Why can't you just be nice!

Ugh, i've had enough of this so i come to seek advice.
I've had my cat Miniie since he was a little tiny kitten, hence the name Miniie or Miny. I don't think i ever remember him being sweet since he was little.. The only time he acts like he loves me now is when he is hungry and im the kitchen. He doesn't really like me to pet him, unless again im in the kitchen and he suddenly starts rubbing on my leg and purring. If hes on my bed sleeping and i pet him he bites me or he grabs my hand and bites and kicks it.. My hands are literally messed up i have scratches and cuts all because of him. I love him so much and it hurts me that he acts this way with me

My old cats vet ( she ran away, i guess my mom let the door open or something) had once told me that if she misbehaved to spray her with water, but i dont want him to hate me more so i dont really do that.. Unless he really hurts me, i spray him quickly so he would let go.

I try saying NO! when he is bitting me or Blow air on his face but still that doesnt stop him.. I DONT KNOw WHAT TO DO?!
Why cant he just be nice, im so depressed about this.. Could it be that he is sick or something? But then again this has been happening for months now..

HELPPPPPP..

Is he neutered?

No

That would probably explain his agression. How old is he now? and is he an indoor/outdoor cat?

Im not really sure how old he is, but i got him in october and he looked like he was only weeks old. Why are cats aggressive when they are not neutered? He is an indoor cat

you know, it might take a little time. i'm thinking the neutering will help, but also i think sometimes you just need to grab him and pet him and just be aggressive about showing him some love (especially since now he is so young). when i first got mochi, he ALWAYS bit me (he still does now sometimes but i think he is teething) and didn't like being held but now he absolutely loves it and loves to be petted too.

but your cat is really really really adorable

If he was only born in August/September, that would make him only 4-5 months old. No cat I have ever known has been "nice" at this stage in time. Theyre kittens, and theyre learning how to use all their fun toys (teeth, claws, muscles) When Niles was that young, even though I had bottle and hand fed the little devil, he was INSANE. I didnt "train" him to be nice, and when playing, hed scratch me up pretty bad. Hes SUPER SUPER loving and attached to me now, so its probably just a matter of time. Neutering him as soon as he is big enough may also help him calm down a bit.
With many toes, when he was younger and was playing rough, I would hiss at him and/ignore him briefly. Very quickly he knew I was his momma cat, and has always been very gentle with me.....occasionally he still nips someone elses toe, but not hard, they are startled more than anything. Stick it out, kitty is still just a kid!

Un-neutered cats are aggressive as they have to fight each other for territory and females. A young male will start to practice those skills when he is a few months old. As soon as he starts getting sexually mature he will feel frustrated at not being able to go find a female and he will take it out on you. So get him neutered as soon as your vet will do it.

Originally Posted by dara678

you know, it might take a little time. i'm thinking the neutering will help, but also i think sometimes you just need to grab him and pet him and just be aggressive about showing him some love (especially since now he is so young). when i first got mochi, he ALWAYS bit me (he still does now sometimes but i think he is teething) and didn't like being held but now he absolutely loves it and loves to be petted too.

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I would not advise this method at all based on what you have posted. You do need to get him neutered. It matters not that he is an indoor cat. As he gets older, he will become aggressive, he will spray your walls. Tomcats just do that, driven by the testerone inside.

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Ugh, i've had enough of this so i come to seek advice.

This is a good place to find advice.


I've had my cat Miniie since he was a little tiny kitten, hence the name Miniie or Miny. I don't think i ever remember him being sweet since he was little.. The only time he acts like he loves me now is when he is hungry and im the kitchen. He doesn't really like me to pet him, unless again im in the kitchen and he suddenly starts rubbing on my leg and purring.

He isn't asking for pets here. He is marking you with his scent, an ownership technique that cats have. He is purring in anticipation of being fed. Most cats will purr before feeding, it is a programmed response. A purr is the first sound a kitten feels first and then hears.




If hes on my bed sleeping and i pet him he bites me or he grabs my hand and bites and kicks it.. My hands are literally messed up i have scratches and cuts all because of him. I love him so much and it hurts me that he acts this way with me

I wouldn't pet him at all. Some cats just don't like to be touched. They have specialized tactile pads covering their skin at the rate of about 25 pads per centermeter. They can become overstimulated easily and when they do, they will bite. If he is kicking you, I am guessing he is rabbit kicking you because you are touching his belly. To some cats, belly touches are an invitation to war.

My old cats vet ( she ran away, i guess my mom let the door open or something) had once told me that if she misbehaved to spray her with water, but i dont want him to hate me more so i dont really do that.. Unless he really hurts me, i spray him quickly so he would let go.

You really should not be spraying this cat, especially if he is hurting you. Instead try the ignore game. See to his needs, but ignore him. Feed him, make sure he has water, scoop his litter pans, but otherwise act as if he doesn't exist for awhile, and he will come around.

I try saying NO! when he is bitting me or Blow air on his face but still that doesnt stop him.. I DONT KNOw WHAT TO DO?!
Why cant he just be nice, im so depressed about this.. Could it be that he is sick or something? But then again this has been happening for months now..

If he does grab you to bite you (because you just can't stand it you have to pet him) then don't pull away from him. Instead, push gently into the mouth or the paws and he will startle and drop you. Then walk away quickly. Don't yell at him, get mad at him, or react any other way than leaving the room.

I deal with feral cats all the time. I used to get bit and scratched on a regular basis, until I learned that some cats just don't like to be touched. Then I was curious as to why and did some research on it.

Just IGNORE him and see what happens.

HELPPPPPP..

Mary Anne, what about redirecting the agression to a toy that is meant for biting? I've heard you recommend that before. Would that help her and the kitten?

If theres one of the many things i've learn't from this site it's to not play with a kitten with your hands.

I did this with Rosie and was covered in scratches and bites, but when i joined TCS i learnt that you shouldn't do that and to do like Ryan has mentioned by distracting them with a toy, especially one on a fishing rod.

I did this when i got Sophie and nearly two years on she's never bit or scratched me

I agree that you should get him neutered! But please do not expect that he won't bite or scratch you after this! He will still be a kitten!

Redirecting their attention works really well, as Ryan and Susan mentioned! I am working on this with my kitten at the moment - although he's generally just experimenting with what he can do and when!

I agree, get him neutered if he is old enough. Sleeves did this so bad and it upset me at times but getting him neutered and getting him a friend to play with has calmed him down no end. He's just lovely now and it seemed to happen overnight.
Good luck with your kitty.

Get him neutered, this will solve a lot of aggression, but not all. He is still in kitten range, and as someone already said rough play is what many kittens are used to, as they are testing out their "skills". Be patient with him, not aggressive back as this only makes it worse, and Im sure that you will be rewarded with a great furball friend.