Would you be ok with a used wedding ring?

Me and my boyfriend were having this discusion because he was thinking about buying xmas presents at a pawn shop. Some how this turned into talk about buying a wedding ring from a pawn shop. Now personally I don't want a used ring for my wedding ring. If it's an everyday ring or jewlery I don't care but a wedding ring is something that I feel should be personalized to the person you're buying it for. Plus I don't want a ring that is coming from a broken marriage, it's a bad omen (maybe i'm just superstious though). So he made the arguement that he could get a used ring 2x the size for the same price at a pawn shop. I said that I didn't care, I'd rather have a new ring that's 1/2 the size.

So what does everyone else out there think? Do you men think that us women are asking to much by wanting a new ring? Would you women prefer a smaller ring that's new or a larger ring that's used?

Edit: We're not planning to get married any time soon but it was such a good discusion that I wanted other's opinions too

I honestly don't know. I'd have to think a while before answering. One thing I see as a good point to buying used, at a pawn shop or the like, is you may find something very unique or antique that couldn't be found elsewhere. (Atleast in the movies anyways, I've never been to a pawn shop so I'm not sure what type of jewerly they really have.) Thats a good question though!

I fully agree with you on that!!..seems a bit tacky getting a wedding ring at the pawn shop. As far as "used" rings go it's not all that bad **if** the person it came from is family and it has sentimental value..that's just my 2 cents

My first marriage I wore my grandmother's wedding ring. She and my grandfather had divorced, then remarried. But he was an alcoholic, and she was unforgiving, and when he died they were separated.

Not that it had anything to do with the ring, but my first husband and I divorced.

Current dh purchased my wedding ring at Service Merchandise. It is not large or fancy, but it is very attractive and it is mine. I would prefer a new ring from a cheaper source to a used ring from a pawn shop. Like you said, either the previous wearer is divorced (or dead!).

How about a compromise. Buy a ring at the pawn shop for the stone, and have it put into a new setting at another store. We have a small jeweler in town who does repairs and personalized settings. (I do not know the cost, it may be cheaper to buy off the rack!)

I don't think I would....

I have this deep belief in energy...IMO we are all made of energy, and residue is left on possessions we wear...own...cherish ect....

So now new owner has a ring to symbolize her union w/ the person she loves, and their is all this residual energy left over from the last person.....

What if the person before had a terrible marriage...or they were a very bad person......etc....I dont know if thats the kind of ring I would want to wear for my wedding....

Hope that makes sence.....

Plus on another note....Marriage in my opinion is a new beggining w/ a clean slate....why wouldnt you want a clean ring

Funny you should ask this question. I have a beautiful ring/with exceptional diamond in it. I haven't worn it for 15 years at least. The store I bough it from, it's still their best selling setting. (it really is beautiful)
I was thinking of putting it on ebay.
BUT, wondered if other's would feel the same way as you.

It's funny.. a lose diamond that someone previoiusly owned wouldn't bother me.. but someone else's setting, might give me the heebe jeebies.

Then on the other hand, IF I were to get married again... and came across some FABULOUS art deco ring, that obviously belonged to someone before.... I'd be fine about it. Go figure! lol

I actually wear two wedding rings. I (American) wear my own, bought new, and just a plain gold ban, on my left ring finger. Germans (like my husband) wear their wedding bands on their right hands, and I've been wearing my mom's (widowed), which is rather ornate, very beautiful (people compliment me on it all the time),and too small for her now, on my right ring finger.
I have a whole collection of very old rings (my great-grandmother's, grandmother's, great-aunts'), and find the workmanship incredible, so I wouldn't have any problem with a "used" ring. My sister wears my father's wedding ring (heavy gold) instead of her own, and my mother wore a substitute wedding ring (jade) for decades, because her own proved to be too heavy and wide for her hands.

I wouldnt have any trouble with a used ring as my philophy is it is new to u

I don't think it would bother me, that much, although I do agree with the "energy" thing. I'd probably want to get the ring purified or something, to remove the previous owners energy, but if it would save money so we could get ohter nice things or take a great trip, I'd have no problem with it. Personally, I've never really been much into jewelry, so I'd probably rather not have a ring at all. I'd want a 50 inch Plasma TV instead.

Wow I'm amazed at how many comments were up in the past few minutes lol. I don't see anything wrong with something that is symbolic, such as from a grandmother or family relative, however I would want another band or something that was bought by the fiance. And that's a good suggestion that some of you have made about having the stone reset into a personal band and it probably would be cheaper.

Here's another question to ponder too... My mom gets a new 'wedding ring' every couple years or so and I think she has at least 2 or 3. Again this is my personal opinion, but I wouldn't want a whole new ring because what's the point of having an original ring?? If anything I would update my current wedding ring rather than to buy a new ring because there's not much sentimental value. This is a long way in my 'future' but if I do upgrade my future wedding ring I would have the birthstones of my 'future' children put into it.

I used to work at a jewelry store and you would he SO suprised how many of your "new" rings are actually someone elses. People will bring them in and sell them to us ad we would melt them down and make a new ring w/a different design on it. Same with engagment rings. I have an engagement ring and both my wedding bands are from a pawn shop. Just because they are "used" doesn't mean you'll have bad luck. It's the thought and the meaning behind it!

Heck no! My father tried to buy my mothers rings at a pawn shop. She had a fit! (Should have told her something about what she was getting into!) It would be one thing if it was a family heirloom or something. But I would not want a pawn shop wedding ring! (Good thing I'm already married here.) I guess I would feel like if he was 'saving money' or 'looking for a deal' like that, that he had the same feelings towards me. That I am a cheap deal, not the best thing that ever happened to him. I mean it's one thing to barter at the jewlers and shop around, but getting a used-practically hand me down ring is very different!

Originally Posted by lizch6699

Wow I'm amazed at how many comments were up in the past few minutes lol. I don't see anything wrong with something that is symbolic, such as from a grandmother or family relative, however I would want another band or something that was bought by the fiance. And that's a good suggestion that some of you have made about having the stone reset into a personal band and it probably would be cheaper.

Here's another question to ponder too... My mom gets a new 'wedding ring' every couple years or so and I think she has at least 2 or 3. Again this is my personal opinion, but I wouldn't want a whole new ring because what's the point of having an original ring?? If anything I would update my current wedding ring rather than to buy a new ring because there's not much sentimental value. This is a long way in my 'future' but if I do upgrade my future wedding ring I would have the birthstones of my 'future' children put into it.

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My mother and step-father have recently bought new wedding bands. Mainly because my mother wasn't able to wear hers anymore. That I'd be ok with too, but she has the other for sentimental value. She could wear it on a chain too.

Also, a ring being remade from 'scrap gold' or another ring is a little different than taking a whole ring that should have been something wonderful and symbolic on one person's hand, and taking it and making it something that should be wonderful and symbolic and putting it on another person's hand. Especially a complete stranger's ring. It just feels completely wrong to me!

Originally Posted by MoochNNoodles

I guess I would feel like if he was 'saving money' or 'looking for a deal' like that, that he had the same feelings towards me. That I am a cheap deal, not the best thing that ever happened to him. I mean it's one thing to barter at the jewlers and shop around, but getting a used-practically hand me down ring is very different!

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That's the wording that I was trying to explain to my bf just couldn't get it out into words lol

I`m not at all into the bad energy thing, so maybe that has something to do with my answer...but no matter where the ring came from it would`nt bother me one bit as long as i liked it. In fact i`ve seen a lot of old jewelry that i like a whole lot better than some of the new stuff.
Bigger diamond verses smaller one would`nt make an iota of difference to me either.
Linda

Originally Posted by MoochNNoodles

I guess I would feel like if he was 'saving money' or 'looking for a deal' like that, that he had the same feelings towards me. That I am a cheap deal, not the best thing that ever happened to him. I mean it's one thing to barter at the jewlers and shop around, but getting a used-practically hand me down ring is very different!

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I guess I look at it in a different way. What if his finances were limited, and you meant so much to him that he wanted to get you the best thing that he could for the money? If the guy goes out and shops for a ring without the girl on his back hounding him for one - and I have heard girls announce that they'd 'better get a ring by spring' - and surprises her with the ring and a proposal, how would you know where the ring came from???

I would not mind if it's an heirloom from within the family but otherwise, I agree, I'd prefer something new picked for me, even if it meant it would be a smaller stone/ring.

That said, I have dear friends who wanted an antique diamond ring and chose her engagement ring together from a shop carrying estate jewlery etc.

If it was antique jewellry then that would be different - I would buy from a pawn shop then.

But if it was a contempory ring, then forget about it!!

I personally wouldn't want a used ring, unless it was a family heirloom or a beautiful antique.

Good grief I wouldn't be happy with that at all! It's supposed to be YOUR ring isn't it? It's supposed to symbolize your love as a couple, not the love of some complete stranger to another, who's marriage might have fallen apart. I wouldn't care if it's a plain cheap ring from a catalogue type of store, because it will still be yours - but second hand (quite literally) no way. The only way I would accept a used ring, would be if it was something that had been handed down through generations.