Originally Posted by DixieDarlin256
Thank you everyone. I didnt get hurt. It was mainly pushing and shoving. I have talked to him a few times this morning and he doesnt remember anything that happened and when I told he started crying and apologized over and over about it. I have to honestly say that I didnt want him to go to jail, just more or less scare him and didnt expect it to go to these extremes. He has a hearing today and 1:30 and I can go there to speak either against or for his behalf. Im debating on going even though I told him I would. Im just SO confused about it all. When he's sober, he would NEVER even raise his voice to me or the children much less a hand. I seriously think it was blown out of proportion specially because my nosey neighbor came out saying he heard it all which is B.S. and I told the police I have never seen or met this neighbor in my life, but what ever he said added fuel to the fire... anyone have any advice on what I should do?
I am so sorry for what you went through. I grew up surrounded by alcoholics, of course everybody just called them drunks and somehow that made it all better.
It's scary when they turn violent. I refuse to be around anyone when they drink now and I let them know it.
I know this is harsh but if I were you, I'd go the hearing and speak. Don't speak for him or against him, just tell the judge what happened and let it go from there. If the judge let's him off great, if not then he'll have to pay the price for his drinking and maybe he'll learn his lesson.
The only other piece of advice I have for you is to sit down and have a discussion with him about this. Sorry to say I'd put my foot down and flat out tell him, it's either the alcohol or you, he needs to choose one or the other. If he only become violent when he drinks, then he needs to stop drinking period.
Keep yourself and children safe first, worry about him second. Like everybody else says, you can't help someone who doesn't want help. The only thing you can do is lesson the impact of his drinking on you and your children.