Originally Posted by lionessrampant
When a person turns about 13, their hormones are telling them to have sex. Obviously, it needs to be talked about before then or the kid is going to be relying on the media for all of their info, not to mention the conflicting messages they're getting from their parents, teachers and religious figures.
Ok, I'm done hijacking this thread. Ryn just got me started
(warning: I got long winded...)
Brava! You hit it exactly. Another thing to add is that even a century or so ago people got married AT
13 or 14. Look at Shakespeare's time. As soon as a girl hit puberty, she was married off. As we grew more technologically advanced over the past century or so, we also got more (dare I say it) paranoid about the kids growing up too soon. We made rules to keep our kids under the parent's control as long as humanly possible. It's all over, but REALLY prevalent here in the US. Now the trends are of people getting married later and later (I'm 33 and choose not to be married... I honestly don't care if I ever do), because of a variety of reasons. Trying to delay maturity is having some serious effects on society.
Our great-grandparents and on back all got hitched at VERY young ages. Why? becuase that's just how it was done. That was the societal norm. Now we delay and delay until it's nearly too late. Those delays are really showing in Japan (saw something on TV... I watch way too much) where women are refusing to get married (the reasons are because they want a career and not just be the good little wife, same thing here in the US, but on a much smaller scale and it's showing quicker there). They're showing a decline in population. Not as many girls are having babies in Japan. There's one area, more rural, where the local government folk are paying women to have babies. And it's some decent cash. I think over the next hundred years or so, we're going to see a population decline... not just from disease, but from a lack of babies being born. Yes, there are some women making LOTS of babies... they're considered odd because they have 10 or 15 kids, but that was commonplace a hundred years ago... it was out of necessity, because the survival rate back then was low, but also because we were more of an agricultural society and the men needed homegrown farmhands. You didn't do high school... you finished at 8th grade and went to work. Of course those 8th graders were a helluva lot smarter and eduated than mondern day 8th graders.
Okay, that's so off topic... but I just kept typing... here's my attempt to keep it within the topic at hand:
We, as a modern society, have gotten continually more spoiled and advanced. We hold on to our kids longer, we're afraid to teach them about sex. Sex being something their great-grandparents were already well-versed in by their age. In fact they were having babies and being responsible parents by 15.
i don't have any answers... I'm not a mom... but if that opportunity is given to me, I would do my damnedest to educate my child on as much as possible, including sex. Don't just hand them some sorry little book about it. Talk to them. They have to grow up and be an adult before too long. Why not give them a heads-up. I think why kids are having sex at 13 or 14 nowadays is out of curiousity. Yes, there is peer pressure, but they don't know what the hell they're doing, so they're naturally curious. Who wouldn't be? If my parents hadn't been so d**n puritanical, I probably would have gotten more curious that early.
Anyone remember the TV show Dharma & Greg? Dharma was awesome! Greg and his family really represented modern society. Dharma was very laid back and comfortabel about sex and love. Of course having hippie parents like those two certainly helped. Although in reality, many children of hippie parents went the exact opposite. i still love that show... i catch the repeats every so often.
Okay, I'm going to go make my dinner now. Something I should have started an hour ago.
Did anything I've said make sense? I do tend to ramble.
I'm going! Really. I'll check back later.