control of the remote - I brought my own TV into the relationship and still have it. Bill kept "his" TV in the family room and mine was in the living room. Even when I was married, we had two: one for the ex to watch NASCAR and football and one for me to watch something GOOD!
post #10 of 17
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Originally Posted by Hydroaxe
Hey Cindy, I didn't realize that you hadn't lived alone for over 20 years, but we know you can handle anything that comes your way. I guess you won't be inviting your neighbor over for a plate full of ribs, steak wings... or most things for that matter. What the heck can one really eat without teeth?
Hey, there's always pudding!

My heartfelt best wishes to you as you start this new chapter of your life. I've lived with my husband for almost 7 years now (yes, we "lived in sin" before we were married...the shame! ) and I can only imagine how scary it must be to be on your own after living with someone for so long. Do you have a girlfriend who might want to be a roommate? I know it sounds a little silly for a grown woman, but it could be fun, for awhile, and you wouldn't feel as lonely. Anyways, us TCS ladies are always here for you!
post #11 of 17
I admire your resilience.
post #12 of 17
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Getting to be somewhat more like a home. There are still boxes all over the place but, my newspaper was on the doorstep this morning and I have a coffeemaker. Now, if I can just convince the cats that 6 a.m. is too early, to get up on a Sunday morning.

Mark, Sam and the girls may stop by,later. He put Feliza on the phone, yesterday. She told me "thank you", for the new shoes and Valentine goodies. He said that Isabel was too busy, running around to talk.

I STILL haven't found my shampoo or hairbrush. A trip to the 99-cent store took care of the shampoo and I DID find a comb.
post #13 of 17
Cindy, I admire your strength to know that this was what you have to do, even though it's intimidating to be "on your own". I don't think that you're going to be lonely. I've lived alone for quite a while now, and the freedom is liberating; to the point where any guy who comes along would have to be pretty amazing for me to give up my independence for him.

Hope the gang adjusts to the new place. And yeah, you need a bigger bed. For the dogs and cats and you, of course.
post #14 of 17
No no you need to get a KING size bed! then everyone can have space and be happy

With in no time your apartment will be a nice cosy home for all 6 of you
post #15 of 17
Well you've made the first step and have a good place to live with the cats and dogs. I suppose it does seem strange to be by yourself (people wise!!) But you will get accustomed to it. My sis has been divorced for I bet 15 yrs now, lived in three different cities with her cats. She keeps busy with her job and gardening.
Everyone adjusts!!
Good luck. And think no toilet seat worries!!
post #16 of 17
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I went out this morning and bought a bed, washer and dryer. I am now well-nigh broke, untill next payday. Everything will be delivered next Saturday. Delivery for the w/d was $25 but the guy knocked $20 off of the price of the appliances, since I bought the pair.

My new bed has a black canopy frame. I'm going to dispense with draping it, though - Rowdy would have a field day, climbing the draperies. I had intended to go with just the basic frame but, this one was only $87. I may take a can of Krylon to it and paint it purple.

As for dogs in the bed - no way. They are too big, snore and fart - I might as well have two MEN in my bed (scary thought). I can just imagine Rowdy and Pearl having one of their romps on top of me, in the wee hours of the morning Ike is fine on the couch and Pearl is happy, in her crate.

Target had a lavender padded toilet seat, on clearance and, if I can find my wrench, I'll install that today. There's nothing worse, than a cold toilet seat, first thing in the morning

Speaking of toilets, I had a bit of an "issue" and had to buy a plunger. When I got to the cashier, at my friendly neighborhood discount store, she rang up all of my other purchases and said (about the plunger), "This doesn't have a price on it" and put it aside. I said, "Well, aren't you going to GET a price?" Her reply was, "Oh, I didn't know you wanted it." DUH! I told her, "Of course I want it - I brought it up here, didn't I?" The idiot then wandered off to another register, to call for a price check - never mind the phone at HER register. I think that I'm going to stick to Target for my shopping needs.
post #17 of 17
Cindy, I haven't been here in months so I'm not aware of what's going on but I just wanted to wish you all the best.

You'll be fine and pretty soon, you'll be loving the freedom.

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As for dogs in the bed - no way. They are too big, snore and fart - I might as well have two MEN in my bed (scary thought). I can just imagine Rowdy and Pearl having one of their romps on top of me, in the wee hours of the morning Ike is fine on the couch and Pearl is happy, in her crate.
Too funny!

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Speaking of toilets, I had a bit of an "issue" and had to buy a plunger. When I got to the cashier, at my friendly neighborhood discount store, she rang up all of my other purchases and said (about the plunger), "This doesn't have a price on it" and put it aside. I said, "Well, aren't you going to GET a price?" Her reply was, "Oh, I didn't know you wanted it." DUH! I told her, "Of course I want it - I brought it up here, didn't I?" The idiot then wandered off to another register, to call for a price check - never mind the phone at HER register. I think that I'm going to stick to Target for my shopping needs.
Wow... she sounds like quite the winner.

Once again. Good luck and all the best to you. May you enjoy every minute of the new adventure that awaits you.

(((hugs)))
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