Got a friend for Nermal on New Year's Eve :)

Hiya all, well I we finally got a 3 month old kitten (fermale) for Nermal to play with, she's DSH Siamese Blue Point with the most gorgeous eyes ...the first 3 days were hell...Nermal wouldn't stop growling and hissing at the baby...Well on the 4th day and I was not expecting this at all, they just started playing like old friends, I'm so glad that it only took 4 days and not weeks or months They're so loving towards each other. We've called the little one Lily. Getting Nermal a friend was the best thing ever

Welcome to your new family Lily!
It's great Nermal and Lily are getting along!

I was the same as you, and on the second night of having Nismo I thought we might have made the wrong decision in getting a new kitten. But not long after they were snuggling and playing and cleaning each other. I accidentally shut Nismo in a draw the other night (yes I am quite stupid sometimes but I had no idea she was in there) and I was just going about my business and Sleeves was miaowing his head off!! Then I realised that Nismo wasn't around so we spent 10 mins frantically looking for her then the penny dropped.. but it just shows you he missed her like mad, he absolutely adores her and has really welcomed her into his home.
By the way she was perfectly fine in the draw, when we opened it she was asleep

Thanks guys, but I was just wondering now - since we got Lily Nermal seems a bit distant from us (not that she doesn't love us or anything) but I was thinking, is this because she's got a buddy now and doesn't seem to need us as much or do you think she might still harbour feelings of jealousy now and then - cos she was always the only cat in the house...we give both kitties lots of attention, I don't want my Nermies to think that we prefer Lily to her...another thing that occured to me is that whenever we try to pat Lily or give her love she runs away or flinches, and only afterwards will let us pat her. Perhaps it's just her nature??

Sleeves used to come up onto the bed every night with us, and when we got Nismo he just stopped it made me really sad. He's getting better, he's up a lot more with us now but I suppose I'll never know if it was jealousy or not... Nismo has slept part of the night with us since the first night we had her.
I find the 2 of them play together a lot at night so don't have time for us I actually got up for the loo the other night and I usually see one of them on my way but didnt so I went into the lounge and they were snuggled up together on the sofa...
While it's sad that Nermal doesn't have as much time for you, it's good for her because she has someone to play with when you're not there, and a life long companion.
I think if you give her time she'll give you more and more affection.
As for Lily she has to get to know you she maybe feels a bit strange still, she needs to trust you. Nismo is still like that at times, I just back off and let her come to me, but when she does woooowwwww they are the greatest cuddles in the world

Congratulations on your new addition!

I did the same thing on New Year's Eve, went to the shelter and brought home Luna, a 9 month old female, as a companion for Sophie, my 8 month old female. The first couple of days Sophie did some hissing and growling, but by the third day, they were tearing around the house like maniacs, playing with one another. Like you, I was very relieved that it didn't take weeks or months, although I had been prepared if that would have been the case.

Again, welcome to your new furbaby!!

It's been over a month and April Joy keeps jumping on her Christmas present's back and biting him in an aggressive way. He doesn't want to play with her, he wants to play with me. Part of her behavior toward him is establishing dominance but I think part of it is that she is upset with him for not paying attention to her. I can't wait for the day I see them playing together and cuddling up with each other.

We only allowed supervised visits between Bijou and Mika for a full month and then left them together. They are fine now, but they do play rough sometimes.

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well, i selected an answer, but i've had more than one experience. Cable accepted Java right off. Pixel took a few months to accept Cable... i don't think Mouse ever did, but she was gone 2 months after i got Cable. Medley, my 1st cat, never really accepted Smoke - i finally rehomed Smoke & Medley was much happier. but she had been an only cat for 8+ years before i got Smoke. i think the age of the resident cat, & whether they've had cat companions before, makes all the difference.

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I totally agree! I have had Chichi for about 16 years, she was the only indoor cat. We have had other cats, but they were alley cats ( ferals) and the only time they would come in was to eat. I adopted Murphy back in Oct. (nov?) and he and Chichi, lets say, tolerate each other. Sometimes they can walk by each other, lay close together (no snuggling yet) other times, blah! Sometimes Chichi won't even let him pass by her without a hiss and a swat. It is her really, Murphy wants nothing more than to be her playmate, she could care less. But compared to how they got along at first, they are best friends I say at least another 3-5 months before any true friendships will form between my babes

I have the opposite. Our resident cat - Phoebe stopped hissing at the new kitten after a day or so. (she had been an only cat in our house for about 6 years, but we adopted her from a shelter where she was in a communal situation)
BUT, the kitten (now 1.5 yr old cat) is the one with the attitude problem. I swear he is bipolar. He is not cuddly at all. He'll sit or lay on your lap, and that's about it.
He still attacks her and will not stop despite her cries and hissing when he is biting her and pinning her down. We put him away at night (a decent sized room with windows and a nice chair to sit on) with his food, water and litter because we can't trust him. He is twice her size and could inadvertantly hurt her. He is not "nasty" per se, but his behavior is very erratic (even for a young cat) We have had kittens before and nothing like this.
But he seems to like his room, has no problem going in there and our other cat doesn't go in there even when the door is open.

Oh, btw - we have talked to the vet about it and the vet said it is probably because we found him at 5 weeks (max!) and abandoned kittens very often have behavioral problems their whole lives. He had a kitten that he got at 4 weeks, and it had issues.

Congratulations! I'm lucky, it doesn't take long for my gang to accept a "newbie."

Meowser was a spoiled only child for the first 4 months I had him. Then I brought Munch home and he was as friendly as can be. I think that's what won Meowser over, Munch has just always been such a friendly guy. Meowser was hissing, growling, and spitting for about 3 days. After that, they became best buds. They're partners in crime, always making messes while mom is asleep.