Need vibes and advice about friend please.

Lethargy is a symptom of an iron deficiency - as is a headache that you can't get rid of and sometimes even nosebleeds. I also coudnl't get warm. I suffered with all of these with my iron deficiency. Perhaps it would be a good idea to just look out for those signs.

Those fit Tim perfectly, except for the nosebleeds. What should i do?

I have borderline anemia, and I am lethergic and always cold, so I'd say yes, there's a possible link there. I have to wear layers all the time, and I have to eat stuff high in iron to make sure I don't dip too low. It's not too bad for me, some people are worse, so I don't know much more than that. Good luck!

I've suffered from depression many time over the years. In high school I had to be in a hospital for a while to try and fight it. I also got really mess up in the drug world. Wheat you are describing sounds more like a drug thing with depression thrown in. They go hand in hand. There was a time when all I wore were jeans tshirts and long sleeve flannel, even in the summer. I wasn't cold, it was more of a way to cover things up. Emotionally and physicaly. I stopped caring about who I hung out with and what they said about me. I didn't really care how I looked. In fact I was starting to slide back down that path earlier this year. Karma helped snap me out of it. I was getting to the point where even my husband said he didn't know who I was and we work at home together and are together 24 hours a day. She gave me something to live for again and brought me out. I would look a bit deeper. He is hiding something and it's not good.

What should i do? I might be able to talk to him somehow, but it may not work. If Tim either has depression or iron deficiency, what can i do that will help either or both?

Circles under the eyes, lethargy and cold are all symptoms of iron deficient anemia. I've been anemic since I was 18 (no, I'm not going to tell you how many years ago that was). Its an easy test. Just a single drop of blood.

My first reaction when I read your posting is your friend has started using drugs. If he wants to hide them, you won't know.

I think it may be time to get an adult involved. Is your mom someone you can talk to?? As a doctor, she would be better at diagnosing than we are.

Good luck with him. And thank you for caring so much. Most people would just write him off.

Whilst not discounting a medical/psychological explanation another possibility springs to mind. You have mentioned that your friend is not caring her his personal hygiene in the same way that he used too; has become withdrawn and has dark circles under his eyes as well as wearing many warm layers.

You also mentioned that he has never been to his house - have you been to his? Do you know where he lives or if he is still living there. Coupled with this you also are wondering whether something might have happened in his personal life.

Is it possible that he could have become homeless and therefore doesn't have the opportunity to bathe or sleep as much as he would like?

Just a thought.

How well do you know his parents? Since you were/are a trusted friend maybe you could talk to them about your concerns.
What about a trusted teacher/advisor/counselor? Sweets has a good point about bringing in an adult. Sometimes you can't always know what to do. Most likely someone you trust either is aware of the situation he may be in (such as his mom), or has seen it happen before (such as a teacher).

Lemme see. First of all, he is definitely not homeless. I know this because every single person in our class is way upper middle class. In other words, they are almost alll disgustingly rich, lol. It just happens to work out this way, i go to a public school. And i have seen his house. He came to my birthday last year, and we dropped him off. And i was wrong, he has been to my house once. It was that day, when we ate cake.

I have met his mother, one time. She strikes me as one of those good-natured but flustering scatterbrains.

My parents are NOT easy to talk to. Not in the slightest. They drive me mad with the stuff they do.... not gonna get off topic.

I really do not know what to do if he is on drugs, because i do not see how i can find out for sure.

I am seeing the iron deficiency or depression as more likely, but it won't do to assume. I think i will call him now, and see how he is doing. Often he is not there when i call, i dunno what this means.

You people are so much help, i never would have thought of half these things.

Joecool

Good luck!

Nio answer earlier. Gonna try again.

hmmmmmmmm I dont know how old he is, but if he is under 18 you can get the social services involved.

there might be something you dont know about that is going on in his personal life which is A very MOST likely by the way you describe in your post.
If he is never home, where is he then? does anyone see him???

Whenever i call him, he is either out with friends or at some soccer game. I forgot to call him the second time earlier. Will do so now.

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