As you all know I have 2 boys. One will be 4 on Monday and the other will be 8 Dec 6th. I am having the hardest time with both of them! Deacon (the soon to be 4yr old) is just being a 4yr old. Pushing the envelope to see what he can get away with, but all in all, a normal 4 yr old. But Justice, my soon to be 8 yr old is getting impossible! He's becoming a very difficult and unpleaseant child. I will ask him to do something and he will drop to the floor and cry like hes 2. And when I say cry, I dont mean just tears, I mean BAWLING and SCREAMING. Just because I asked him to feed the cats, or to put his dinner dishes in the sink. Simple things like that set him off. And he has the smartest mouth on a kid I have ever seen. Like this morning he comes out of the bedroom and says "Lets go" I just ignored him because we had about 10 more mins before I have to leave to take him to school. He then says "DID YOU HEAR ME?! I SAID LETS GO NOW!" I calmy turned and looked at him and told him I did not answer him the first time because I am the parent and HE is the child and he is NOT going to try and tell me what to do and, when he takes that tone with me I am just going to ignore him more!
He tries to "parent" everyone in the house about everything. I have also seen him, bite punch, kick, and slap his little brother. I know that can be just sibling rivalry, but its getting worse. He has blacked his eyes, bit him to the bleeding point and even kicked him in the throat.
There has been a couple of occasions that when I have went to physically stop him from doing something (because he will completely ignore me) that he has even taken a swing at me!
I don't like spanking him because he's a rather big kid. He's almost 8 yrs old and weighs 80lbs. Thats another thing that worries me, he is gaining weight like he's a grown man. His father (my ex husband) is not a large man, (only 5'5 160lbs) nor am I (5'4 130). I can't get him outside to ride a bike, he wants to sit and play PS2 (which we unhooked) or watch TV (which I unplug ). He's also got a serious lying problem. He will go to his dad's and tell him I didnt feed him, that I pull his hair and dig my nails into his arm. There have been a few instances in the store when I tell him to leave something alone, or to stop and when he doesn't I will walk towards him and he will run backwards yelling "DONT BEAT ME!" Which just about puts me in tears because it's embarrassing and people look at me like Im some kind of child beater. I very VERY rarely spank him, because I don't believe in it. I don't know where he is gettin this from. I have talked to his father about it and his response was "he doesnt do these things with me" well of course he doesnt!!!! His father lets him get away with murder!! Like when I told him that he bit Deacon, he says "well Deacon probably deserved it"
. He doesn't back me up on anything. I have went to the extent of taking EVERYTHING but his bed out of his room and grounding him. I even told him "every time you do something bad, Santa takes a present away" Justice says " thats ok, my dad will have santa get it" so I called his dad and told him, right in front of Justice what I said, and he says "isnt that harsh?" I just about lost it. My husband now, has tried to help with him by being strict but he works 12-14 hour days and by the time he gets home, the kids are getting ready for bed... If anyone can give me some advice on this or is you have had the similar situation PLEASE help me!?? Im at my wits end. I have tried to get him counsiling but my insurance doesn't cover it and the school says they can't help because he doesnt act like this in class...... Any advice is welcomed and appreciated!
He tries to "parent" everyone in the house about everything. I have also seen him, bite punch, kick, and slap his little brother. I know that can be just sibling rivalry, but its getting worse. He has blacked his eyes, bit him to the bleeding point and even kicked him in the throat.
There has been a couple of occasions that when I have went to physically stop him from doing something (because he will completely ignore me) that he has even taken a swing at me!