Would you be ok with a used wedding ring?

Originally Posted by Deb25

I guess I look at it in a different way. What if his finances were limited, and you meant so much to him that he wanted to get you the best thing that he could for the money? If the guy goes out and shops for a ring without the girl on his back hounding him for one - and I have heard girls announce that they'd 'better get a ring by spring' - and surprises her with the ring and a proposal, how would you know where the ring came from???

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It's true that you wouldn't really know where the ring came from but what if you eventually did find out. Maybe you wouldn't care after years and years of being married but I'd still probably be a little upset about it. And for me, if the guy doesn't have a lot of money (which is my exact situation, although we're not looking to get married yet) I would still rather have something smaller but bought for me and only me. But you do have a good point...

Nope, I would not accept it unless it is brand new, unless it was handed down through his family. Otherwise, I consider it incredibly tacky. No offence. Besides, eBay has amazing deals on engagement rings, that are brand new with papers.

IMO, unless it's family heirloom, then no, I wouldn't want a used ring.

My husband and I bought my ring at a pawn shop. Its an antique and I love it. I have never seen another one like it, which is nice. We don't support the modern diamond trade because of the way people are treated in Africa over diamonds. So it was more a human rights thing than a where it came from thing. I believe once you buy a piece of jewlrey and wear it you put your vibe to it. The fact that you two love eachother and are buying the ring for that reason it will have that meaning. Plus the way I see it if you don't know the history behind the ring who cares, give it a new history.

I posted this same question on another web site and people are saying that if the man they loved were down on one knee asking for their hand in marriage they wouldn't ask where the ring was from, which is true. But if I were to find out later that it was used I would probably be upset and feel weird wearing it.

personaly i'd feel funny getting a second hand ring, i guess because it's such a special peice of jewlery that i feel i should be the only woman who's ever worn it, if it's second hand then it's really someone elses token of commitement, not mine.

i definately wouldn't have wanted a second hand ring, i can't really think of any other reasons except it wouldn't make me feel good




felicia

Only if i ever fell in love with it!
I fell in love with a ring from Tchibo the other week called Angelina but heck its over 1,000

I think if it was a unique antique I could live with a second hand ring. Or from a family member, obviously.

But a contemporary right from a pawn shop just doesn't sit well with me. My sister has a pawn shop wedding ring, and he actually bragged to her about getting from the pawn shop when he asked her! (Granted, I'm not too fond of my BIL anyway, but this wasn't exactly a good second impression, as I had just met him the night before at our family's Christmas Eve. He asked her at midnight on Christmas.) I just thought it was very cheap of him (they have the best of everything else, so it's not like he was broke), and like so many have said here - if it's a contemporary ring it's obviously from a broken relationship, and I feel that there is a lot of bad vibes from that.

Originally Posted by Miss Mew

I fully agree with you on that!!..seems a bit tacky getting a wedding ring at the pawn shop. As far as "used" rings go it's not all that bad **if** the person it came from is family and it has sentimental value..that's just my 2 cents

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Originally Posted by KarmasMom

My husband and I bought my ring at a pawn shop. Its an antique and I love it. I have never seen another one like it, which is nice. We don't support the modern diamond trade because of the way people are treated in Africa over diamonds. So it was more a human rights thing than a where it came from thing.

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That would be my main concern with a ring as well. Just the thought that the diamond on the ring might have been sold to support a brutal civil war in Africa would be much more negative for me than having a ring that might have come from a broken relationship.

Actually, I would never want a diamond at all (yes, I know, I'm weird )

Unless its an antique or a family heirloom, I wouldn't want a used ring. When Bill and I were comtemplating marriage, my engagement ring was an 1880s antique, bought from an estate jeweler. I picked it out.

Before my son and DIL got married, I gave Mark the rings, that my late husband and I wore (I was married to someone else at the time). The kids didn't use them but Mark still has them.

When the time comes, I will have my mother's rings resized and wear them on my right hand.

I didn't read everyone's response, but I have to vote no, unless it was some type of heirloom. My sister was divorced, and I bought her ring from her for a very low price, had the diamond remounted on another ring. That was my first marriage and it ended quickly in divorce.

I'm usually not superstitious, but if the ring came from a bad marriage, I wouldn't jinx myself using it for mine.

Not only is it tacky to use some random person's wedding ring, but what does that say about not only the institution of marriage, but the guy's intentions? Oh, Honey, I got you a wedding ring that someone discarded for money after being cleaned out post-divorce. Hmmmm...I don't mind not having an EXPENSIVE wedding ring, but I want something that is just for me...that is wither new or a precious heirloom and intimate and reflective of our relationship. I don't see a pawn shop ring doing that for me. I can see how special it would be to have a family heirloom as a ring, but not some random used ring.

Thanks for all the comments guys Good to see other people feel the same way I do.

After my ex deserted me, I sold my diamond engagement ring, in order to pay to have paperwork drawn up. I just hope that the diamond was reset and the band recycled, so that nobody else attracts the bad vibes associated with that ring.

My wedding ring was from a pawn shop and I didn't think anything about it. Not only that, my husband used the same ring he used for his first wedding.

The marriage only lasted about six years. It might have lasted longer if our rings were new.

I could see having a ring that was handed down through either family, thus having family history and attachments. I could see checking out estate sales for wonderful antiques, and choosing a ring together. Other than those situations, I would have some difficulty with used rings. Pawn shop, I'm afraid, would leave me cold, because of all the negative aspects of pawning property; I don't think I could feel happy about owning ANYTHING acquired that way, never mind something whose total raison d'etre is the expression of a happy commitment between two people

I could see going shopping together for a wonderful stone, and then deciding together on a setting, and it would matter less to me if the source of that stone was a pawn shop, because the choosing would be the couple's, as would the setting, and ultimately the finished ring would be of this relationship, not some other.

As to getting "a better deal"? Sure you want to do as well as you can for the bucks available, but it's not about how big and gorgeous the material possession is, but rather how big and gorgeous the relationship is that it symbolizes. That only requires the right person to slip something that has been chosen with care onto the finger.

Originally Posted by Felicia's Mom

My wedding ring was from a pawn shop and I didn't think anything about it. Not only that, my husband used the same ring he used for his first wedding.

The marriage only lasted about six years. It might have lasted longer if our rings were new.

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Now that would make me furious to know if I were you! To reuse a ring that you bought for a first wife shame on him lol. I hope I haven't said anything offensive but that would really irk me...

I would not like a used wedding ring. I would love a ring that had sentimental value, like if it were his grandmother's ring, but a ring from a pawn shop I would not be into. I am with you in that it would symbolize a broken marriage. We got our wedding rings from amazon.com and bluenile.com and they were both such a great deal. You could pick the quality of diamond and everything. We saved a lot of money this way!!!

I would definately do it. You make the ring yours as soon as it is given to you. YOu can thank the previous owners for taking care of your ring until you were able to get it. THings imprint quickly and dis-imprint quickly. You are happy and it will be happy. When you get in those occasionaly bad moods -0 it still knows your good moods - it forgets the negatives. It would do that too when passing from owner to owner. Rmembering the good, forgetting the bad.

A used peice of jewelry is a part of history, the past - distant or present. It is here to see you through your (it hopes) happy life. If not, then the ring deserves to be passed to someone who may learn to cherish it.

... Can you tell I love antiques and jewelry..... antique jewlery? died and went to heaven!