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Christmas Downers...Grrr...

post #1 of 15
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I'm sorry ahead of time if this offends anyone but I have to get this off my chest and rant.

Does it bug anyone else besides me when people constantly put down Christmas?!? Isn't this supposed to be the time of cheer and goodwill towards man?!? Well in my house it's not!!!! Thanks to my bf and his mother.

I know that each person is intitled to their opinion and that not all people like Christmas but that doesn't mean they can go around putting it down everytime someone says something nice about Christmas or does something involving Christmas! My bf is not into Christmas the way I am, I absolutely LOVE Christmas, he doesn't he says it's a "money racket" which I can understand b/c it's become very commericalized the past few years. But I tell him I don't see it that way, it's about family, gifts yes, but also about carols, goodwill, cheer, great food, etc! I want to continue some of my family's traditions and I encourage him to tell me some of his family's as well, so that we can incorporate both into our own special Christmas traditions.

I know that my bf didn't have it the easiest growing up and that his family didn't put as much emphasis (sp?) on Christmas as my family did, and that's fine and I know that's part of the reason why he feels the way he does. And trust me this year, I'm going to try and make it a fantastic Christmas for him and make some good memories! But it really pees of me off when he goes on about how Christmas is all money...what a SCROOGE! Men..ugh! Half the time I don't think he means it and only says it to get a rise out of me Which gives me hope.

But when his Mom comes over, she starts the same thing but she's dead serious, all the time! It seems like very time I say something good about Christmas she gets this look on her face, as if to say "Oh no, not this crap again"! And I find it very disrespecful. Am I right in feeling this way? I know it's her son's apartment too but that doesn't mean she can come in and put down something that I like or so obviously enjoy! Each to their own, she's made it clear she's not a Christmas person so keep to herself when she's at our apartment. I told my bf the same thing, please keep the Christmas bashing to a minimum b/c I so enjoy it, and it makes me really happy, so please don't ruin it for me (and I told him to tell his mom the same thing). And I must say he's been good but we haven't seen his mom since.

*Sigh* I so want this to be a great Christmas and I determind to make it one, no matter what! Could I trouble you guys to send some Christmas spirit vibes this way?

And on a better note:

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYBODY! I wish you and yours a wonderful holiday time!
post #2 of 15
Now I am going to pipe in here and say that though you feel uncomfortable with he and his mom treats Christmas (and it is disrespectful of them to do that in your home), you have to also realize that some people just don't have that same sense that you do.

I'm going through the same thing here. My husband didn't have a wonderful family growing up and Christmas just isn't anything for him. To me Christmas is Family, Yule is Religious. I have stockings up, and lights, tree and decor. I see his point, and he sees mine.

I have to constantly remember his background and remember not to rub it into his face 'so to speak' and remember that he didn't grow up with the same traditions that I did.

Try to introduce to him your ideas about what Christmas should be, and just remember that he may feel the way he does for a reason. Don't force him, just let him know that there are ways of enjoying the season.

And I have to say that I agree with him on the "Gift"mas part. :p People forget that the Holiday season is for rejoicing, not who spends more...
post #3 of 15
PepperGirl, I don't blame you. I recently saw someone throw away the Christmas cards they received. I mean, at least wait until after Christmas! Geesh!
post #4 of 15
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Try to introduce to him your ideas about what Christmas should be, and just remember that he may feel the way he does for a reason. Don't force him, just let him know that there are ways of enjoying the season.
That is so true Rae. I know I shouldn't force him but it's like I'm over compensating for the fact that he's not that fond of Christmas...I just find it hard believe someone doesn't enjoy Christmas but that's just me... So this year I'm going to focus more on the other aspects of Christmas, family, the good spirit, etc. If that doesn't work we'll just call a truce, I won't try to make him enjoy Christmas and he'll leave me be (no more comments) and let me just enjoy the holiday. I just hope his mom gets the hint and drops the comments as well...
post #5 of 15
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Originally Posted by Rockcat
PepperGirl, I don't blame you. I recently saw someone throw away the Christmas cards they received. I mean, at least wait until after Christmas! Geesh!

Are you serious... If someone takes the time to send a card the least people can do is keep it till after Christmas and let them know not to bother to send one again.
post #6 of 15
Christmas sucks big time.
Just kidding, but did I make you smile at least? I love Christmas too! Cheer up, some years are just less special for different people. Maybe next year they will come around and be more in the spirit. I'm not into it much this year because of my depressing week I've just had, but hopefully next year it will improve. Don't let anyone take the air out of your balloon, keep flying high and maybe it will rub off on the nay-sayers!
post #7 of 15
OK Christmas is first and foremost a Christian holiday celebrating the birth of Jesus. For Christians, this means practicing the principles that Jesus taught. Not everyone is of the same religion, so there are many many variations of holiday traditions in every culture, including the right to not believe anything. Some Christian groups, like the Amish, don't believe in lights and trees. Giving is fine, but only what is necessary, and not in an ostentatious way. So maybe you can explain your beliefs to them, and respect theirs as well. Christmas can be a time for sharing, and you and he can share your different backgrounds and traditions.
post #8 of 15
This is how it works for me. I am what you would call "A christmas downer." I don't hate christmas but dang does some of the stuff really get on my nerves!!(Mainly the christmas music..ugh!)

My mom LOVES christmas. She decorates every year and gets all "Jolly" everytime christmas comes around.

But we are both very respectful of eachother's different views. Like whenever we're both at home and she's decorating and has the music on and stuff..I will go into my room close my door and let her have at it.

When we are driving somewhere and a christmas song comes on my mom changes the channel for me.

That's really all I don't like about christmas. For some reason that music just gets on my nerves. Oh and it really bugs me when people are a little TOO happy about christmas that they'll prance around dancing "'Tis the season to be Jolly!"

Ugh..makes me wish I had a paintball gun!!!
post #9 of 15
I love Christmas, and all that comes along with it!!!
post #10 of 15
Lots of Merry Christmas vibes Pepper Girl!!
post #11 of 15
Sending you TONs of Merry Christmas vibes. YOU GO GIRL, and let the season be bright for you. Too bad you can't tie them down and make them watch "Scrooge" and "Its a wonderful life" over and over until it sinks in.....sigh. But anyway, MERRY CHRISTMAS TO YOU and a Happy New Year too! HO HO HO!!
post #12 of 15
I have never really celebrated xmas like with my whole relatives and so on.
Because of the american movies i always thought that americans celebrate xmas alot better than we do in europe!

I celebrate xmas more than my parents, my room is fully decorated for xmas i have two trees standing decorated with lots of lights, candles, a singing santa, more lights and snow light flakes on the windows and a stockng full of cat treats and chocolate.. my parents have nothing in the other rooms,
When i have my own place im going to buy a really large tree, and buy special decorations that i can use years long, if i get married and have children i would celebrate xmas different from my parents! Have the whole dinner fuss and lots of cookies and invite my friends who would ilike to celebrate xmas with me (if of course they dont have family and stuff)
post #13 of 15
I love Christmas. I love all the Christmas Carols and everything. I don't like that it's become so commercialized, but it's always been one of my favorite times of year. I miss my mom a lot during this time of year, though. She passed away about 15 years ago.
post #14 of 15
I love christmas but this year its being ruined for me a little by my brother and sister's greed.

my mums is in tears most mornings because they want so much and are so materialistic and demanding. they are not little kids either, bro is 21 and sis is 18.

my youngest brother is 14 and is a sweetheart. he's enthusiasm more than makes up for it!

i love christmas too, your bf and his mum should put up with it, its only a month after all. if you were putting up the tree in august and forcing them to go carol singing i'd see their point!
post #15 of 15
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Originally Posted by Lil_Axl_Gurl
This is how it works for me. I am what you would call "A christmas downer." I don't hate christmas but dang does some of the stuff really get on my nerves!!(Mainly the christmas music..ugh!)

My mom LOVES christmas. She decorates every year and gets all "Jolly" everytime christmas comes around.

But we are both very respectful of eachother's different views. Like whenever we're both at home and she's decorating and has the music on and stuff..I will go into my room close my door and let her have at it.

When we are driving somewhere and a christmas song comes on my mom changes the channel for me.

That's really all I don't like about christmas. For some reason that music just gets on my nerves. Oh and it really bugs me when people are a little TOO happy about christmas that they'll prance around dancing "'Tis the season to be Jolly!"

Ugh..makes me wish I had a paintball gun!!!
how can you not like christmas music? i always ask cab drivers to turn it UP!
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