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post #1 of 21
Thread Starter 
Okay so earlier this evening, I received a call from a friend from high school asking if I would be her Maid of Honor in her wedding in September. Not a problem, except this.....

I haven't talked to her in almost 2 years! I know she doesn't have any close friends anymore but I think there should be someone closer than someone she hasn't talked to in a while. We used to be really, really close but grew apart after we both got boyfriends and even further apart when I moved in with Trav. I told her I would think about it. I feel bad saying no just because she DOESN'T have any real good friends anymore. Could someone let me know they're POV? Also, being really close until a year or so ago, I guess I am her closest friend So could someone lend an ear and please gimmie some advice??
post #2 of 21
Well, I say why not? Unless she wants you to wear something hideous and expencive! LOL If she has very few friends, and you used to be close, look at this as a way to rekindle the freindship!
post #3 of 21
I would do it, it is an honor to be asked and the two of you, if you are like any other girlfriends grown apart, when you get together it will be like old times.
post #4 of 21
I would get together with her for coffee or lunch and explain that while you are honored, you feel a little confused since its been awhile since you've really been close.
Maybe she has a sister or cousin who would be a more appropriate choice?
Just tell her your flattered and if she doesn't seem to understand your confusion just go for it....and hopefully the dress won't be too expensive! LOL!
post #5 of 21
I agree.... I would do it. What a honor to be asked even after two years.

If you were great friends once, you could become close friends again. You can never have too many friends


If you are uncomfortable giving her an answer after two years apart tell her you want to get together to celebrate her engagement and meet her fiancee. Then, if you both get along still, give her your answer. If you don't, tell her you just can't do it. I wouldn't lie or make excuses, just tell her you while you are flattered she asked, you just can't do it.

Bobbie
post #6 of 21
Thread Starter 
She doesn't have a sister and I don't think she's even close to her extended family. I think we are getting together tomorrow and I will let her know. I am totally honored (COME ON! TWO weddings in a year!)I also don't know if it'll be too stressful with my sister's wedding in September as well

I would love to do this for Ashley too but I just feel a little awkward. I mean her parents love me. They always said I was a good influence on her. Ho-hum......

I do know her fiance too by the way, luckily....
post #7 of 21
Is this a friendship you would like to rekindle? if so then I would do it Courtney... close friends may drift apart but they are never too far away is what I honestly believe.
post #8 of 21
Thread Starter 
Yes....I would love to keep in touch with at least one friend from my hometown and we were really close. We were student trainers for the football team together and no one else shared that "passion" with us.
post #9 of 21
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Originally Posted by Oscarsmommy
Yes....I would love to keep in touch with at least one friend from my hometown and we were really close.
I think thats your answer then
post #10 of 21
I see no reason not to.
post #11 of 21
I had a friend that I hadn't talked to in about 12 years. One day out of the blue I wrote her a letter, and we've been just as close ever since! I barely ever see her, only about once a year or so, but when we get together, it's like we never left. If she asked me to be her maid of honor, I'd say yes! Do the two of you have this sort of relationship, or is it strained?
post #12 of 21
Quote:
Originally Posted by Oscarsmommy
Yes....I would love to keep in touch with at least one friend from my hometown and we were really close. We were student trainers for the football team together and no one else shared that "passion" with us.
For this reason alone, I would do it.
post #13 of 21
Go for it - and hell, she'll be paying for the pretty dress What've you got to lose!? If anything you'll gain - perhaps a few pounds over the reception dinner, perhaps a friend you thought you'd lost. I'd say it would be an honour to be asked after so long
post #14 of 21
I would!

if i were to get married, i wouldnt have a sister to be my maid of honor, and i am not close with any of my family to give them that role for my wedding.
I was actually going to ask my best friend to be my maid of honor and she lives all the way in australia! (this was when i was engaged to ben)
I was even going to pay for her flight just so she could be here
post #15 of 21
I would do it. How many times would you have the experience?
post #16 of 21
I think that the older you get, the easier it is to drift apart from people. It's not that you don't think of them, it's just that time is more limited and/or priorites change. She obviously thinks of you, so I would feel honored that she asked.
post #17 of 21
It is odd. I can name at least 3 friends that included me in their wedding parties and now we don't even speak. There were also a couple of girls in my own wedding party that I have lost touch with over the years.

Two years ago, a girl I worked with asked me to be her Matron of Honor in her wedding. I accepted, although I was really confused as to why she asked me. Especially since she had a particularly pushy family member that obviously wanted the role. However, I came to the realization that Pam had asked me because she wanted me in that place. I felt honored and performed the duty with that knowledge in my heart.

I would suggest that you do talk to your friend before deciding. She has her reasons for asking you, maybe you just need to hear them as well.
post #18 of 21
Thread Starter 
Thanks for all the GREAT advice, as always!! I also talked to my parents and they are all for it. I definately would do it and we are supposed to be going out to lunch before we both work today (IF I can get a hold of her ) I'll let everyone know how it goes!
post #19 of 21
It's sad that she doesn't have friends anymore, but it took guts to call you after two years and ask you to be her maid of honor! I hope you two can pick up where you left off, or better! You might even be closer now that you've both grown up!
post #20 of 21
I'd do it, too. By the way, what does POV mean?
post #21 of 21
Point Of View.
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