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Hi all, I'm glad I found this site. maybe you can help
I recently adopted our first cat. We got a 6-8 month old unspayed female from the local shelter.
This is a big step for me because my wife and I are dog lovers and never have had a cat. We wanted a lap kitty and wanted a very young cat, but could't bring ourselves to pass up the older cats at the shelter. It seemed selfish to want a kitten when there are 80 adult cats looking at you!! The one we brought home seemed to be SOOOOO affectionate. At first.
After she got home she steadily got LESS affectionate as she got more comfortable with the house. On day 10, I was feeding her treats in my lap. She got startled and dug her claws DEEP into my groin (yes, she got them both!) I reacted by screaming and swatted her out of my lap. Since then she avoids me and won't be in the same room as me.
It has been 2 weeks and the cat went from a lovable cat who wanted to be held (only while standing) to a cat who seems scared and runs away from us. She was ignoring us before the swatting incident.
Will my cat stay fearful of me? For how long?
And now, this week, I am taking her in to get spayed!! I'm afraid she will never trust me.
Here is my concern. I have NEVER and still don't want an "untouchable cat" I want an affectionate cat that I can live with for many years.
Did I screw up by getting a relative adult? We have not really bonded with this cat, and could still take her back the our local "no kill" shelter. Should I have gotten a kitten? If she is to become a sweet lovable lap cat, wouldn't she have done this by now? Should I give her more time?
I am sorry if I come across as "selfish" but this is a real big step for me. I have always owned VERY AFFECTIONATE dogs. I guess I need that in a cat too.
Any help appreciated
I recently adopted our first cat. We got a 6-8 month old unspayed female from the local shelter.
This is a big step for me because my wife and I are dog lovers and never have had a cat. We wanted a lap kitty and wanted a very young cat, but could't bring ourselves to pass up the older cats at the shelter. It seemed selfish to want a kitten when there are 80 adult cats looking at you!! The one we brought home seemed to be SOOOOO affectionate. At first.
After she got home she steadily got LESS affectionate as she got more comfortable with the house. On day 10, I was feeding her treats in my lap. She got startled and dug her claws DEEP into my groin (yes, she got them both!) I reacted by screaming and swatted her out of my lap. Since then she avoids me and won't be in the same room as me.
It has been 2 weeks and the cat went from a lovable cat who wanted to be held (only while standing) to a cat who seems scared and runs away from us. She was ignoring us before the swatting incident.
Will my cat stay fearful of me? For how long?
And now, this week, I am taking her in to get spayed!! I'm afraid she will never trust me.
Here is my concern. I have NEVER and still don't want an "untouchable cat" I want an affectionate cat that I can live with for many years.
Did I screw up by getting a relative adult? We have not really bonded with this cat, and could still take her back the our local "no kill" shelter. Should I have gotten a kitten? If she is to become a sweet lovable lap cat, wouldn't she have done this by now? Should I give her more time?
I am sorry if I come across as "selfish" but this is a real big step for me. I have always owned VERY AFFECTIONATE dogs. I guess I need that in a cat too.
Any help appreciated