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post #31 of 52
Also, sorry if this is a stupid question and not part of the thread but what does SO stand for? I've only just learned what DH is lol
post #32 of 52
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Originally Posted by Pombina
Also, sorry if this is a stupid question and not part of the thread but what does SO stand for? I've only just learned what DH is lol
It's Significant Other!
post #33 of 52
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Originally Posted by Sar
It's Significant Other!
Ok, thanks! wow I'm so last week I have no idea what these things mean
post #34 of 52
Oh my - I would NEVER leave the house if he were sick - NEVER. What if he suddenly needed immediate medical attention? When one of us is sick we always end up taking care of the other. The "healthy" one always ends up making a trip to the store for necessities - ginger ale, crackers, nice soft lotion tissues, cough drops, etc. The only concession that we will make is if the "sick" one can't sleep and is keeping the other awake, sometimes one of us will go in the guest room. Even if we do this, we keep checking in on each other.
post #35 of 52
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Oh my - I would NEVER leave the house if he were sick - NEVER. What if he suddenly needed immediate medical attention? When one of us is sick we always end up taking care of the other. The "healthy" one always ends up making a trip to the store for necessities - ginger ale, crackers, nice soft lotion tissues, cough drops, etc. The only concession that we will make is if the "sick" one can't sleep and is keeping the other awake, sometimes one of us will go in the guest room. Even if we do this, we keep checking in on each other.


I was sick and at home for a few days last week, my BF made me up a bed in the living room for during the day, made me soup, spent the night putting cold cloths on my head because I had a fever, I would have been so mad if he left me on my own sick as I did not feel up to doing much at all. When he is sick its the exact same thing... I hate ickness but I love my BF enough to cope with it for a few days to care for him
post #36 of 52
Yea what is DH? i knwo SO but i cant figure out DH!


I would have to agree that it is a little mean that you left him while he was sick. i take care of my guy when he is sick. soup,movies, games, whatever will make him feel better. Some times he doesnt want me around so i make sure he has everything he needs and leave him until he needs something else.
post #37 of 52
My fiance has the flu right now . Poor guy, he's miserable. I do what I can for him, getting him drinks and making dinner (ok I don't do that that often, so its kind of big!). Not that he'll be that hungry.

If I get sick, then I get sick. Not a big deal. Being sick is miserable but it can sort of cleanse your body at the same time. I always come out of the flu feeling wonderful in the end. Of course I haven' thad the flu in over 4 years... Maybe I'd feel different about it now .

My biggest problem is sore throats. I can handle everything else but the sore throats throw me real bad.

Encourage him to take tylenol or other over-the-counter pain killers as they surprisingly do help releive some symptoms and then take things that will help build the immune system. When someone gets sick at home I always start taking goldenseal and vitamin C as they will help me fight the problem before it gets into my system. If you obsess to much over it then you will probably get it.
post #38 of 52
I can relate. I am a germ freak. Just keep everything clean (bed, sheets pillows, lysol the couch and door knobs), wash your hands good and i always take a vitamin C to make myself feel better lol

I hate it when people come to work sick....thats what normally ends up getting me.
post #39 of 52
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Originally Posted by jane_vernon
I would just stay and be there for him....If I catch it, I catch it..

me too. No questions. If he's good enough to share a bed with, then he's good enough to be sick with.
post #40 of 52
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Originally Posted by yasmine
I hate it when people come to work sick....thats what normally ends up getting me.
This annoys me too - I understand they want to get paid - but why make EVERYONE sick? Someone came in last week with really bad Bronchitis and of course now half of the workers are off sick!
post #41 of 52
when bf is sick i snuzzle him and cuddle him and I take extra good care of him.. so that when I'm sick a week later he does the same for me
post #42 of 52
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Originally Posted by icklemiss21
This annoys me too - I understand they want to get paid - but why make EVERYONE sick? Someone came in last week with really bad Bronchitis and of course now half of the workers are off sick!
This is a whole other topic, but since everyone is talking about it.... I just wanted to briefly add that in some cases employers make it very hard for people who are sick to stay home. Thankfully I don't have that problem, but some people need the money to pay bills, feed kids, etc. Some fear losing their job for taking time off. Even if they have sick days they might feel that they would rather use those days to take care of their kids when they are sick as opposed to using them for themselves.
I think that changes need to be made with emplyers before this problem will be corrected. Just a thought
post #43 of 52
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Originally Posted by icklemiss21
This annoys me too - I understand they want to get paid - but why make EVERYONE sick? Someone came in last week with really bad Bronchitis and of course now half of the workers are off sick!
people who come into work sick are only trying to prove what "team players" they are and such. NOt fair to the others.

My BF was sick for almost a month (a cold, then turned into full-blown bronchitis b/c idiot boy wouldn't listen to me and walked to the gym in the freezing cold AND did a full work out...silly head )...and I *still* (knock on wood) have not caught it. I thought it might have been my flu shot but he had his too and still got sick (not flu tho'). I would expect him to get me comfort food and my ginger ale and kleenex...well, I don't get sick (again, knock on wood) but he gets sick at least once per winter...I figure, I'm due for extra special attention!
post #44 of 52
When we're off work sick, I am at present as torn a ligament in my knee, we get phonecalls from work asking us when we're coming back. Its almost harressment. I turn my phone off and say I was asleep. Some people come into work when there sick due to the pressure from there bosses.
post #45 of 52
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Originally Posted by squirtle
This is a whole other topic, but since everyone is talking about it.... I just wanted to briefly add that in some cases employers make it very hard for people who are sick to stay home. Thankfully I don't have that problem, but some people need the money to pay bills, feed kids, etc. Some fear losing their job for taking time off. Even if they have sick days they might feel that they would rather use those days to take care of their kids when they are sick as opposed to using them for themselves.
I think that changes need to be made with emplyers before this problem will be corrected. Just a thought
Although I don't want my co-workers infecting me, I do understand that sometimes people just have to come in for the reasons you mentioned. I've been there. Bosses do need to understand that people get sick, but also, there are those who call in sick when they are not, making bosses suspicious. That kind of thing ruins it for people who are sick.

As far as changes being made by the employers - it would be great. Unfortunately, many small businesses nowadays are under so much pressure just to survive, some of them cannot afford to increase or begin paying for sick days.
post #46 of 52
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Originally Posted by squirtle
This is a whole other topic, but since everyone is talking about it.... I just wanted to briefly add that in some cases employers make it very hard for people who are sick to stay home. Thankfully I don't have that problem, but some people need the money to pay bills, feed kids, etc. Some fear losing their job for taking time off. Even if they have sick days they might feel that they would rather use those days to take care of their kids when they are sick as opposed to using them for themselves.
I think that changes need to be made with emplyers before this problem will be corrected. Just a thought
I'm the only girl in the office at my job and its very hard for me to call in sick unexpected, they NEED me, and there is no back up for me, which really bites. They are really good about being OK about it - but I can tell when I call in sick, they are a bit irritated, but I'd rather be home getting better than spreading my sickness to my technicions!
post #47 of 52
Thread Starter 
Hi all,

Thank you for your honesty.

It was not the flu, it was either food poisoning or a stomach bug and I have a real phobia of vomiting, which is why I could not stay.

I am recieving therapy for it, as it can really affect my life, how could I ever be pregnant, or look after my kids.

So far I have cleaned up after Villy when she was sick, which was a big breakthrough for me.

I'm working on it.

When he has a cold of flu, I do as you said, take care of him no end.

The next night I looked after him loads, I brought him a cold flannel for his head, made him toast, brough him medicine and new dressing gown, tracksuit bottoms and slippers to cheer him up as his were all worn out.

It tears me up, I was crying with frustration at not being able to look after him in his hour of need. Believe me I'm working on it.

I feel so bad for abandoning him.
post #48 of 52
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Originally Posted by Jessy
Hi all,

Thank you for your honesty.

It was not the flu, it was either food poisoning or a stomach bug and I have a real phobia of vomiting, which is why I could not stay.

I am recieving therapy for it, as it can really affect my life, how could I ever be pregnant, or look after my kids.

So far I have cleaned up after Villy when she was sick, which was a big breakthrough for me.

I'm working on it.

When he has a cold of flu, I do as you said, take care of him no end.

The next night I looked after him loads, I brought him a cold flannel for his head, made him toast, brough him medicine and new dressing gown, tracksuit bottoms and slippers to cheer him up as his were all worn out.

It tears me up, I was crying with frustration at not being able to look after him in his hour of need. Believe me I'm working on it.

I feel so bad for abandoning him.
A real phobia like you have is totally different than being uncaring.
post #49 of 52
At least you are doing something about it, well done to you and good luck
post #50 of 52
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Originally Posted by Jessy
I feel so bad for abandoning him.
Don't beat yourself up Jessy It sounds like you did a wonderful job at taking care of him and really trying to work through your fear. I am confident that you will come to a point where you are able to do so and you will be able to take care of your kids when the time comes, as well as your furry babies and your bf (possibly husband then as well )
post #51 of 52
My fiancè, whom I've lived with for a year, is a brittle Type 1 diabetic. He's always sick with something or another, but it's frequently worsened by his severe diabetes. When we started dating, I knew it'd take strength and determination to help him through his sick days, but I do it because I love him. I could care less whether or not he gets me sick as long as I know he's being taken care of. When you love someone, I don't think you give it a second thought.
post #52 of 52
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Originally Posted by Rockcat
A real phobia like you have is totally different than being uncaring.
Yup. You stay when you can, you're in therapy to try to get over the times you can't, and, more importantly, "abandoning" him bothers you. So, no, you are not uncaring. You just have issues to work through. (Don't we all?) Best of luck with the counseling.
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