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post #31 of 60
5/5/06 at 8:15pm
I had known my first husband, since I was eight years old. We went to the same church. HE turned out to be abusive.

My last husband and I lived in a small town and belonged to the same community organizations. That's how we met. After 12 years, he began surfing hard-core porn sites and deserted me for a piece of Internet trash.

Why not try the dating sites? So far, its working out better than church or community groups, for me. No matter WHERE you go to meet people, you pays your money and you takes your chances.
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post #32 of 60
5/5/06 at 10:33pm
Maybe I should try online just scared of weirdos...
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post #33 of 60
5/6/06 at 4:31am
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Originally Posted by momof3rugratz
Maybe I should try online just scared of weirdos...
Weirdos are EVERYWHERE. You should see the guys, at my job
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post #34 of 60
5/6/06 at 4:51am
I never tried online dating, but I have met some wonderful people online, made great friendships and done business (still am), as in putting my total trust, in people I had only talked to online.

I have people I consider as dear friends (some from this board ) that I know only online. Some I have not even seen a picture of. Doesn't matter, they are still close friends and if we ever meet, we're going to literally fall on each other and hug hard and close

Are there weirdos and scammers online? Sure, but in my humble experience, not anymore than the so called "real world", and by using common sense you can tell them out as easily as you can in the real world.

If I had to go out "dating" again, this is what I would do, and that's just me. I would stay away from dating services, be them online of irl, and find groups/forums of people with similar interests to mine, maybe from the same region as me as well. Getting to know people, both men and women, with whom I can just hang out, talk, have fun...
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post #35 of 60
5/6/06 at 10:11am
My mom said to try the match.com but I am scared of getting a freak or a child molester muderer or a abuser... Just to scared of the world lol
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post #36 of 60
5/6/06 at 10:24am
A couple of years ago I did the online thing. I only had one legit relationship, the rest were all just weirdos. In fact the one legit relationship I did have he randomly called me (the week of my birthday too) and broke it off in a voicemail. No reasons why, just said its better this way.
I did try online dating again, but the next guy I met up with wound up calling me non-stop for 6 months after I told him it wouldn't work on.
I figured I was better off screening them through local orgs and the bar.

I do still encourage it as it does boost your dating experiences and gives you something to do Friday night. Besides, I attract freaks and weirdos anywhere!
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post #37 of 60
5/6/06 at 10:49am
LOL I think I will stick to searching my house. I know I need to go out but man life is feel of scary situations...
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post #38 of 60
5/6/06 at 1:44pm
Im happily married! with 3 cats and a bird, life couldn't be any better.

We actually met in a even less popular way. We met over the PHONE, yep on one of those chat lines. It's hard to admit, we always tell everyone thatw e met a beach party (because it so happened he was friends, with my best friends friends and we WERE at that beach party at the same time, but we didnt know it....small world) ANYWAY, given yes there are PLENTY of wirdo's looking for a "good time" but he was the only one that didnt ask personal question like "what type of underwaear are you wearing" and that right there told me he wanst a wierdo. He was just lookin for someone to talk to, and so was I.
So we takled for 6 hours straight, we exchanged emails and messengers and we kept it that way for months and months. we talked on the phone and IM all the time.

If it hadn't happened that way, we would have never met, because I was a shy girl and didnt do the dating thing, I just kinda kept to myself all the time. But God works in mysterious ways! and here we are.

I don't think Online dating is bad, you do have to be careful, dont meet anyone straight away, take it slow and you might meet a worthy person!
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post #39 of 60
5/6/06 at 4:03pm
I met Earl on a dating site, which was recommended by several friends. He and I exchanged messages, for several weeks and HE gave me HIS phone number. The first time, that I called him, I blocked my number - just in case. We talked for over an hour and spent most of that laughing.

When we finally DID meet, it was early evening (still light out) and at a restaurant. Our second date was a movie date - once again, I met him THERE. After a lot more messages and phone calls, I felt comfortable enough, to let him pick me up and have my phone number.

You just have to be careful. As a lot of us have said, there are weirdos, no matter WHERE you look.
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post #40 of 60
5/6/06 at 4:15pm
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Originally Posted by LeilaLuv
Im happily married! with 3 cats and a bird, life couldn't be any better.

We actually met in a even less popular way. We met over the PHONE, yep on one of those chat lines. It's hard to admit, we always tell everyone thatw e met a beach party (because it so happened he was friends, with my best friends friends and we WERE at that beach party at the same time, but we didnt know it....small world) ANYWAY, given yes there are PLENTY of wirdo's looking for a "good time" but he was the only one that didnt ask personal question like "what type of underwaear are you wearing" and that right there told me he wanst a wierdo. He was just lookin for someone to talk to, and so was I.
So we takled for 6 hours straight, we exchanged emails and messengers and we kept it that way for months and months. we talked on the phone and IM all the time.

If it hadn't happened that way, we would have never met, because I was a shy girl and didnt do the dating thing, I just kinda kept to myself all the time. But God works in mysterious ways! and here we are.

I don't think Online dating is bad, you do have to be careful, dont meet anyone straight away, take it slow and you might meet a worthy person!
A friend of a friend that I know did that. They met in a chat room (prior to dating sites) chatted, talked on the phone and 8 months later they were walking down the aisle. He lived in California, she lived in Michigan. Gave up her life here and moved out to CA (he's with the National Guard). They're still happily married with 3 dogs.
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post #41 of 60
5/6/06 at 6:25pm
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Originally Posted by lunasmom
A friend of a friend that I know did that. They met in a chat room (prior to dating sites) chatted, talked on the phone and 8 months later they were walking down the aisle. He lived in California, she lived in Michigan. Gave up her life here and moved out to CA (he's with the National Guard). They're still happily married with 3 dogs.
That's an interestingly close variation on what happened to me and dh!
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post #42 of 60
5/8/06 at 3:33pm
in 1994 I met and went out on a date weekend (bowling tournament) with a guy I'd met in a chatroom.
Well, while we were greast in the friends department, there was no chemistry, he's still among one of my best friends today.

in 2000 I met Jeremy online in a game we both played, then arranged to spend a weekend visiting to meet in in real life.
I moved in with him in 2003 (after a three year long distance relationship with vacations spent visiting), we're still together and still, very, very happy.

I only had one bad date from an online meeting, not the creepy kind of bad, just plain bad.
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post #43 of 60
5/9/06 at 5:28am
I had 2 dates with a creep. Both times, I met him in public and he doesn't know where I live. (I didn't realize he was a creep, until the second date).

Actually, I'm glad that he turned out creepy, as I might not have met Earl, otherwise.
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post #44 of 60
5/9/06 at 11:44am
Jerry and I met on line and going on our 7th year!! You just never know when/where/how you'll meet that special someone, and as long as your not hurting anyone or is illegal, I think however you meet is acceptable!
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post #45 of 60
5/9/06 at 5:47pm
I might give it a try...
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post #46 of 60
5/26/06 at 8:06am
I met Zack online 5 years ago, and we've been married almost 4 now
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post #47 of 60
5/26/06 at 8:22pm
After a month of dating, Earl and I haven't worked out but, I'm now chatting with Bruce, met him for breakfast, last Sunday and will meet him again, this Sunday.
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post #48 of 60
5/26/06 at 8:39pm
Maybe I will give it a try... There is free things going on for it right now...
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post #49 of 60
5/26/06 at 8:39pm
I met my hubby on AOL also 10 yrs ago we have been married 9 years this August, Couldn't be better
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post #50 of 60
5/26/06 at 11:15pm
I did it once and that was anough for me.... The guy I met was crazy and ended up stalking me for about a 6 month period. He calimed it was coincidental I seriously doubt that you can majoicly end up behind the same car everytime that person leaves their house. He always seemed to be there. He He had the nerve to find my parents before a peprallly, and ask them why I dumped him and how he could get me back. He then called me seconds after my parents did because he knew I was home and argued with me for 15 mins. I was so mad I was shaking. He then blamed my friend for our break up and cornered her to yell at her. He somehow thought if he spread lies about me and call me names, I would come back to him. Thankfully my fiance was there for me and help me get through it.

Moral of the story.... NEVER DATE PEOPLE YOU MEET ONLINE!
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post #51 of 60
5/28/06 at 9:58am
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Originally Posted by Rockcat
Well, I think Fwan and Wyan should take a shot at it.
I cant believe i missed this thread?
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post #52 of 60
5/28/06 at 10:01am
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Originally Posted by eburgess
I did it once and that was anough for me.... The guy I met was crazy and ended up stalking me for about a 6 month period. He calimed it was coincidental I seriously doubt that you can majoicly end up behind the same car everytime that person leaves their house. He always seemed to be there. He He had the nerve to find my parents before a peprallly, and ask them why I dumped him and how he could get me back. He then called me seconds after my parents did because he knew I was home and argued with me for 15 mins. I was so mad I was shaking. He then blamed my friend for our break up and cornered her to yell at her. He somehow thought if he spread lies about me and call me names, I would come back to him. Thankfully my fiance was there for me and help me get through it.

Moral of the story.... NEVER DATE PEOPLE YOU MEET ONLINE!
This is what spoks me....
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post #53 of 60
5/28/06 at 10:09am
I have met over 100 people from the Internet, and many of them were/are great friends.
I dont date online, but i do pick people out to meet to hang out in reality when it gets boring at home.
I have been meeting people since i was 12, ive had good and bad times, but once you start to get to know the person you naturally just want to meet them face to face for a cuppa coffee.

Some of my really good friends are from the internet, and are much better than the ones ive met in reality. (school, sports ect)

If i have a bad feeling of a person I DONT meet them full stop.
I am grateful that i have the internet, or esle i would be a loner right now
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post #54 of 60
5/28/06 at 10:55am
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Originally Posted by momof3rugratz
This is what spoks me....
Just look at the range of what has been shared in this thread though..and learn what you can from it, don't discount how many of us are now married, happily to the fellows we met online.

Looking ahead here to my 11th anniversary coming up in October!
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post #55 of 60
5/28/06 at 2:58pm
I think the bottom line really is that you can meet kooks anywhere -- just as you can meet good people anywhere. The fact that they were on the other side of a computer doesn't have any more to do with what kind of person they are than meeting them in a bar, in your office, in a shared activity, in church. So, as you would in any of those situations, it's necessary to use common sense and protect your boundaries until you've had a chance to get to know the person.

I'm not looking, nor do I expect to be, but I know that if I were, I wouldn't rule out looking online.
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post #56 of 60
5/28/06 at 5:49pm
How do you meet them online.... Everyone tells me to try Match.com... I am not sure...
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post #57 of 60
5/28/06 at 5:54pm
I wasn't looking for anyone at all three years ago when I started talking to my now bf online. We moved on to phone conversations which would last or hours. We grew very close, and I met him and later moved in with him. We've now been living together for over two years and are still very much in love.
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post #58 of 60
5/28/06 at 6:00pm
AWW this is so sweet great story for the kids later on..

I think mine is going to be hard because I am 30 I have 3 kids and they are the center of attention...They will be first..
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post #59 of 60
5/28/06 at 6:59pm
In part because of how long ago this was, there was no match.com etc back then. I met dh via shared interests - we were both sysops (similar to moderators here) on a pets forum.

So...I'd suggest any forum community around things that interest or matter to you
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post #60 of 60
5/28/06 at 7:00pm
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Originally Posted by Pat & Alix
In part because of how long ago this was, there was no match.com etc back then. I met dh via shared interests - we were both sysops (similar to moderators here) on a pets forum.

So...I'd suggest any forum community around things that interest or matter to you
AWW Your story just got better.. Happy also..
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