It's a Friday night and what are you doing?

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Geez, I really need to get out of my apartment on the weekends. I feel like such a recluse, but it doesn't help that I don't have any friends to go out with.


I would love to go dancing tonight, and I really should go out more. Maybe I will have a mid-life crisis, and having fun again will hit me when I'm in my 40's.


So, tonight I'm just veggin' out with the boys, and enjoying some chocolate and whatever is on the tube. How about you?
 

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Friday night....me and Harley are hanging out on TCS!

John is out @ the bars with the guys


I've been watching The Best Week Ever on VH1 and just surfing the web. Its been a loooonnnngggg week, and I figure this would be a great way to unwind - hang out with my favorite man and catch up with him
Sometimes I wish Harley could talk!
 

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Recluse too...I am feeling sorry for myself because I can't fit into clothes I want to buy at the store, and I had a sad attack about Mark again....sheesh, it's been almost 2 months, you'd think I'd be over it....?
 
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Yeah, if my guys could talk I wonder what they would say to me.


I was thinking about going out to a movie tonight, called "The Squid and the Whale". It was up for some Golden Globes, and likely will get some Oscar nods. Think I'll head out and watch it tomorrow night just so I get out for a while.
 

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My night consists of my boyfriend playing video games and I'm just surfing the web...
it stinks not having any money to go out
 
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Originally Posted by menagerie mama

Recluse too...I am feeling sorry for myself because I can't fit into clothes I want to buy at the store, and I had a sad attack about Mark again....sheesh, it's been almost 2 months, you'd think I'd be over it....?
Hey, I'm still not completely over my last serious relationship, and that was well over a year ago, so you're not alone there.
 

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I'm at home, about to go to bed, I have to work tomorrow.

I have Sunday and Monday's off, but I only take Monday's off, until i get my motor swap in my car...then I'll be going out Sat. nights and will be too tired to go to work Sunday
 

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Originally Posted by vespacat

Yeah, if my guys could talk I wonder what they would say to me.
I'm sure Harley would tell me to shut up and stop talking to him!
 

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I am unfortunately sitting here, wishing for some valium and a chiropractor
 
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Originally Posted by babyharley

I'm sure Harley would tell me to shut up and stop talking to him!
I wonder if my guys would complain about the food.
 
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Originally Posted by Arlyn

I am unfortunately sitting here, wishing for some valium and a chiropractor
Yikes, sounds pretty rough.
I have Clonazepam... wish I could send you some via airmail right now.
 

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Thanks

just need to stash some bucks, there's a local chiro here that is super good, and only charges $30 per two visits for realigments.
 

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Originally Posted by vespacat

Hey, I'm still not completely over my last serious relationship, and that was well over a year ago, so you're not alone there.
Good to know, although it feels like it. So what do you do when you have a sad attack? It can be anything, a song we liked, seeing a Harley drive by (he has one, we used to go riding a lot) I've see him driving 4 times in the past week and a half...etc....I try not to think about it and focus on that he was a jerk but I don't have any closure on this....It's easy to say just get over it, which is what I hear a lot but I can't tell my heart not to feel or be hurt..
 

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I'm sorry you are hurt. The best way I know how to help you feel better is just keep yourself busy and try not to think about it. It's not very easy though. Night time is always the worst though. I hope you feel better soon!!
 

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It may not work for you, but I've had great success simply putting everything in writing.
Anything, everything you want to say to or about him.
As if you are writing a letter.
Pouring emotions out into it.

Hope you're feeling better soon.
 
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Originally Posted by menagerie mama

Good to know, although it feels like it. So what do you do when you have a sad attack? It can be anything, a song we liked, seeing a Harley drive by (he has one, we used to go riding a lot) I've see him driving 4 times in the past week and a half...etc....I try not to think about it and focus on that he was a jerk but I don't have any closure on this....It's easy to say just get over it, which is what I hear a lot but I can't tell my heart not to feel or be hurt..
Well, I'm actually on a LTD, but am in the recovery period from a bout of depression from Bipolar Disorder, which I was diagnosed with earlier last year. People with the disorder often have difficulty with friendships, relationships with family or a S/O, and I have alienated EVERYONE (including family) with the exception of one friend who doesn't live here in Toronto.


The way I've been dealing, and which has worked for me are psych meds. I'm on 4 meds at the moment. My dad was also bipolar (used to be called manic depression), but he suicided. So, I have good days and bad days, but the fluctuations aren't as bad as I was without meds. I've gained some weight from the meds (used to be a sie 8/10, now a 12/14), but it's worth it. I would rather be a little portly and have my sanity. People don't understand what it's like to have severe mood fluctuations.

As for dating, my ex BF was the last serious relationship I had, and I ended it (wish I hadn't) impulsively. I've dated a few guys since then, but they couldn't compare, and I knew they wouldn't last. But I still regret breaking it off with my ex. He knew I was ill though, and wouldn't stick through it, so what can you do?
 
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Oh, and not to mention, my babies Mik and Lex have a profound impact on my happiness. They are such gentle kitties and are very loving, so I don't count myself as being lonely.
 

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I am doing as little as possible tonight, on purpose.
Had a crazy week of work/grad school and I just need a night to veg every once in awhile...
I went to Trader Joe's, Target and Petsmart earlier to run some errands, came home, made myself some dinner, and have had my butt firmly planted on the couch ever since with some TV and People Magazine!
 

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Rachel, thank you. You're right, night time is the worst. I do try not to think about it, but any time there's down time, bam, there it is again, or when I least expect it something brings it back into my head.
Arlyn, thank you too. I do the same thing. I have written him 2 letters, which I sent about a month ago, just talking about what happened and how I felt about it. No answer from him (of course) but I got it off my chest. I don't want to send him anymore letters, I know it's a lost cause, but I could just write it out, I know that would make me feel better.
vespacat, thank you too! I'm sorry to hear you have such troubles. I hope you feel 100% soon. I guess we all have sad attacks, huh? Just a part of life I guess, and I guess it can always be worse.
I'll stop hijacking your thread now...I saw something that made me feel better, that cute animal thread...it made me laugh and I needed it...
 
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