Not my "stuff"-work related

I need to vent to someone, or at least get this out of my brain.
I've been working at my new job for the last 2 months or so. I work at a small coffee shop owned by a woman in her late 20's. She has a fiery temper, a fake smile and is pretty darn demanding of her staff. My major concern with the job is the fact that we get our weekly schedules for Monday on Sunday evening, which proves difficult to have any kind of life.
So here's the gyst: I'm new, the most reliable woman there quit and got a better paying job so I've been assigned her hours/reponsibility. I've messed up, pretty much continuously and with the fiery temper of my boss, felt bad a whole lot (and apologised a whole lot). Regardless of this, I've been assigned the most hours out of the entire staff and usually end up working with a woman that I like rather a lot (who's been working there 2 years).
Today I got my weekly schedule X2 (due to christmas) and an email that was sent out to all of us talking about how unhappy she has been with the way the store has been running the last few weeks and how she's taking more hours to try to sort things out. Basically she's saying the Cory and I have done a poor job.
I'm just so tired of being in trouble and judged. One of my family members told me last night that I should recognise that it's not "my stuff", that she's just spewing negativity onto me and to not take it in. It's so hard to have bosses judgements bounce off though.
Are there good bosses out there? Am I stuck in the "work for yourself or work for a meany" situation? *sigh* I wish I could figure out what to go back to school for so that I wouldn't be so concerned about these minimum wage jobs where they overwork AND underpay you.
So there's my confusing rant. I hope you can make some sense of it.
Thanks for listening
Jess

Jess,
Sorry your job is going so bad. I waitressed and bartended for 19 years and I am soooooooooo glad I am out of that kind of work. Having a bad boss can be a nightmare. Service jobs are already demanding and stressful. Keep your eyes open for another job and take it as soon as you can! Who writes the schedule- your boss, right? She can't even keep up on that and she's yelling at you! Grrr.
I don't know how far you are along with school, but can you take some general classes until you figure it out?

They are all bad! im sorry you are having a bad time at work.
Her temper is even worse now because of the christmas season

My bf had an awesome boss. He really cared about his employees, but he died last week I always wished that he was my boss. I mean he still told you what to do and to shape up if you needed to shape up, but he was understanding and kind a generous.

But anyhow, there have got to be more good bosses out there. Bf's boss worked as an employee in the same area and then worked and worked and worked until one day he opened his own company, so I think the fact that he had done it first kind of made him more compassionate. I think he saw a lot of himself in those guys.

Not all bosses are bad!! Mine is moody, but he remind me of my brother, who I can't stand but would do anything for, so it's not bad.

I have good bosses too. It makes a lot of difference to know you are appreciated.

Did you ever hear this one?

Employee: Boss, If I knew I was going to die in 6 months, I would still want to work for you.

Boss: Why?

Employee: Because it would seem like 6 years.

Aw, comeon, tell it to your boss.

Originally Posted by Rockcat

Jess,
Sorry your job is going so bad. I waitressed and bartended for 19 years and I am soooooooooo glad I am out of that kind of work. Having a bad boss can be a nightmare. Service jobs are already demanding and stressful. Keep your eyes open for another job and take it as soon as you can! Who writes the schedule- your boss, right? She can't even keep up on that and she's yelling at you! Grrr.
I don't know how far you are along with school, but can you take some general classes until you figure it out?

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Yeah, that's my problem. I have my BA in anthropology and was out of work for an entire year because the people with the low paying jobs said I had too much education and the people with the better paying jobs said I didn't have enough. I haven't settled on a field and it's costing me my sanity.

Found an add for a charity group who's looking for people to teach science to underprivilleged kids and the money given to us by the schools goes towards the program and opening a school in India where they don't have one. I'm applying ASAP.

Originally Posted by fwan

They are all bad!

im sorry you are having a bad time at work.
Her temper is even worse now because of the christmas season

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The worst part is that it isn't because of the christmas season, she's just always scary and mean or really nice and fake (ready to blow at any point)

Sorry your haveing a bad time

hope things get better for you soon

Yes, unfortunately there are big mean bosses like that out there. Sounds like she's stressed because she's probably not getting the sales she was hoping for (even if its doing well, bosses ALMOST ALWAYS want more). Plus with it being end of year, that's stressing her out more.

If I were you, I'd keep my eyes peeled. Check out the other workers at potential jobs and see if they're happy there, or "Fake Happy".

I remember working the service jobs too and boy, I started to refuse working for women after a while. They were nice when they were nice, but could be real pa-tooties if not.

I am lucky. My boss is pretty level headed and over all a pretty decent human being. He does have "God Syndrome" at times, but after all it IS his store. I manage a team of 33 in his store. I would never ask them to do something I myself wouldn't do and I am always there for them. Work related or personal. I like to believe they enjoy working with me, because I enjoy working with them.

There are better jobs out there and all "bosses" are not mean. I would start keeping an eye out for help wanted signs though. Sounds like this lady has a bit of "God Syndrome" along with "Does not play well with others Syndrome".

I am a firm believer in Karma. Bad bosses get what's coming to them in the end

Yes ma'am, there are good bosses -- but I've never seen one under 35 or so. It generally takes some time to develop real leadership ability.

If what you describe is the usual attitude around there, you should probably look for something else... it's bad for the soul to work where you feel beaten down and devalued all the time. I did it for 15 years, and I'm only now beginning to recover from the psychic damage done. For me, it became almost like an abusive marriage that I just couldn't bear to put an end to... and the effect on my life has been exactly like what happens to an emotionally abused wife.

So my point is... you mustn't let the situation affect your sense of yourself. And don't invest 15 years in it!

Good luck...