We adopted a feral male last year into a house with 1 male (6 yrs) and 1 female (4 yrs). All are now fixed. #2 female came into the house originally with the #1 male and after 6 months they became tolerant of each other. Last year with the addition of the 2nd male has been traumatic for her. He is more aggressive in personality than she is. We had hoped after 6 months she was start to tolerate him. We knew she would be OK with #1 when he walked by and she swatted his butt! This has not happened with the other. Over the past 3 months it has gotten worse. We're on month 14 right now! She now lives in fear of him, does not come out except when she knows he is outside. He senses her fear and has started attacking her more, which makes her more scared, which he senses and he attacks....see where this leads us. She started peeing when they fight and now pees and poops in the tub since out bedroom is where she spends the most time and feels safest. We're afraid they won't ever get along and we're trying to find someone to adopt her, since we feel she really prefers to be the lone cat. She has a chronic sinus condition and haven't gotten any interest in a sneezy/snotty cat.
I'm wondering if there is anything we can do? I read a posting about bringing a new cat into the house and wonder if we separate them 24 hours a day they might forget each other and then we can start over?? Don't they have short memories? We have recently started keeping him in another room at night, but she hasn't clued in that she is safe at night. Any thoughts? We really want to keep all three.
I'm wondering if there is anything we can do? I read a posting about bringing a new cat into the house and wonder if we separate them 24 hours a day they might forget each other and then we can start over?? Don't they have short memories? We have recently started keeping him in another room at night, but she hasn't clued in that she is safe at night. Any thoughts? We really want to keep all three.
