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post #1 of 14
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...please excuse me for a minute here because I just need to speak!

#1. Mooch and Noodles had been doing pretty well with the Christmas tree. My biggest problems have only been, fighting under it, chewing on lower branches (and not too often either bc I have bitter apple spray), and unplugging the extention cord now and then while wrestling under the tree. It was getting aggrivating enought and then.... Well Mooch finally decided to climb the tree...inspite of the repellant I bought. It was $10 at petsmart so not a huge investment. I couldn't remember what I'd heard other people use on here so I tried that one. Does anyone know another good one? I'm so depressed I might have to take the tree down or do some serious cleaning so I can fit the tree in my study, which the tree is too tall for with or without the angel.....grrrrrr. I love my tree and my Angel (It's a boyd's bear!) Of all the cats I've had, I never had the problems i had with these two, mostly Mooch. I finally found a tree skirt too. But you know what? It just has not felt like Christmas at all this year. Just like the rat race picked up it's pace!

#2. I'm not Mrs Cleaver! There I said it! Mrs Cleaver didn't do the job I do. I work hard, therefore I am tired at the end of the day and housecleaning and cooking are not top priorities. I'd like them to be, but I just don't have it in me lately! On the weekends all I want to do is recuperate so I can be ready for the next week. Don't get me wrong, I like my job. It is rewarding. But it is still hard work!

#3. DH and I had an argument over a house we don't plan on buying for 4-5 more years! How rediculous is that!?! Basically I want to stay home with our kids and homeschool them. I have always wanted to do that. Soooooo.....he says we're going to have to get a double wide trailer but we'll put it on a fixed foundation unless he can get a job where he is making $30/hr. We already live in a trailer and I love my home. It's just not big enough. I've always dreamed of having my own home. A 2 floor home where my kids can have thier own rooms and be brought up in a loving home with all thier needs met. Please don't misunderstand me. I have nothing against living in trailers or raising kids in trailers. It's just not what I want. I'm not asking for a mansion and to stay home eating bonbons all day. I am going to be the main bread winner while my DH is in college for the next few years. A year or two after that we planned on starting a family and buying a house. I guess we just had completely different ideas on what that would be! I know a couple that are both department managers at walmart and just built a brand new home for cryin out loud! We are both or by then both will be college educated people. I don' t make a ton of money but I'm not making minimum wage either. I am just so frustrated. I feel like I've been slapped. He even said to me 'So what your saying is, is that I am not good enough for you unless I make $30/hr.' First of all I don't even know who put the idea in his head that he has to make that much. I'm sorry but my Bible says that God is no respector of persons. To me that means if other people can be blessed with houses and raise thier children themselves, why shouldn't I be able to! I read and study my Bible, I don't know it all but I am sincerely trying to follow Christ. I've always believed I would have a nice home and be able to raise my children myself. It is the desire of my heart and it always has been. I still believe it can happen, it's just like a slap in my face that he thinks we have to sacrifice one or the other. I'm sorry for all this for thoes of you who aren't religious and may not agree. I know having both of thoes things may mean sacrifices in other areas, but I deffinately believe there is a way to have both. Whether it be working on weekends and or nights or starting a savings account now for with whatever we can put in it. I'm just upset right now. I should have been born in my Grandparent's generaton or something!

Ok....whew.....I feel a little better. To thoes of you who were able to read all of this...God Bless You! I'm sorry to have gone on so long...I just don't have anyone to call right now.
post #2 of 14
Rant away - We all need to get stuff of our chests every now and then.

Personally I wouldn't worry about the Christmas tree - Just enjoy the fun your babies are having and take pictures so we can have a laugh too!!! Everyone is having trouble with keeping their cats off the Chrissy tree so don't despair that you are alone on that one.

Everyone has discussions/fights with their SO about who's going to earn what, and what house are you going to have and where and how you will raise the kids. It always hurts at the time, but you will work it out. Just try to write down a plan and then stick to it. Talk about it when you are both in the frame of mind to discuss it without getting upset and angry.

I hope you have a good rest of the day - And remember Cuddling a kitty makes everything better!!
post #3 of 14
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Originally Posted by jane_vernon
Rant away - We all need to get stuff of our chests every now and then.

Personally I wouldn't worry about the Christmas tree - Just enjoy the fun your babies are having and take pictures so we can have a laugh too!!! Everyone is having trouble with keeping their cats off the Chrissy tree so don't despair that you are alone on that one.

Everyone has discussions/fights with their SO about who's going to earn what, and what house are you going to have and where and how you will raise the kids. It always hurts at the time, but you will work it out. Just try to write down a plan and then stick to it. Talk about it when you are both in the frame of mind to discuss it without getting upset and angry.

I hope you have a good rest of the day - And remember Cuddling a kitty makes everything better!!
Thanks for replying. It feels so good to just be listened to!
post #4 of 14
No prob!!, rant away!!, that's what friends are for!

As far as the cat repellent spray I found that I had to reapply it on a regular basis to keep Reilly out of the tree last year (once a week min)

With all of your other things that are going on...I can just offer a big hug!
post #5 of 14
Don't you just love this site? People actually listen!
post #6 of 14
Thats what we are here for!!!

Its also nice to get an unbaised opinion sometimes - People we know are just too close to the situation.

Keep your chin up!!
post #7 of 14
aww it sucks argueing doesnt it???

Well i am religious but there are bad things to homeschool children they need social skills to work later and to interact with other children and make friends...
I had to be home schooled for my lateteens, and i dont reccomend it, especially to little kids.

<<<<<<<anyway i hope it works out with you and hubby dont worry about the xmas tree, lol mine is small and only has theree decorations because teufel and kaylee keep on stealing them lol!
post #8 of 14
Sounds like something I learned long ago, the holidays are stressful! We have fourteen cats, and a puppy,we won't have a christmas tree this year. We have beautiful decorations and lights that will be outside though. Our front yard will look like Christmas- just don't come inside expecting the same!
post #9 of 14
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We've been reapplying the repellant daily! It's called No Stay. Last year I decorated our deck and some kids came and randomly removed lightbulbs. Fixing it was very annoying. They'd have taken my bows too except they got caught by a GOOD neighbor kid! So I'm not feeling too risky this year for putting them out!

I deffinatley agree with Fwan on kids and homeschooling and lacking social skills. There is a good size group of families that homeschool around here. They get together regularly around here for activities and what not. At least weekly. Also some help eachother out with difficult subjects. Also there will be lots of time with other kids at church. We even have teachers at our church that tutor on wednesdays and things. I don't know that I will homeschool my kids straight through high school, but there is so much going on in schools today I just think it would be best to start them off differently. All my teacher friends have overcrowded classrooms and not to mention teacher's being held accountable and what not. At the very least, I will be heavily involved with my children's education even if it is only staying in close communication with thier teachers. I'm like my stepfather in that, I want to know what is going on! I want to be on the same page as thier teachers so I can reenforce where needs be.

Thanks for your support everyone. It means so much to me!
post #10 of 14
Your DH might be suprised with how affordable a house is. My husband and I both wait tables for the time being and we could own a house for what we're paying for rent. Don't get your hopes down on that, it is possible to own a house! I don't know how expensive houses are in your area, but just pick up some of those realty booklets from the grocery store and look at them. I commend you for wanting to do what you feel is best for your future children.

I have no idea what to tell you about the tree. My cats like chewing on ours as well!!
post #11 of 14
Yes, the holidays are stressful. I'm sorry that you realized your mutual goals are different or have changed. I don't have to tell you this but you already know that your children will be raised in a loving home. It doesn't matter where you live. You are what makes a "home" not the building that you live in. But the fact that you have a dream is a great thing. Don't give up on it. You said you are thinking it's four years away. You have got plenty of time to try to achieve your dream. Hopefully when things are a bit saner, your house will not seem so out of reach and you and your hubby can maybe sit down after the holidays to put some goals on paper and what you think your can do to reach those goals I'm really sorry you are having such a crappy day.
post #12 of 14
I agree that the holidays are stressful. I always end buy doing everything. Then DH wonders why I don't want people to visit over the holidays-well if my sis and mom weren't here I would have to prepare all the food and get the house ready-while DH visits and plays cards with his family. Now that I'm not working its well you don't have anything else to do "you like going shopping". I do not like shopping this time of yr. I don't like having to wrap all the presents. I haven't decorated outside the house much at all-partly due to the weather and I just don't feel like it.

With your housing situation are you looking to buy an existing house or build. I would start to check out home prices in your area-or after graduating are you going to move??
I only know one family who has homeschooled their children-but they are a Menonite sect so their lifestyle is different from ours to begin with but their TEN children (ages 7-25ish) are all wonderful!!!
I think you need a bit of "me" time to relax!!!
post #13 of 14
O agree - it's always good to have somewhere to come just to let off a bit of steam I hope it helped!
post #14 of 14
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Originally Posted by GailC
I think you need a bit of "me" time to relax!!!
Is there really such a thing as 'me' time? I deffinately feel much better today!
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