BF and I just had our first fight. Last week, my Chihuahua, Pedro and Kayla were left alone in the other room for a while, while Mark was making dinner. Suddenly he heard her crying and went in there and she told him Pedro bit her. She had scratches on her face, but no punctures. He didn't see exactly what happened, so I figured she probably mishandled him somehow. He never bites her or growls for no reason, and has never bitten her (or anyone) before. He only growls at her if she tried to kick him or push him down. Since then, he has sat on her lap and she hand feeds him food and treats. I figured this would get him to love and respect her and it has seemed to work. We haven't left them alone again, and nothing has happened. I thought it was solved. Today, when Mark came home Pedro was in his kennel with Rain, and when they were walking up to the cage, Pedro started growling and snarling and barking. He does this all the time when I take him to work, and as soon as you let him out of the cage, he is fine. When Mark told me that he did that, he said he's had enough of Pedro and I tried to explain to him that Pedro wouldn't do anything if he let him out of the kennel, he's just being cage protective, but Mark wouldn't listen and we got into a fight about it, he said it's no choice, the kid over the dog. He said his friends are all asking him why I still have the dog if that happened. He says you can't expect a toddler to understand how to handle a dog, and ALL dogs should be nice no matter what, even if they're hurt or anything. He had a dog before this and got rid of her because she knocked Kayla down a few times. I don't want Kayla to get hurt badly or anything, but my point is, Kayla needs to learn how to handle animals. If she mistreats animals and Daddy just gets rid of them the minute they retaliate against her mishandling them, she's not going to learn the proper way to treat an animal. I know she is not my daughter, but if it WERE my daughter, I would view it the same way. I have always planned to teach my children to respect animals. Most of the time when an animal bites a child, it's because of mishandling on the child's part. I've been bitten enough to know that's not always the case, but it IS the case in this instance. I told Mark I would come get the dogs and take them home, and when I got there, he wouldn't talk to me. Now I won't be able to spend the night anymore because I'll have to get home to tend to the dogs. The other option is getting rid of Pedro, which I don't want to do, and what's next? My cats play bite her and I have to get rid of them? That's bound to happen if we ever live together, he's already dimissed one of my cats completely because he mistook a playbite for a real bite. I have to draw the line somewhere, don't I? What do you all think? I am so confused and hurt right now I don't know what to think or say or do. HELP! PS...does anyone want a Chihuahua?
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11/30/05 at 5:27pm