Work rant!!!

So yesterday in a formal and public situation at work, one of the security people kicked me in the leg, and told me I was standing right in front of him and that I was rude. Now, I was not doing this intentionally and a simple tap on the shoulder or back should have sufficed. I was ticked and felt disrespected. Now, this guy and I have a history of not getting along, but things had been a lot better lately. In fact, we had been even having informal chat almost of things not related to work.
So this morning I went to him and said something along the lines of "could you please not kick me again in that situation?". He is VERY immature. First he said- I didn't kick you, you were rude. He then said F*** you and flipped me off! I was shocked. I had said somewhere in the conversation that I certainly didn't mean to get in his way (it gets confusing when you remember) and that I had came to him in order to resolve it w/out getting his boss involved. He told me "fine, go to him"
I did go to his boss, which I didn't want to do to get him more MAD. He told me that he could write him up for violence in workplace.. I told his boss I wasn't looking to get him in more trouble, but I didn't feel this should be going on. I wish they could send him to anger managment or something.

What a great guy....
And this is a security person??? He needs to be fired. What's going to happen when he encounters a customer he doesn't like?? Is he going to kick them, too?? Not to mention what might happen if he gets even more hateful with you!! If I were you I would go to someone higher up than his supervisor if the situation doesn't stop.
Some people should not be allowed out of their homes.

That's just awful that he did that. Can you go over his boss's head? There should be zero tolerance about violence in the workplace, not just a write-up. Hope tomorrow's better for you!

Right on for zero tolerance of violence in the workplace. How weird! Really, I think I would have gotten right in his face and made a public scene of it (In a gentile manner of course).

Something like "I understand you're upset for some reason, but I refuse to discuss anything with you if you kick me. Now what is the problem, and how do you think it should be resolved?"

Oh my gosh! If ever an employee of mine did that, they would be fired as soon as possible! I have zero tollerance for people like that. Grow up and get a life dude. Life is tough, not everyone will do what you want the way you want or the way you think it should be done. I would be so upset if I were you. I'm not sure I could have let that one go. I mean what happens next? He's physically violated another person in the work place, if he gets away with it, what else will he try to get away with?

How hard did he kick you? And how close were you 'standing' to him? I mean if he's a security guard and he was working, don't they sometimes just stand there looking around? If that is what he was doing, does he expect no one to go near him? I'm confused with this dude!

He's lucky you didn't press assault charges against him. I hope that you have filed a formal harassment complaint.

I also have zero tolorance for workplace violence. I would have reported him and gone over his bosses head to get him fired. It's completely unnecessary and he could endanger others with that attitude.

Um, let me get this straight...all you were doing was standing in front of him? Somebody has some slight anger management issues, I would say.

Lucky it wasn't me I would've turned around and kicked him right back - with about the same amount of pressure, RIGHT where it hurts the most...

Lucky it wasn't me I would've turned around and kicked him right back - with about the same amount of pressure, RIGHT where it hurts the most...

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I probably would have done the same!

Did he ever think of moving himself? Or think that maybe politeness might work a little better?

I would certainly take it further - what if other people are keeping quiet about other incidents whith him and it goes undealt with until he seriously hurts someone who works there or a customer?

I wouldn't stand for it in my workplace

Okay.. Well I need to clarify some things. First of all, I work for the state. Now just think about the bureacracy involved. Second, the kick was more of nudge with the foot, but it did almost knock me off balance and due to the situation, I couldn't talk to him right then and there. I felt that at the time he was treating me with disrespect, which is why I chose to confront him the next day. I am WAY more angry about being sworn at and flipped off. I think an apology is in order from him on that one. Others I work with have told me to pursue this heavily- I just don't know. My co-worker who has worked there for years says that I should just ignore him esp if he knows he can get to me. I also need to consider that they have there own agendas. I might ask his boss again if the guy is going to at least apologize. I don't want to get my boss involved- there have been a lot petty things going on involving other people and although I know I didn't nothing wrong, I don't want it to reflect on me. My boss doesn't work at my building either, so she doesn't know this person at all.
I don't want to see the guy lose his job- I don't think he's a bad person but needs help and is wicked immature. I am also thinking about the fact that he is a single dad to a seven year old dtr (he has custody) and he works additional hours at night.

Originally Posted by MoochNNoodles

How hard did he kick you? And how close were you 'standing' to him? I mean if he's a security guard and he was working, don't they sometimes just stand there looking around? If that is what he was doing, does he expect no one to go near him? I'm confused with this dude!

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Oh, he was actually sitting in a chair, and at first I was 3 feet away, then I was tapped on the shoulder and moved closer to talk to that person, without realizing how close I was to him. I have a very bad sense of space sometimes- I've walked into my own walls, but it was nothing a simple excuse, me your standing too close couldn't have solved!

If he is a single dad and working extra hours at night, too darn bad. He should not be allowed to act like this, and should be at the very least severely reprimanded. His personal situation should not enter in to it at all. He is the one that should be trying to act properly and keep his job if he has a kid to support.
Personally, I would be after his job, and possibly his head. I can't stand people that think they should be allowed to do anything, (or nothing) and just by uttering the words "I am a single parent" all should be forgiven. People like that depend on the fact that most people feel sorry for them for some reason.

Hmmm. So you feel you might have accidentally been in his personal space. OK that is mature to recognize your part in it. Now it is time for you to continue being a model of maturity for him. If it was a gentle nudge with the foot and you do not want him to lose his job, than perhaps you could deal with it privately. Try being extra nice to him in a remote sort of way. You don't have to be his pal, but when you see him say "How are the kids?" or something polite. Really, one of you has to be the bigger man, so you can do that and maybe he will slowly begin to realize he can't get to you.

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Hmmm. So you feel you might have accidentally been in his personal space. OK that is mature to recognize your part in it. Now it is time for you to continue being a model of maturity for him. If it was a gentle nudge with the foot and you do not want him to lose his job, than perhaps you could deal with it privately. Try being extra nice to him in a remote sort of way. You don't have to be his pal, but when you see him say "How are the kids?" or something polite. Really, one of you has to be the bigger man, so you can do that and maybe he will slowly begin to realize he can't get to you.

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Or you could come prepared with pepper spray next time and use it......... oops, did I say that? Seriously, the single thing is worn out. I see single parents doing jobs all the time and they would never dream of nudging someone or cursing at them because they are tired or whatever his problem is.
I'd have blown up right then and there. (of course my mouth goes before my brain and I don't like disrespect in the workplace) I'd speak to his bosses and tell them what happened in case something worse happens, so you have some documentation of the prior thing. He sounds like an IMO. I feel sorry for his daughter, esepcially if he is treating you that way.

Originally Posted by Kathylou

Hmmm. So you feel you might have accidentally been in his personal space. OK that is mature to recognize your part in it. Now it is time for you to continue being a model of maturity for him. If it was a gentle nudge with the foot and you do not want him to lose his job, than perhaps you could deal with it privately. Try being extra nice to him in a remote sort of way. You don't have to be his pal, but when you see him say "How are the kids?" or something polite. Really, one of you has to be the bigger man, so you can do that and maybe he will slowly begin to realize he can't get to you.

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That's why I spoke to him privately in the first place- then he decided to act even more immaturely and swore and flipped me off, and then walked away. He has never used the "I'm so pathetic I'm a single dad and work a lot" line on me, I just know this from other people at work.. I've always politely inquired about his dtr and asked if he would ever bring her in.. But for now I really think it's best not to speak to him unless neccesary. I'm going to ask on Monday if they are going to write something in his file, or have him apologize, or what. I know he was definitely spoken too severely, and a lot of his co-workers strongly dissaprove of his actions. I've been working in a different building the rest of the week, so some cool off time is being had. I sincerely hope his dtr is being brought up well- I know that her mother has enough problems so that she is in his primary custody.

Even if the kick ws more of a nudge, he still shouldn't have booted you. Report him. We have security guards at the hospital where I work and some of them are a bit 'strange'!