Calling all you who live with your boyfriend/girlfriend!

What do you do when your partner is ill? My boyf is ill, he was being sick all night last night. I have a very real phobia of this so I freaked out and had to go stay with a friend. I feel like such a bad girlfriend for not being able to stay and look after him.
I'm sitting with him now, but now I' still so paranoid about catching it I'm really anxious and can't relax.
What do you normal people do in this situation? Just get on with life? Sleep in seperate beds? HELP!!!!!

I live with my SO - John, we've lived together for about 8 months now.

He had the flu this weekend while I was gone, but he still did not feel good when I got back on Sunday, so he layed on the couch and we watched his favorite movie and I made him some soup. Whenever one of us is sick - and its usually me, he hardly ever gets sick, but we still sleep in the same bed, stay in the same apartment, all that stuff. I'm sure to change the sheets and clean everything really good (ie: the bathroom, bedroom) to be sure to get all the icky germs out if I can!

I figure that if your willing to live with someone, your bound to get sick together too!

If he's got the flu I'd recommend separate beds just so you don't catch what he has. But leaving him when he's sick is, well, sorta cold. Just my opinion. At least stay and bring him soup and juice and stuff. As somebody who lives alone, the one thing I miss when I'm sick is having someone to baby me. LOL

I would just stay and be there for him....If I catch it, I catch it..

Originally Posted by jane_vernon

I would just stay and be there for him....If I catch it, I catch it..

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Me too. When my fiancee is sick it breaks my heart.

Trust me I don't like getting sick either, but I'll still let him sleep in the bed, etc.

On the other hand, when I'm sick I have to sleep on the couch. He has diabetes which comes hand in-hand with a low immune system. My cold could be his pneumonia.



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I have lived with my now fiance (we just got engaged this past year) for 6 years. When he is sick I take care of him, and when I am sick he takes care of me. It kind of goes along with the relationship. I am a firm believer in being there for each other no matter what. If I am not going to take care of him, then who is?

As a matter of fact, he became sick with the flu 2 weeks ago. I took care of him and I ended up with it as well We both missed the entire week of work last week and shared doctors appointments, but spending the week curled up on the couch watching movies was well worth it

If you love him, you stay with him. Especially when he is ill. How would you feel if you got deathly ill and he bailed on you? Take your vitamins, drink plenty of liquids, practice good hygiene and you should be fine.

I have an entirely different attitude about my fiancee being sick and people I work with. Like I said, I would stay and take care of my fiancee, but co-workers... ooo boy - is this one of my pet peeves! If they can't stay home, at least stay off of my phone. Ok - sorry I hijacked, just felt a quick need to vent.

When i lived with my ex i took care of him, he got really ill for a day he stayed in bed, i made him food got him drinks and tablets and just watched over him to see if he needed anything.
When i got sick he took alot of vitamins and he didnt end up catching it.
He has to be rushed to hospital twice while we were together and it was late at night and i went with him, i would of never ever thought to leave him by him self even if its just a cold.

But if you love him and live together i dont see why you would have such a phobia..

Originally Posted by squirtle

When he is sick I take care of him, and when I am sick he takes care of me. It kind of goes along with the relationship. I am a firm believer in being there for each other no matter what. If I am not going to take care of him, then who is?

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I agree!

I could never imagine leaving him when he's sick, I know that I would feel totally miserable if he left me!

If you really, truly have a phobia about getting sick, you might want to look into some therapy. It's one thing to have a phobia about sharks when you rarely travel and live thousands of miles from the ocean, like my father-in-law, but a phobia related to getting sick will definitely interfere with your life. You will get sick at some point; everyone does.

If, on the other hand, you didn't literally mean "phobia," then I recommend saying to yourself, what's the worst that could realistically happen? So, for instance, if your fiancÃ[emoji]169[/emoji] has a cold, and you are generally healthy, realistically the worst that could happen is that you catch his cold and, while your immune system is compromised, you get a bacterial sinus infection, for which you need antibiotics. No fun, true, but really not that big of a deal.

I have to agree with everyone else. Right now I am sick and I would be FURIOUS at Trav if he left me to stay at a friend's place because he was scared to get what I had. I am positive he would be mad if the situation was flip-flopped. I think it is wrong to leave someone that you care about to fend for themselves. When he is sick(which is rarely....I, on the other hand, am ALWAYS sick) my motherly instincts kick in and I don't like leaving his side. Just my two cents

There's nothing worse than being sick AND alone..... I agree with the others.

I have had live in boyfriends, and one husband. IMO, I say cuddle the heck out of him, run him a nice bath, make him chicken soup or chili, bundle the two of you up in a warm blanket and watch movies, and do anything you can to make him feel better. Anything you'd do for yourself (or in my case, everything I could think of that my mother used to do for me ) do for him! One, because it's a nice thing to do, and two, because you're probably gonna catch it anyway if you're breathing the same air, and it will be his turn to take care of you.

I love my husband so much, he is so good to me when I am sick, or any other time.. I bring him juice, make breakfast in bed, and make him take icky cough medicine he hates!!! Could you ever imagine getting a terminal illness and your loved one leaving you?? how heartbreaking!

You are actually most likely to catch a cold the day or two before someone has it and is getting sick.

Jeff and I have lived together for 2 years and I'm the nuturing kind whenever he is sick I take care of him!

Whenever I feel like I'm getting sick with something, or if I'm around someone who is, I take Echinacea-Goldenseal, an herbal supplement that helps boost your immune system. You can get it anywhere - try Walgreens or Walmart....I swear by it and barely ever get sick!!

I'm really germaphobic. But when it comes to the SO getting sick, I suck it up and deal with it. I stay by his side and try to comfort him. I take tons of Echinacea and Vitamin C to boost my immune system whenever I'm around someone sick, and even more when it's the boy.