The " Gonna Be Wed " Thread!

[ugaimes]

Oh why did I ever say that I wanted a reception??

My mom and I have been arguing all evening. Bradley and I want the Mulberry...mom is only seeing dollar signs. The truth is, I think I'll be able to pay for the majority of the reception with money from my father and what can't/won't pay, I can take care of it. My mom still thinks we're spending too much (even though I'm getting an amazing deal, she's still living in the Stone Age). I sort of blew up at her tonight b/c she is SO opinionated and SO opposed to the Mulberry (b/c of price). WHOSE WEDDING IS THIS?!?!?!

Those of you who have been through this before, how did you handle the opinionated people in your family?

 

[berylayn]

Amy I am sorry you are having trouble getting your mom to see the importance of your day.

I know how tough it can be to deal with the opinions of everyone else around you. Its even harder too being that its your mom and you probably want her to be happy too.

How much is your mom paying for with the wedding if you don't mind me asking? Because if she's paying then I'd think she should definitely get a good say in where it should be held. But from what you said it makes me think that maybe your dad and you are paying for most of it?

I guess my advice would be to calmly explain to you mom again how important this day is for you and Bradley. Its a once in a lifetime (hopefully

) experience and this is what you two really want. Maybe as a compromise you can offer to get prices from a few other places too just to do some comparissons. But bottom line is its your day and if you are paying then you should have the final word.

I don't know if anything I've said helps, I've been pretty lucky with my family backing us all along, but hopefully I've said one or two things that may help you out. Good Luck!

 

[wellingtoncats]

Amy, I love love love 'your' dress!

 

[ugaimes]

Beryl, thank you

. Mom doesn't have much money to put in (maybe $1-2K- my father took EVERYTHING in the dicorce

). I know it hurts her that she cannot put in more, but I don't mind covering what I can. I hate arguing with her and told her that she can have much, much more say on the other stuff (flowers, favors, etc.), it's just that the reception site is the #1 most important thing to me (after who the groom is, of course!) and it's the one thing Bradley and I feel should be solely our decision.

Sam, thank you

. Maybe we have similar taste! I cannot wait to go try it on! Hopefully my mother won't have a problem with the dress as well!

 

[pinkdaisy226]

My turn my turn! My wedding is March 14, 2006... less than 4 months away. Gulp. It's going to be held at the SeaWatch Restaurant on the fabulous island of Maui in Hawaii.

I'm ridiculously behind tho... I still need to book my musicians (I'm fighting my parents who want me to dance at the wedding, I feel like I don't need to turn my ankle on my big day), find a florist and get my fiance, best man (my brother) and maid of honor (who lives overseas) their clothes.

I'm sure there's more to do but I'm a horrible planner and procrastinator, made even more difficult by the fact that everything is an ocean away and therefore has to be done online.

 

[pat]

Originally Posted by Mom2SalemIsis

OK well i don't think I fint in this thread any longer lol seeing how Charlie and I got married lastnight under a full moon. it was chilly yes but worth every minute of it. we had a very simple wedding with just me him the preacher and the 2 people that have known us from the moment we met to present. it was wonderful it was exciting too because we did it secretly no on (well except you guys) knows its thrilling. I have been waiting 10 years to marry this man,,, my soul mate... i couldn't be happier. congrats and good luck to the rest of you.

OOh Congratulations!!

 

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Originally Posted by ugaimes

Here's a link to the dress that I'm in LOVE with. I think it's The Dress. Guess we'll know soon enough!

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_g...7&prodgroup=10

Very pretty!

 

[pat]

Originally Posted by Alaynna

Congrats!! I got married in Oct of last year and October is a wonderful month to get married in!!

Isn't it though?

I'm still over the moon after celebrating our 10th and receiving my anniversary ring

 

[pat]

Originally Posted by valanhb

Actually, our fifth anniverary is today.

A Belated Happy Anniversary!

 

[pat]

Originally Posted by snosrap5

That is a beautiful dress!

Congrats to everyone on your up coming weddings. I was married 18yrs ago Oct 9th. My colors we a deep royal and lt blues. Just remember to have fun. Don't let the stress take away the fun of planning your wedding.

I have been tossing around the ideal of renewing our vows on our 20th anniversary. I would love to do it on the beach.

Sounds like a wonderful idea...we just celebrated our 10th on October 8th

and DH is already teasing about what he's going to do for our 25th

 

[berylayn]

Hey Ladies!!

I have news.

Yesterday was a big day in wedding things for Brendan and I! First of all we went and purchased our wedding bands yesterday.

It makes it so much more real now that his ring is here now too!!

My sister and I also went bridesmaid dress shopping yesterday and found her a dress.

We had gone browsing about a month ago and got in an argument over the color. I wanted a green dress. She said the color I liked made her look like a piece of celery. Fortunately this time we found a slightly darker shade of green in a dress she loves. So we're all set! Now she says she looks like a 'mermaid' LOL.

Just wanted to share my news!

 

[pinkdaisy226]

Yay Beryl! But I knew all that already...

 

[jenni]

Me and my gorgeous fiance booked our wedding yesterday for 19th August 2006 and i've been for a dress fitting aswell but apart from that we haven't booked anything else yet but i'm so excited.

 

[ugaimes]

Ooh, been a while since this thread has been updated. Beryl, that is so cool that you've bought the bands!

Makes things feel very official, huh? That's great that you've chosen a bridesmaid dress! It can be difficult when the bride and her girls have differing opinions!

Jenni- congratulations on setting a date and finding a dress

. Have you chosen your site yet?

Here's my updated: We got the contract for the Mulberry Inn and there were QUITE a few "hidden charges" added (big surprise) that raise our rate by about $2,000. That's still our #1 choice, but there's also a hotel on the beach that Bradley and I are going to look at on Friday. We'd have a wedding on the beach (woo hoo!) but could move it into one of the hotel ballrooms in case of (God forbid) a hurricane. Then we'd have our reception in the big restaurant overlooking the moonlit beach

. The price is a LOT better than that of the Mulberry, so we'll see. I just know we have to book our place SOON before all of those people getting engaged at Christmas sink their hooks into the prime places!

 

[yangdemei]

Hi all, just found this thread (married for 3 1/2 years) and I love weddings.

I suggest you stick with the things that really matter to you, and give in on the others. I was living in Australia when my mom virtually planned my whole wedding in the US. My only real concerns were bouquets and dresses for the bridesmaids.

I wanted loud colors in roses (orange, hot pink, yellow) and the bridesmaids dresses to be black. I was thinking practicality on the dresses (all were different and living on different continents) and lightening things up on the flowers. EVERYONE argued with me, but I held my own and the result was a beautiful picture!

I also wanted my own dress to be red, but that got shot down quickly!

I told my mom that the Chinese traditionally use red for wedding dresses, to which she replied, " You are not @#$% Chinese!!!"

I told MIL that I wanted red roses for my bouquet (to replace that red dress!

) and was told it was unlucky. I persisted and MIL agreed that they looked fantastic.

In other words, I was very happy about getting the things that I wanted and just let everyone else put their 2 cents in for the rest. Made for an excellent wedding and a rocking reception!!!!

FYI (As a secret side note, the reason I wanted a red dress was really because of that old Golden Girls episode where Blanche comes out in her red wedding dress (like 30 years later) and proclaims, "Honey, even I couldn't talk myself into a white wedding gown!"

)

Sorry bout the long post!

 

[ugaimes]

Originally Posted by yangdemei

FYI (As a secret side note, the reason I wanted a red dress was really because of that old Golden Girls episode where Blanche comes out in her red wedding dress (like 30 years later) and proclaims, "Honey, even I couldn't talk myself into a white wedding gown!"

)

Ahh, another Golden Girls fan! EXCELLENT!

I bet your pictures were lovely- black dresses with those goregous flower colors!

That's great you held your ground on the things that were important to you. That's how Bradley and I feel- we don't want to look back on our wedding day and think "Man, I really wish we didn't cave in on so-and-so."

 

[yangdemei]

Originally Posted by ugaimes

Ahh, another Golden Girls fan! EXCELLENT!

I bet your pictures were lovely- black dresses with those goregous flower colors!

That's great you held your ground on the things that were important to you. That's how Bradley and I feel- we don't want to look back on our wedding day and think "Man, I really wish we didn't cave in on so-and-so."

They really were. Never knew I had so much taste!

It's your day!!!

Have fun planning and stick to your guns on the really important stuff.

Good luck. I know it will be a beautiful occasion!

 

[oscarsmommy]

Jus thought I would add my 2 cents.....

My sister is getting married next September and her gown looks like this except its a halter:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_g...1&prodgroup=10

My dress for her wedding is exactly this(color and everything):

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesma...d=4649&cfid=18

Just my input seeing as how my wedding is still a few years away

 

[ugaimes]

Courtney, I love both of those dresses! In fact, your bridesmaid dress is one of the ones I'm considering for my gals (though right now I'm leaning towards tea-length dresses).

I'm sure you and your sister will look beautiful on her big day!

 

[oscarsmommy]

I love my dress! It makes me look even skinnier! I have a picture of my sister in her dress but I have it in email and don't know how to put it in here that way or I would show you guys. She looks sooooo haooy!

What colors are you doing?