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The Week of Introspection Dec. 24 - 31

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I have learned something in the past two months, and it goes something like this:

When the doctor said "get your affairs in order, it appears like you have a malignancy and you'll need two months off" - the world STOPS. You go through all the thoughts that people naturally do, to see if you have any regrets and what you would do differently. Sail to Bolivia, become a writer in Vermont, divorce or ditch your partner - the works. People do this stuff. I looked around and realized that I was in the right job, I did sleep with the right guy, I was happy, and I really wouldn't change much of anything. So if I had to say goodbye because my number was up, then so be it. I probably wouldn't do anything dramatic and life-changing. No different job, no trip to Bolivia, no different guy. It spoke volumes to me.

I also know that regardless of your spiritual center, God speaks to us in ways we understand. The messages abound in the natural world if we listen.

What do you hear?
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Wow Eddie, what a great thread idea!

In these past three months I feel like I've run the gamet of emotions, scratch that: I KNOW I've been through all the emotions one could possibly think of! I've learned so much though, it's really so hard to even believe what's come of the worst heartbreak I've ever (and hopefully WILL ever) had to endure. Not only have I gotten to see what amazing girlfriends I have and what great lengths they're willing to go for me, but I've also seen exactly what I'm capable of. Gosh darn it I'm one strong woman, and I'm so proud of myself for that. What I've also seen through this, and this is something that I think is hard for a lot of people to see when faced with tragedy or great loss, is that sometimes these things happen so you can be open to new and different possibilities. Sometimes if that awful event hadn't occured you wouldn't be able to experience other great things that may come along. So many things have happened to me in these few months that have been SUCH learning experiences and great joys for me that never would have occurred had my life continued on the same quiet path it was on.

Also, and this is something that I've known for years now and will occassionally come back in the forefront of my mind, always having something to look forward to is a major key to happiness. Life is all about our hopes and expectations, if you can keep something planned or think of something in the future that you're excited about you've always got something to strive toward. This little tidbit has helped me through things big and small over the years.

I just love your words in this Eddie! Great idea!
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I had a lot to think of. Last year, at this time, I was unable to speak except for a few words at a time. On Dec 17, 2004 I had a stroke while at work. The only thing affected was my speech. I was fine one minute, talking and laughing with my friends and the next minute, I was not able to say but two or three words at a time. This was a disaster for me because I use my voice for a living. I am a customer service specialist. The stroke happened just before I was to start my shift (12:30-9pm)

I was taken by ambulance to the hospital (even tho the hospital was across the street, you get seen faster that way) I spent 5 days in the hospital and with therapy was able to go back to work in 7 weeks. While my speech will never be what it was, I have come back 95% to where I was before.

It was a total wakeup call for me. I have high blood pressure but had been lax about taking my medication. I am now on a different BP medication as well as a blood thinner. No one ever expects to have a stroke at age 48, but it can happen at any age. I had ignored the warning signs because I did not recognize them. I know now if I ever have the signs again to get to the doctor fast. Next time I may not be as lucky. I only lost my ability to speak for a short while, I could have been paralized.

That is what I am truly thankful for.
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Wow, these are so touching. Thank you for sharing your experiences!
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After being outsized/downsized from my job of almost 20 yrs in September I am glad that I have the opportunity to do something with my life that I really wanted to do. Yes I have to make some changes in my lifestyle but I knew that my job was ending and it was a good thing. If it hadn't I was going to quit.
Don't spend your life doing a job that you no longer enjoy-it brings you and many people around you down. Now after 3 months it doesn't seem that I ever worked there-but so much time wasted that I could have put to better use.
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