I had a terrible phone call from my daughter, Faith, tonight. Her half-brother Graham's wife, my ex-husband's daughter-in-law, is suffering from terminal cancer at the age of 39. They have been keeping it secret, but Debbie had a double mastectomy in September and has been on chemo ever since. Now she has had bad headaches and they have confirmed that the cancer has moved to her brain. They have two daughters, aged 17 and 15. The extra really terrible thing for both Graham and for my ex, is that Graham's elder brother, Neil, died from leukaemia at the age of 13. I lived through it with them, and now they have it all over again. I cannot imagine what it must be like to have this happen twice. My ex has a new wife to help and support him, and Faith will do her best for her brother, but I know what they went through last time and I feel so helpless as not part of the family any more. There is absolutely nothing I can do - my ex's wife has always refused even to meet me (I have never understood why, as she met him years after we split). Please remember them all in your prayers and thoughts.