Calling all you who live with your boyfriend/girlfriend!

Originally Posted by hissy

If you love him, you stay with him. Especially when he is ill. How would you feel if you got deathly ill and he bailed on you? Take your vitamins, drink plenty of liquids, practice good hygiene and you should be fine.

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When Michael gets sick I take care of him. I know when I am sick I want him to hold me because it makes me feel better. If you really love him you shouldn't be afraid of his germs. You are partners, if one of you is ill, it is the other's responsibility to take care of you. Just wash your hands and don't touch your face and drink orange juice. If you catch it, well then that's love, sharing each other's illness.

That sounds really selfish to leave a sick person, who you say you care about, alone because and when they are sick.
How would you feel if he did that to you?
Sorry, but that is not right!

See I don't really have to worry about it too much because my boyfriend is never sick! I think in over the six years we have been together, he has had one cold. Lucky him eh? lol But if he were to become ill, I wouldn't leave him...I would take care of him.
Now I, on the other hand, get sick at least 3 times a year! Meh! I'm usually really strong when it comes to most things (injuries etc); however, sickness brings out the big baby in me.
My boyfriend's pretty good about it when I'm not feeling well...he brings me soup, drinks, and tries his best to keep me comfortable. Although I wouldn't necessarily mind if he slept on the couch, I would be upset if he left me while I was feeling ill.

Anyway, to reduce your chances of becoming sick, wash your hands A LOT, make sure you're getting enough sleep, and drink lots of fluids.

I would stay and look after him. However, it sounds as though you have more of an unnatural fear of illness rather than just a general `ickiness' which most people can overcome. Can you talk to your doctor about this?

"In sickness and in health..."

I'm usually the one that gets sick, but my guy has been so supportive whenever I get sick... and he just takes lots of vitamins and heath boosters. Occasionally he'll come down with it and then we just share the misery!

As Eva has a chronic illness and is bedbound I care for her all the time. When we came into this relationship part of it as far as i'm concerned is looking after the other person when there down or ill, well thats what a relationship is about. Last night I was really ill with a Migraine there was sick and me screaming. Eva obviously is unable to do much but the fact that she is by me talking is comforting enough.

Jessy, I've got to agree with the majority so far that when one makes a committment to live with someone, then that's what you do. You don't avoid difficulty when it's convenient for you, even if that's your inner desire. Would you expect him to up and take off at the first sign of you taking ill? What if an illness was more accute and he or you required more watchful attention?

This is what living together is all about. If your relationship is on firm ground, and escalates to the next step, then this phobia, as you called it, will become a real deal breaker. Mark my word on that - your relationship will not survive this behavior over the long haul.

If you are, in fact, serious enough to stay together, then I would look into getting counseling and discovering what the underlying precipitator is of this avoidance behavior, before something happens that you don't expect, or want. I'm talking about negative consequences.

Sorry to paint a vivid picture here, but I believe if you were serious enough to post the question here in the first place, then you deserve a straight and candid answer.

I stay by steves side...and usually end up getting it. which stinks because of my low immune system but its part of together.

Mark rarely gets sick but when he does I love looking after him. He does the same for me. I got a stomach bug before Christmas and was being sick all night, he went out and got me bottled water and some other things to make me feel better and this was the only night I've ever wanted him to sleep on the sofa, and he did, I was just so restless and up and down to the bathroom every 15 minutes or so, and he would have got no sleep at all. He looked after me pretty good that time, I was impressed.

Also, sorry if this is a stupid question and not part of the thread but what does SO stand for? I've only just learned what DH is lol

Originally Posted by Pombina

Also, sorry if this is a stupid question and not part of the thread but what does SO stand for? I've only just learned what DH is lol

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It's Significant Other!

Originally Posted by Sar

It's Significant Other!

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Ok, thanks! wow I'm so last week I have no idea what these things mean

Oh my - I would NEVER leave the house if he were sick - NEVER. What if he suddenly needed immediate medical attention? When one of us is sick we always end up taking care of the other. The "healthy" one always ends up making a trip to the store for necessities - ginger ale, crackers, nice soft lotion tissues, cough drops, etc. The only concession that we will make is if the "sick" one can't sleep and is keeping the other awake, sometimes one of us will go in the guest room. Even if we do this, we keep checking in on each other.

Oh my - I would NEVER leave the house if he were sick - NEVER. What if he suddenly needed immediate medical attention? When one of us is sick we always end up taking care of the other. The "healthy" one always ends up making a trip to the store for necessities - ginger ale, crackers, nice soft lotion tissues, cough drops, etc. The only concession that we will make is if the "sick" one can't sleep and is keeping the other awake, sometimes one of us will go in the guest room. Even if we do this, we keep checking in on each other.

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I was sick and at home for a few days last week, my BF made me up a bed in the living room for during the day, made me soup, spent the night putting cold cloths on my head because I had a fever, I would have been so mad if he left me on my own sick as I did not feel up to doing much at all. When he is sick its the exact same thing... I hate ickness but I love my BF enough to cope with it for a few days to care for him

Yea what is DH? i knwo SO but i cant figure out DH!


I would have to agree that it is a little mean that you left him while he was sick. i take care of my guy when he is sick. soup,movies, games, whatever will make him feel better. Some times he doesnt want me around so i make sure he has everything he needs and leave him until he needs something else.

My fiance has the flu right now . Poor guy, he's miserable. I do what I can for him, getting him drinks and making dinner (ok I don't do that that often, so its kind of big!). Not that he'll be that hungry.

If I get sick, then I get sick. Not a big deal. Being sick is miserable but it can sort of cleanse your body at the same time. I always come out of the flu feeling wonderful in the end. Of course I haven' thad the flu in over 4 years... Maybe I'd feel different about it now .

My biggest problem is sore throats. I can handle everything else but the sore throats throw me real bad.

Encourage him to take tylenol or other over-the-counter pain killers as they surprisingly do help releive some symptoms and then take things that will help build the immune system. When someone gets sick at home I always start taking goldenseal and vitamin C as they will help me fight the problem before it gets into my system. If you obsess to much over it then you will probably get it.

I can relate. I am a germ freak. Just keep everything clean (bed, sheets pillows, lysol the couch and door knobs), wash your hands good and i always take a vitamin C to make myself feel better lol

I hate it when people come to work sick....thats what normally ends up getting me.

Originally Posted by jane_vernon

I would just stay and be there for him....If I catch it, I catch it..

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me too. No questions. If he's good enough to share a bed with, then he's good enough to be sick with.

Originally Posted by yasmine

I hate it when people come to work sick....thats what normally ends up getting me.

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This annoys me too - I understand they want to get paid - but why make EVERYONE sick? Someone came in last week with really bad Bronchitis and of course now half of the workers are off sick!