Right on MAOriginally Posted by hissy
. And Karma has a way of payback-
Right on MAOriginally Posted by hissy
. And Karma has a way of payback-
I totally agree. There was an old Garfield comic where Garfield made a face at Jon, then Jon made a face at Garfield. Garfield says "You win, you were uglier to begin with!"Originally Posted by Yosemite
Hope, 1) if you already told her you did not want to exchange gifts this year you are under no obligation to buy her a gift. If she chooses to give you a gift (even a tacky one), that is her prerogative but does not mandate that you reciprocate; 2) this gift is not worthy of reciprocation; 3) she would be a good person to avoid as often as possible; 4) I would ensure that I have no "new" DVD's for her to watch (perhaps you could tell her you had to spend your money on shampoo and conditioner and couldn't afford any new DVD's this month).
Seriously, she is a user so don't get pulled into her game. Good manners in this instance is that you forewarned her that you did not want to exchange gifts so therefore you are under no obligation to buy her anything, period!
And for heaven's sake, don't let this manipulative person make you feel guilty about anything.
Be strong, sister!
I agree.Originally Posted by hissy
I would be hurt as well Hope, and also would stop lending her DVD's and seeking out her company. And although it is not the price of the gift that matters, she could at least have taken off the price tag and added a hairbrush, some hair ties, and a KISS CD
This type of stuff used to happen to me all the time growing up Hope. And really, don't dwell on it. It makes you a stronger and kinder person overall. And Karma has a way of payback-
there your DVD's and i'd be the same if they were mine, i'd want to watch them first, she should be greatful you even lend them to her at all, she sounds like she takes you for granted or doesn't know the meaning of friendship.I'm funny, I like to watch the DVD's I bought and paid for, before I loan them out. She wasn't happy about that. She told me to hurry up and watch it. I told her it would probably take me about a week before I got to it, because I was in the middle of watching one of the Buffy the Vampire Seasons, and I wanted to finish those first. She got really huffy and told me how kind she was to me, because she opened the door for me, when I had my arms full, and that she didn't HAVE to do that, but she believed if she did something kind, that then that favour would be returned. To be honest I have never thought twice about holding the door for someone, if they needed it or even if they were coming in right behind me. She went off in a huff, because I wouldn't watch that DVD according to her schedule.
Hope, I've read your later reply too, but it looks like you already know the answer to the question as to why she'd get you a gift like that. I think you are right. She doesn't value you at all and she expects you to get her something now. I think you should wrap up a chunk of moldy cheese on a stick (find a popsicle stick) with a few bites out of it. Do it ahead of time so it can get moldier by the time she unwraps it.Originally Posted by HopeHacker
Well, normally I wouldn't use V05 shampoo. I like a little better quality shampoo to be honest. She's always telling me she loves my hair, maybe that was her reasoning, I don't know. But this little two pack came from a grocery store. I was just hurt that she would do that, and I know that deep down she expects me to get her something now. That is why I think she gave it to me early. Other years I've gone out and picked her up a gift, and she's done something similar, not as bad as a bottle of cheap shampoo and creme rinse. My hair isn't dirty, either. I just don't know why she got that. I honestly don't know why she gave me anything, except that she wants me to go out and get her something, because she knows I'll feel guilty about getting a gift from her without giving one in return. I would be too embarrassed to give someone a bottle of V05 shanpoo though.
Dude its like the "Ask for a sip of soda rule".....Someone may ask you for a sip of your soda.....but if the bottle isnt opened yet....its understood that it is your sip.....ya know.......this goes under the same rule....she is breaking the laws of nature......Originally Posted by HopeHacker
I remember one week, she wanted to borrow a brand new DVD I had purchased, and I told her she could, but not until I had watched it. I don't know, I'm funny, I like to watch the DVD's I bought and paid for, before I loan them out. She wasn't happy about that. She told me to hurry up and watch it. I told her it would probably take me about a week before I got to it, because I was in the middle of watching one of the Buffy the Vampire Seasons, and I wanted to finish those first. She got really huffy and told me how kind she was to me, because she opened the door for me, when I had my arms full, and that she didn't HAVE to do that, but she believed if she did something kind, that then that favour would be returned. To be honest I have never thought twice about holding the door for someone, if they needed it or even if they were coming in right behind me. She went off in a huff, because I wouldn't watch that DVD according to her schedule.
Originally Posted by maverick_kitten
get her a 1.99 gift cetificate to blockbuster!
Originally Posted by mzjazz2u
Hope, wrap it back up and give it back to her.....
along with a stick of deoderant.
Yeah.... now THAT would send a clear messageOriginally Posted by halfpint
Oh now that's good
That's one of the best ideas so far. I suggest pouring some of it out first so she can't "innocently" return it to the store. Then wrap it up.Originally Posted by mzjazz2u
Hope, wrap it back up and give it back to her.....
along with a stick of deoderant.