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Ok, I'm not very good at making friends but I have one really good friend I've known for years (actually, he used to be my boyfriend... long story there). But I don't know what to do about him anymore...
He lives about 7 hours away from me so we mostly communicate by email now. We email back and forth practically every day (sometimes more than once a day).
My life has been going much better than before, but I do get the occasional down time where I get depressed by being so lonely. It hadn't happened in months but then it happened again this weekend.
Well, I've noticed a pattern... whenever I email that friend to tell him I am depressed (usually from being so lonely), he ignores me. If I email him about other things at the same time, he will respond to the other part of the email, but never says anything about me not feeling well.
Problem is, I don't have many close friends aside from him, and I am not close to my family. So he's usually the only person I tell when I'm feeling low. And since it's usually loneliness that makes me feel low, a little support would make a big difference. I really don't understand why my friend thinks ignoring me is a good idea. I'm not asking for him to solve my problems, but just a little "sorry you're feeling down" or "hope you feel better soon" would help. But instead, I feel like I'm talking to a wall.
The guy is really smart about a lot of thing but he can be hopelessly dumb when it comes to dealing with people. He probably thinks there's a logic behind the way he's acting.
But I still can't help but wonder how much he really cares about me.
I know I should say something. But I really don't want to start a fight right now (plus I know he's going through though times himself). Also, I don't want him to start being nice because I told him to.
And just cutting him off from my life isn't realistic. Mostly because I don't have any other close friends.
He lives about 7 hours away from me so we mostly communicate by email now. We email back and forth practically every day (sometimes more than once a day).
My life has been going much better than before, but I do get the occasional down time where I get depressed by being so lonely. It hadn't happened in months but then it happened again this weekend.
Well, I've noticed a pattern... whenever I email that friend to tell him I am depressed (usually from being so lonely), he ignores me. If I email him about other things at the same time, he will respond to the other part of the email, but never says anything about me not feeling well.
Problem is, I don't have many close friends aside from him, and I am not close to my family. So he's usually the only person I tell when I'm feeling low. And since it's usually loneliness that makes me feel low, a little support would make a big difference. I really don't understand why my friend thinks ignoring me is a good idea. I'm not asking for him to solve my problems, but just a little "sorry you're feeling down" or "hope you feel better soon" would help. But instead, I feel like I'm talking to a wall.
The guy is really smart about a lot of thing but he can be hopelessly dumb when it comes to dealing with people. He probably thinks there's a logic behind the way he's acting.
But I still can't help but wonder how much he really cares about me.
I know I should say something. But I really don't want to start a fight right now (plus I know he's going through though times himself). Also, I don't want him to start being nice because I told him to.
And just cutting him off from my life isn't realistic. Mostly because I don't have any other close friends.