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post #1 of 27
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My husband and I are trying to conceive. We timed everything SO perfectly this month and I thought sure I was pregnant. But today Aunt Flo came.
post #2 of 27
I'm so sorry. You know they say that if you think too hard about it, it stresses your body out and you can't conceive easily. Try having fun with it, try to relax. I'm sure it will happen when the time is right. Good luck!
post #3 of 27
I hope that you are your husband will be able to concieve soon. My husband and I are using the symtothermal method of family planning and it really helps pinpoint the exact day of ovulation. I don't know if that would be of any help to you. There is another book I picked up called "Fertility, Cycles and Nutrition" that I bought to help with PMS, but it has a lot of chapters devoted to infertility. My prayers will be with you and your husband. I hope you will be pregnant soon.
post #4 of 27
oh Im sorry thats not good. I'm sure it will happen for you I really hope it does. Good luck and we'll all keep praying for that baby.
Lauren

P.s Never heard it called 'Aunt Flo' pretty good!
post #5 of 27
wouldnt that mean that in about 7 -10 days your ovulating again??
Best be staying in the lovely cosy bed
post #6 of 27
I'm so sorry this was not the month. You must feel such a great loss having been so sure this time. You and your husband will conceive exactly when the time is right!
post #7 of 27
I'm sorry to hear that. My parents went through a lot of difficulty conceiving too and my mom said it was a real emotional struggle. They did the whole "relax and let it happen" and it didn't work. She went onto fertility drugs and eventually had success with that, but it was a tough journey. I don't know if you're doing this on your own or with a doctor's help, but my friends have used Taking Charge of Your Fertility and found it to be extremely helpful. I bought the book too, as I'm expecting the possibility of fertility issues myself, but haven't read the whole thing yet. Even woman who are not trying to get pregnant have said this is a must-read for all women.

Good luck to you and your DH - our thoughts are with you!
post #8 of 27
my parents took 7years to concieve me, they have four children now!

i'm sorry this wasnt the month for you

sending you baby vibes!
post #9 of 27
I know this is a tough thing. One of my good friends recently had another miscariage. She's wanted nothing more than to be a mommy, so I've been somewhat near your pain lately. I think you've been given some good advice here. Keep your chin up, it will happen! My grandparent's had a very hard time conceiving my Aunt and my Dad. I believe it took them 8 years of marriage before my aunt. Then 2 years later my Dad came along. We know thier struggle had to do with 'the war' as they say (my grandfather was an x-ray tech and my grandmother worked with him) but it's something many people experience. Good luck! I'm sure it will happen soon!
post #10 of 27
I'm very sorry to hear that this month isn't the month for you...but I will send you many baby making vibes!
post #11 of 27
aaawww sweetie I'm so sorry it hasn't worked this time. But take some time out, de-stress a little - and I bet you you'll get pregnant when you least expect it! It would be the best surprise eh? Just think of all the fun you're having practising!! (Coz once you've got a baby, you can kiss that fun goodbye!! Babies make an excellent contraceptive!) I've got my fingers crossed for you!

My old schoolteacher (from when I was 10) had her first child after I did - it took her 12 years of marriage - and they tried so hard to concieve and then one day they decided that enough was enough, they'd chill out a bit and take a holiday. They did, and she got pregnant on tha very same holiday! But not only that, but she had her second a year after her first was born! Keep your chin up and it'll happen

big big vibes coming your way!
post #12 of 27
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Originally Posted by joanne511
I don't know if you're doing this on your own or with a doctor's help, but my friends have used Taking Charge of Your Fertility and found it to be extremely helpful. I bought the book too, as I'm expecting the possibility of fertility issues myself, but haven't read the whole thing yet. Even woman who are not trying to get pregnant have said this is a must-read for all women.
That book is practically falling apart I read it so much! It is a GREAT book, full of extremely interesting and helpful information!!
That book is one of the reasons I thought sure I was pregnant. I did everything the book said to do and, therefore, knew *exactly* when I was ovulating. This was only our very first month of trying, so I shouldn't let myself get too discouraged. But I have many friends who have used "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" and have gotten pregnant the first time they tried. I'm kinda confused as to why it didn't work for us...we did *everything* right. I'm such an impatient person.
Anyway, thank you dear ladies for your posts. They mean a lot to me.
post #13 of 27
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Originally Posted by fwan
wouldnt that mean that in about 7 -10 days your ovulating again??
Best be staying in the lovely cosy bed
I wish! My cycle is about 37 days long...and I don't ovulate til day 20. Long wait.
post #14 of 27
Don't try so hard.... sometimes the best solution is to just go with the flow If you stress too much over it, your body will act against you. Throw the books out and go with the feeling instead. There's a lot to be said for intuition. You get to a point where you just "know" when is right for you.... and your body doesn't always follow the strict 28 day rule that most books give you, or suggest you should follow - mine is all over the show! I know I've jsut posted, but I'm going to just keep on going.... ramble ramble ramble..... I'm a little like you, my cycle is very variable - sometimes I get my period every two weeks... sometimes I can go for a month or two with nothing.... so I can have either the long wait, or no chance to play in between!! So there's no point in "counting days" for me. If I want to have more kids, I'll just make it up as I go along and enjoy the fun practising!!

When you're "in the mood", go with it. Have a relaxing evening, take a bath together, drink a glass of wine and have dinner together and really enjoy yourself - just feel good. If it's just your first month, you've got plenty of time
post #15 of 27
I'm sorry! All you can do is keep trying!!!
post #16 of 27
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Thanks LillieKat! I think you're right! And you just keep on posting as much as you want - I definitely don't mind it!
post #17 of 27
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Originally Posted by emb_78
I'm sorry! All you can do is keep trying!!!
post #18 of 27
Oh that's good - because I didn't intend to stop!! If it's any help, my son was a surprise - okay... at 17 it's not really the best surprise.... but that was a result of a really really nice evening (and I was on the pill too). I definitely think that intuition and feeling has a lot to do with a successful conception. If you're relaxed and happy and enjoying yourself, then the chances are that you'll ake happy little results from it! It's the samewith pregnancy, birth and raising a baby too sweetie, don't bother with the books.... go with what feels right for you. My midwife was a treasure-trove of little hints from when she had her children- and her tips worked. All the stuff I read in books was the biggest heap of trash I'd ever seen. I talked with her for a long time about it jsut after Alex was born, and she said to throw the books out. That's what I did...

You know you threw me off track earlier when I was reading the posts about your book.... and the first thought that went through my head was "Hang on, I thought getting pregnant was pretty self explanatory"! (My reading wasn't exactly crash hot because I've lost my eyes at the mo....) So I apologise for that thought!! You and Hubby will make great parents though
post #19 of 27
The first month is nothing! It will happen - but as suggested do not allow yourself to get stressed. It took me four months and most people said that was amazingly quick!
post #20 of 27
Have you just come off the pill? or some other type of contraception that you've been taking for a while? Ive been told this can sometimes take a while to fully leave your system if you've been on it for a while and so this could be a reason you're not pregnant yet. But like you've been told just keep tryin....
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post #21 of 27
heheh pombina I like your math That's a good point you bring up though, sometimes if you've been on the pill it can take up to two years before you can concieve... I recall that being mentioned by my doctor (to which, at the time, I said "That's ok... I'm not doing it again)
post #22 of 27
Thread Starter 
Haven't been on the pill for about four years...
post #23 of 27
Oh well, just a thought. It is very early days so just keep trying. I'm very sure you'll be posting up soon saying theres a baby on the way! Good luck EVERYTHING CROSSED (but not for you hehe)
Lauren x
post #24 of 27
Just go get a bunch of piercings.. I heard in these threads that someone out there thinks it helps with getting pregnant!
post #25 of 27
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Originally Posted by menagerie mama
Just go get a bunch of peircings.. I heard in these threads that someone out there thinks it helps with getting pregnant!
Yes thats right!!
in the middle of your ears!
post #26 of 27
Having a baby is the beginning of the end of your control over your life and body. You do not get to choose when you get preggers, then when you think it is time for the baby to be born...you just keep waiting and waiting. Then you want baby to go to bed, and s/he stays awake 2 more hours. Then the neighbors baby walks at 10 months, and yours waits til they are a year old.

You little baby to be is just starting to let you know you are no longer in charge. Get used to it! LOL! (BTW, my 1st baby is 22 y/o...life has been chaotic for a real long time here!)

post #27 of 27
I am sorry that Aunt Flo made a brutal visit for you! Hugs and Baby dust your way!!! :Hugs:
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