HI.
Thanks for your time and advice.
My girlfriend and I recently added a kitten to our apartment.
All is going well, she (the cat) is becoming more affectionate and playful, is eating well and using her litter box.
Just one "problem." I have read many threads and articles about "night time
crazies" and have learned a lot. Bur I am concerned about the possible mixed messages I may be sending the kitten and possible effects on her personality and behavior.
Ok, before I go into this, I will add that by profession, I am a child therapist and may be reading way too much into this. But, I cant help it I guess.
Well, in order to sleep at night we will put the cat out of our room. I tend to sleep in more a series of two hour naps and get up frequently. When I do, the cat has begun crying louder and more intensely when she sees me. Last night, I got up, went into the kitchen and she started her crying that was more rapid and more like a chortle....really sad. In addition she stood upright and grabbed a hold of my calf (no claws) a just cried over and over....Needless to say I felt terrible and of course, let her back into the room.
For several minutes, all is well. Lots of purring and love. Several minutes later however, we are back to attacking feet, running about the room, et.
So, I picked her up and went to take her out of the room again.
As we entered the door way to exit the bedroom, the cat looked up at me and went "nuts." The only thing I can compare what happened is to a "night terror" experience of a young child (children around 3-4 may wake up at night in terror- crying and screaming- and are inconsolable, may walk around the home appearing awake but looking right through you and will not respond to attempts at communication)
So, the cat looks up, starts hissing and growling and squirms out of my arms. I dropped her and she went into a very defensive, crouched-ready-to-attack stance and just hissed and growled for several minutes. For about 5 minutes after this she would not let me touch her and would get all plexed up and hiss.....Very weird. Or maybe not...
Ok, I am a noob at this.
I am concerned that I am sending mixed messages and effecting her by giving into the crying after being placed out of the room and allowing her back in repeatedly.
Is it best to remain consistent if we want to keep her out of the room at night and not give into the crying?
I really love to have her in the room and even sleep with us, that would be great. But I fear by trying to ease her into it through gradual exposure and removal I am setting her up for some kind of attachment problem where she may develop a skittish or mistrustful kind of relation to people.
Thanks for any help.
Best
Jay
Thanks for your time and advice.
My girlfriend and I recently added a kitten to our apartment.
All is going well, she (the cat) is becoming more affectionate and playful, is eating well and using her litter box.
Just one "problem." I have read many threads and articles about "night time
crazies" and have learned a lot. Bur I am concerned about the possible mixed messages I may be sending the kitten and possible effects on her personality and behavior.
Ok, before I go into this, I will add that by profession, I am a child therapist and may be reading way too much into this. But, I cant help it I guess.
Well, in order to sleep at night we will put the cat out of our room. I tend to sleep in more a series of two hour naps and get up frequently. When I do, the cat has begun crying louder and more intensely when she sees me. Last night, I got up, went into the kitchen and she started her crying that was more rapid and more like a chortle....really sad. In addition she stood upright and grabbed a hold of my calf (no claws) a just cried over and over....Needless to say I felt terrible and of course, let her back into the room.
For several minutes, all is well. Lots of purring and love. Several minutes later however, we are back to attacking feet, running about the room, et.
So, I picked her up and went to take her out of the room again.
As we entered the door way to exit the bedroom, the cat looked up at me and went "nuts." The only thing I can compare what happened is to a "night terror" experience of a young child (children around 3-4 may wake up at night in terror- crying and screaming- and are inconsolable, may walk around the home appearing awake but looking right through you and will not respond to attempts at communication)
So, the cat looks up, starts hissing and growling and squirms out of my arms. I dropped her and she went into a very defensive, crouched-ready-to-attack stance and just hissed and growled for several minutes. For about 5 minutes after this she would not let me touch her and would get all plexed up and hiss.....Very weird. Or maybe not...
Ok, I am a noob at this.
I am concerned that I am sending mixed messages and effecting her by giving into the crying after being placed out of the room and allowing her back in repeatedly.
Is it best to remain consistent if we want to keep her out of the room at night and not give into the crying?
I really love to have her in the room and even sleep with us, that would be great. But I fear by trying to ease her into it through gradual exposure and removal I am setting her up for some kind of attachment problem where she may develop a skittish or mistrustful kind of relation to people.
Thanks for any help.
Best
Jay