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post #1 of 22
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Some people just have no concept of personal space. It drives me mad. I was just waiting to pay for the cat food and some family join me in the que and their child was standing so close to me I could feel his breath on my arm. Urggh!! He kept banging into me as well. Everytime I moved, he moved closer as did his mum. I really, realy detest that when people do that. I need people to keep their distance, I hate being crowded

Also Tesco was full of old people in the way and I managed to break my French Stick in the car on the way home
post #2 of 22
I know what you mean lyndsey. I was getting on my train a while back and common courtesy is to wait until people get off, but someone started pushing me forward but i turned around and said " Your won't get on any quicker by pushing pal!!".

You sure you didn't clobber someone with your french stick?!
post #3 of 22
Thats no good, when you are paying for things people should hang back, I always do because I could see someone's card number so I don't want them getting suss.
You know what I hate, at my desk when someone comes to ask me a question or whatever, they come right up and because Im sitting and they are standing, I can feel them touching my arm with the stomach it makes me crawl, I just want to push them away and say AAAAAAARRRRGGGGHHHHHHH.
I know how ya feel, I hate it too.
post #4 of 22
there is nothing worse than a crowded subway.
post #5 of 22
I was at an ATM last week and a man came up and stood right behind me. I could tell by his shadow that he was large and I felt threatened. Thank God nothing happened.
post #6 of 22
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Originally Posted by Rockcat
I was at an ATM last week and a man came up and stood right behind me. I could tell by his shadow that he was large and I felt threatened. Thank God nothing happened.
Thats just wrong and it would freak me out, having worked in a bank and hearing all the stories I'm super cautious at the ATM. Did you report him to anyone? Usually there is a phone number on the ATM saying if you suspect anything etc etc phone. You're right though thank god nothing happened, it was probably innocent but it should just be second nature to stand back at the ATM.
post #7 of 22
Oh i know whatcha mean!!! I have Anxiety as it is and when im
crowded i go nuts!!
post #8 of 22
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Originally Posted by chelle
Oh i know whatcha mean!!! I have Anxiety as it is and when im
crowded i go nuts!!
That's exactly what I have as well. I left my anti-anxiety medication at home
post #9 of 22
I hate that problem at checkouts. I have recently discovered that I feel so rushed, that I end up leaving the checkout stand and having to put my money, checkbook, or credit card away in my purse as I am walking out. I don't know why I let that bother me - I am entitled to time to put my things away before I leave, but I hate the pressure of people too close.
post #10 of 22
I was paying for gas yesterday, and the cashier's kid came in with the babysitter. She stopped ringing me up and started talking to the babysitter, ignoring the squalling brat. He came over to me and began kicking my shins. I got so mad, I couldn't see straight. I stepped back and he kept coming. I finally told the mother if she did not control her brat, I was going to jerk her across the counter and kick her a few times. She got the message. I am going to try to have her fired next time I see her boss. That is not the first incident with her.
In the grocery store I pretend I don't see people crowding me, wait until they are in range, and take a step backward. Getting their toes stepped on will usually make someone back up. If it is a cart they are crowding me with, a step back will push the cart back on them. I decided a long time ago that my personal space would not be violated by rude strangers. Mean? So what, I can't stand being crowded.
post #11 of 22
First of all, I'm wondering what a French Stick is.

As far as people invading my space, I HATE it as well. There's a guy at work who comes up hehind me, as I'm working and suddenly he's all over me. I feel his damp breath on my neck and he's trying to kiss my neck. He isn't coming on to me, either. He's just touchy feely, and I HATE it when people get too close to me. It just makes my skin crawl.
post #12 of 22
I hate that too.

This morning in Tim Hortons the line up was long, past the entrance which is in the middle of the store and this woman right behind me is touching me and even when I move to the entrance part she doesn't leave a gap like normal people so that people can come in and join the queue she still moves up right behind me.

Its not like she will get served any quicker by leaving less space there is still the same # people ahead - so why do it?

When people do it at work I just 'accidentally' roll my chair back into them
post #13 of 22
Hope have you ever seen those long sticks of bread?!. That's what a french stick is
post #14 of 22
Oooh I :censor::censor::censor::censor::censor::censor::censor: hate that! Sometimes it's a cultural thing though. We went to the casino christmas day and there were tons of asian people everywhere. They got up right up behind you. I'm a klutz anyway and I can't tell you how many people I bumped into! It was a bit disconcerting. I think those of us who are American probably have the bigger concept of "personal space".
That being said, there as a guy behind me at the bank a while back whose breath reeked of alcohol. Everytime I stepped up a bit trying to get away, he would edge up again. UGH!!
post #15 of 22
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Originally Posted by zak&rocky
Oooh I :censor::censor::censor::censor::censor::censor::censor: hate that! Sometimes it's a cultural thing though. We went to the casino christmas day and there were tons of asian people everywhere. They got up right up behind you. I'm a klutz anyway and I can't tell you how many people I bumped into! It was a bit disconcerting. I think those of us who are American probably have the bigger concept of "personal space".
That being said, there as a guy behind me at the bank a while back whose breath reeked of alcohol. Everytime I stepped up a bit trying to get away, he would edge up again. UGH!!
I remember learning in speech class in high school that different cultures have different concepts of personal space. Those of us from the US like about two to four feet for conversations.

One of my coworkers who is normally very nice and likeable frequently invades my personal space as well. If I back up, he closes in more. What I really hate, though, are people—coworkers especially, and why is it always men?—who touch you. It just makes me very uncomfortable to be innocently sitting in my chair working and all of a sudden have hands on my shoulders. If we were really friends it would be different, but it's coworkers. And the annoying thing is, it's usually guys I otherwise like, but they just have to take that one step that makes it skeevy.
post #16 of 22
I hate when the subway is crowded and people push right up from behind. Hate to say it, but it is usually men (not bashing -- it's the truth).
post #17 of 22
I was in a movie one time and the kid sitting behind me started to kick my chair. Innocent enough but my experience has been that parents get offended if you say something, so I held my tongue. Next thing I know the kids hands were in my hair! I was blown away, never as a kid would I have thought it was ok to play with a strangers hair! And even if I had thought to do it once, my mother would have quickly given me, 'the eye' and I wouldn't have done it again lol.
post #18 of 22
GRRRRRRR! Someone was doing this to me at the bank the other day and I kept edging forward and they were pretty much touching me at the end. I was mortified!

My friend is from Belguim and she's a bit like this. I understand it, because it's cultural.
post #19 of 22
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Originally Posted by WellingtonCats
GRRRRRRR! Someone was doing this to me at the bank the other day and I kept edging forward and they were pretty much touching me at the end. I was mortified!
Yeah, a pretty girl your age has to watch, Sam. As Susan suggested, maybe next time you'll have a french stick and you can hit them with it.
post #20 of 22
I am uncertain if it is's cuz I live in Fla but I notice this with elderly ppl more when I am in line at a cash at a store. They push you, almost as if saying their age gives them priority - I cdould understand someone with a disability but when they start pushing my stuff, I just hate it - and well, I hate to be nasty to someone's grandma!
post #21 of 22
I always keep the cart behind me when I'm waiting in line .. this allows me to keep the person behind me at a good distance and I can stand back from the person in front of me.
post #22 of 22
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Originally Posted by krazy kat2
I was paying for gas yesterday, and the cashier's kid came in with the babysitter. She stopped ringing me up and started talking to the babysitter, ignoring the squalling brat. He came over to me and began kicking my shins. I got so mad, I couldn't see straight. I stepped back and he kept coming. I finally told the mother if she did not control her brat, I was going to jerk her across the counter and kick her a few times. She got the message. I am going to try to have her fired next time I see her boss. That is not the first incident with her.
In the grocery store I pretend I don't see people crowding me, wait until they are in range, and take a step backward. Getting their toes stepped on will usually make someone back up. If it is a cart they are crowding me with, a step back will push the cart back on them. I decided a long time ago that my personal space would not be violated by rude strangers. Mean? So what, I can't stand being crowded.
Good for you! I would've done the same thing with that rude cashier's kid!
As for the taking a step backward, I'll have to try that the next time I'm out shopping and let you know how it goes! I love that kind of thinking (evil? I don't think so. just "politely" letting people know that they are intruding in your personal space!)!!! and I REALLY hate rude intrusive people!
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