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falling_rain21

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Well, I haven't posted anything about this before, but my boyfriend's aunt was diagnosed with lymphatic cancer a while ago. She was put on kemo and all that, but with no progress. She started to deteriate quickly. And the doctors all said she had until the end of this year to live.


Just recently, the doctors began to say that she was getting much worse...and that she had only one or two weeks tops to live! And this morning, early, we got the phone call...she slipped away during the night in her sleep. I guess her body had enough.

This makes me realize just how precious life is. It can be taken away from us, and eventually, in our old age, death seizes us. Realizing this, I've made a promise to myself to take each day and enjoy every aspect of it. Even if I'm at work, I'm going to cherish it, and think to myself, ain't it good to be alive?
 

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I'm so sorry to hear that. I am here for you if you need some comfort. I'll keep you and your bf in my thoughts and prayers.
 

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Falling rain - I am so soory for your lose! It is never easy to see a loved one pass on, even when they have been suffering. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your boyfriend's family. I agree - live each day to it's fullest and live without regrets!
 

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So sorry to hear this.
My thoughts are with you and your boyfriend and the family.
 

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Falling, I too offer my condolences. It sounds like she quietly slipped away, and that is a blessing. Hugs (((((((())))))))))
 

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I'm so sorry to hear about this. Cancer is such a horrible disease, and I sometimes wonder if the treatment is any better. My mother dies of breast cancer, so I understand what you mean about deteriorating very quickly. It is sad to see someone you love fighting something like that.

You are so right about how precious life is. We all need to make an effort to enjoy the time we have and the wonderful people that we know. **HUGS**
 

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It doesn't matter whether our loved ones are 28 or 82, it still comes as such a shock. How could it be true? God bless you and your boyfriend and his family.
 
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Thank you all for you thoughts and condolences...it's appreciated. My boyfriend says thankyou.
 

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I am so very sorry to hear about your boyfriends aunt.
My thoughts are with you.
 

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It's hard to watch someone suffer and it's hard to say goodbye. But to live each day fully, seems like a great tribute to a dear friend (family member for you boyfriend). Hugs to both of you.
 

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It's very hard to lose a loved one. Please accept my condolances. Hugs to all.

Frannie
 

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Sorry to hear about your loss


About cancer: I know a guy who worked at the same plant I did. I hadn't seen him for a while. I remember asking a guy on the shift before mine & he had heard a rumor that he had cancer! Well, about 2 weeks ago, he came over to the plant that I'm at. He had been talking to me about how he was on medical leave for a few months, so I asked him politely if it was true, and he said yes
He's got colon cancer. He is 35, has 2 twins who are 5 years old & an adopted son who is 11. I asked if he had beat it, & unfortunately, he said he hasn't been responding to treatments. In fact, the other day he said they were going to stop treatments (chemo).
I feel really bad for him...... he looks sick, you can see it in the dark circles under his eyes. What's worse is that while he was in the hospital, his wife of 10yrs. served him divorce papers!
So, he will sometimes talk to me.... I listen. He said the worst part is that he won't be there to see his children grow up. I said you never know, and I said I hope for ou & your kids that you will beat this thing. I said try to look at the bright side, use them as a motivation. I said when you go to get chemo, take a pic of your kids & just concentrate on them. It's tough to talk to someone with a disease that they dont know if they will survive it or not. So, I just listen to him & talk to him.
 
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falling_rain21

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Originally posted by Tigger
What's worse is that while he was in the hospital, his wife of 10yrs. served him divorce papers[/b]
I can't believe that a person could do this to another!! How awful that he was even diagnosed with cancer, but to be served with divorce papers from the woman he loves and shares three children with?? All I can say is I hope that woman NEVER finds happiness again. My heart goes out to those poor kids.
 

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Fallingrain, so sorry to hear about your and your boyf's loss
But as has been said already, at least she slipped away peacefully in her sleep. Love and hugs to you both
 

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I too am saddened to hear of your loss and Falling_Rain, I hope that your boyfriend finds some comfort in knowing that his aunt is no longer suffering with the cancer.

As for you Tigger - what a GREAT friend you are to this man who is suffering so much right now! Sometimes lending an ear is the best thing we can do for someone.
 

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ah, I wouldn't consider myself a friend to him..... just a co-worker willing to listen to his problems
Honestly, I have never known someone who has had cancer; I don't know what to say to him half the time, so I just listen & try to tell him to look on the positive side. I don't like to ask him a lot of questions about how he feels, etc. because I don't know how he will react. Hehe, on Tueday night @ work I saw him..... I'd never really seen him outside of his bunnysuit before... I knew he was balding, but he had shaved his hair off where it was all fuzzy. I told him how cute he looked & how he looked nice with the new "do." I told him "And, no, I'm not flirting with you!" He said, "Ah, well I'm single now, so I thought you were!" And, I said "And, I'm married!":tounge2: :tounge2: :tounge2: I was just doing it to cheer him up, too, though. He was saying how he hasn't had the time to meet someone new, and I said, in time you will
He really is a nice guy, too......

Anyways,
falling_rain21: how are you doing?
 
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