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post #1 of 16
Thread Starter 
Dylan is a blue/grey tabby with golden eyes, very sleek and elegant, very much the head of my parents' household. He's four-and-a-half years old now, and they've had him since he was just eight weeks.

Right now, my two cats and I are staying with my parents (and their three) because my father is ill. Yesterday, a fight broke out among the cats -- I don't know what started it, but my Clyde and Pearl chased Dylan into the guest room, where he hopped on the windowsill and started hissing ferociously at one and all.

Now we all understand that Dylan's status in the household is challenged by the presence of my cats, and we know he feels a lot of pressure because of it. So we try to reassure him as much as we can.

So I came in and got between my kitties and Dylan while my mom removed them from the room. After they were gone, I apologized to Dylan for the fact that my cats have intruded on his domain. Then I reached out to pet him, which was a mistake -- he clamped down on my left hand and bit me badly, while also digging his claws into my right hand like fishhooks.

I don't know whether it was the right thing to do or not, but I didn't leave him -- I stayed right there and bled and continued to talk to him very quietly until he seemed to settle down. Then I tried again, VERY carefully, and this time he let me stroke his cheek.

Then I went out and cleaned up my wounds, bandaged everything, and about a half-hour later I went and sat beside Dylan again. He looked at my hands and then looked up at me very directly... and bowed his head. He sat with his head bowed for a long time.

This morning, while I was cleaning and rebandaging everything, Dylan hopped up on the counter and looked at the wounds, and again looked me right in the eye for a moment and then bowed his head.

And that's exactly what he did a couple of years ago when he tore a long cut in my mom's ankle. I honestly think this cat is apologizing! Has anyone else had a similar experience?
post #2 of 16
When Harley is naughty (which is all the time ) I'll pick him up and hold him for awhile, and when he knows he's done something bad - he'll purr, and put his head on my shoulder and lick my cheek!
Then he'll look at me with those 'Meowmy-I'm sorry eyes' and I melt!

I love it when he apologizes, I think its just too sweet!
post #3 of 16
Teddy apologizes for throwing up. When he does (and we're not home to catch it), we'll sit and clean it up, and he'll come over, meow, and sit with us until the mess is cleaned up. He'll sometimes bow his head, and also headbutt our hands gently. We tell him there's nothing to apologize for since he can't help but throw up at times, but he still feels bad about it.
post #4 of 16
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Originally Posted by CarolPetunia
Dylan is a blue/grey tabby with golden eyes, very sleek and elegant, very much the head of my parents' household. He's four-and-a-half years old now, and they've had him since he was just eight weeks.

Right now, my two cats and I are staying with my parents (and their three) because my father is ill. Yesterday, a fight broke out among the cats -- I don't know what started it, but my Clyde and Pearl chased Dylan into the guest room, where he hopped on the windowsill and started hissing ferociously at one and all.

Now we all understand that Dylan's status in the household is challenged by the presence of my cats, and we know he feels a lot of pressure because of it. So we try to reassure him as much as we can.

So I came in and got between my kitties and Dylan while my mom removed them from the room. After they were gone, I apologized to Dylan for the fact that my cats have intruded on his domain. Then I reached out to pet him, which was a mistake -- he clamped down on my left hand and bit me badly, while also digging his claws into my right hand like fishhooks.

I don't know whether it was the right thing to do or not, but I didn't leave him -- I stayed right there and bled and continued to talk to him very quietly until he seemed to settle down. Then I tried again, VERY carefully, and this time he let me stroke his cheek.

Then I went out and cleaned up my wounds, bandaged everything, and about a half-hour later I went and sat beside Dylan again. He looked at my hands and then looked up at me very directly... and bowed his head. He sat with his head bowed for a long time.

This morning, while I was cleaning and rebandaging everything, Dylan hopped up on the counter and looked at the wounds, and again looked me right in the eye for a moment and then bowed his head.

And that's exactly what he did a couple of years ago when he tore a long cut in my mom's ankle. I honestly think this cat is apologizing! Has anyone else had a similar experience?
Awwww, what a sweet cat! My cats have never really apologized, mostly because they never get the chance to since I always just pick them up and hold them and pet them and tell them it's okay, and kiss them. I'm always just so worried that they'll feel bad, which makes me feel bad lol.
post #5 of 16
That is sooo sweet!
post #6 of 16
Tiger does that too. If he is too playful and hurts me, he gives me that look saying he's sorry.
post #7 of 16
Bumper doesn't really apologise - he just hides until he thinks you have forgotten about whatever it is he has done then he comes over and is his lovey self like nothing happened.
post #8 of 16
Our kipper gets a bit ferocious when playing with us, and when he's hurt us badly enough, we stop playing, and go bandage our wounds.

Sooner or later, he will come up to us just a purrin away, and puts his head on ours and just stays there. It's little head-butt things that he does to show he's sorry and loves us. I love it, it's so cute.
post #9 of 16
You guys know what anthropomorphizing is, right?
post #10 of 16
Kinah did that once. She attacked my foot while I was cooking... so I got mad and moved her (gently) to the living room. Then she came back, lied down beside my foot, wrapped her front paws around it, licked it and then rested her head on it.
How could I stay mad?
post #11 of 16
haha, Pouncer knows how to apologize too- which is basically sucking up to us. :P When she's knocked over a vase or gone through the trashcan (she has a bad habit of that, even though we try to stop it) and we find the mess, she immediately tries to climb into our laps and rub against our faces.

She used to do it a LOT more when she was younger and we had just adopted her, but now she tries to pretend nothing happened, more often than not.
post #12 of 16
Thread Starter 
Yes, I know what you mean! The really amazing thing to me is that Dylan recognized that he had hurt me, even though I never raised my voice or scolded him at all -- in fact, I went out of my way to be affectionate toward him. So it wasn't just a "let's be friends again" response... I think it really must have been an acknowledgement that he was sorry he hurt me.

And no, no, I'm not anthropomorphizing (ascribing human characteristics to non-humans) -- I'm suggesting that the line between the two is much fuzzier than the human ego has traditionally drawn it. Characteristics that mankind has always assumed are uniquely human... just aren't. It's all a continuum... and every single creature has its own sort of cosmic perfection.

But especially cats!
post #13 of 16
It's amazing when you come across some special animals that know how to communicate so you understand! Our Sweety would never apologize, she has'nt had a reason to yet, but she does thankyou after almost every meal! She will meow in a distinctive way untill you say "Your welcome sweety."
Sometimes the give and take respect relationship is the most honored in the animal kingdom, which we are very much a part of!
post #14 of 16
Wow. My cats don't apologise. Even if they do something wrong they would still expect ME to apologise to THEM.
post #15 of 16
My cat Creep can be a pain in the arse at times. She doe's say sorry but rarely. for some reason she loves clawing my b.f when she jumps onto his lap.
post #16 of 16
I had just bought a new snake cage (very pricey one) and had it all set up in my room. I leave for a minute, come back and find Boomer has jumped on top of it breaking the lid! I was very mad. About five min later he came back in, came up to me, and started purring and rubbing on me. He looked so guilty that I just couldn't let him sit there, so I gave in. He also comes and comforts me when I'm sad.He's such a sweetheart, yet sometimes he can behave like a two year old
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