Frustrated Cat Owner

serenity · Nov 16, 2005

Hi,

We've had our cat for about 7 months. I am frustrated... Most of my friends and family do not like cats so there goes my company. When a very good friend of mine's sleeps over at times I have to put my cat in a room which she does not like, and henceforth its hard to sleep due to the noise she makes.

Also, lately my cat has been really noisy at night to the point where I am being awaked. She jumps up in the air and scratches the walls in my room only. I am about ready to give her away....

yayi · Nov 16, 2005

Originally Posted by Serenity

Hi,
I am about ready to give her away....

Please don't!

Your cat is not doing this to bother you. She probably hears the bugs or whatever running around behind the walls.

cherriey · Nov 16, 2005

Where did you get your baby to begin with? (what's her name and do you have pictures)

jane_vernon · Nov 16, 2005

She is probably bored!! My cat goes mental at times and runs and jumps randomly at walls!! Its just a kitten thing!!

You shouldn't want to give her away, and you should have thought about your friends not liking her before you got her - Don't punish her because of your mistake - Thats not fair. I don't mean to sound harsh, but you picked her not the other way around.

coolcat · Nov 16, 2005

Originally Posted by yayi

Please don't!

Your cat is not doing this to bother you. She probably hears the bugs or whatever running around behind the walls.

...

..please listen to her...

....
could be another solution for this little one...

serenity · Nov 16, 2005

Originally Posted by jane_vernon

She is probably bored!! My cat goes mental at times and runs and jumps randomly at walls!! Its just a kitten thing!!

You shouldn't want to give her away, and you should have thought about your friends not liking her before you got her - Don't punish her because of your mistake - Thats not fair. I don't mean to sound harsh, but you picked her not the other way around.

You don't sound harsh at all.

I realize I should have thought it through more before adopting her, does that mean I have to live with my decision for 15years+???

serenity · Nov 16, 2005

Originally Posted by yayi

Please don't!

Your cat is not doing this to bother you. She probably hears the bugs or whatever running around behind the walls.

These are the two walls in particular to one of my clothes closets. oh dear....

tuxedokitties · Nov 16, 2005

It's normal for cats to be more active at night - you can help her adjust to your schedule with play therapy (click here for info). A good play session in the evening, followed by a meal, should help her calm down for the evening.

If you plan to confine her to a room when certain people come over, make that room a fun place for her to be, so she'll be comfortable in there. It might be a good idea to feed her meals in that room, and you can put her toys and a cat tree to climb on in there to make it more appealing, too. Click here for some more suggestions.

Have you had her spayed yet? If not, please take her to the vet to get it done as soon as possible - that may help calm her down a bit too.

cherriey · Nov 16, 2005

Do you mean to tell me that absolutely NONE of your family or friends likes fluffy felines even a little bit? They dislike them so much that they don't want any of them near them when they come to visit? Wow. I must be sheltered; I've never heard of that before! True I do know a lady who finds the feel of cat fur disgusting and repulsive (much like some people and snake skin) but I thought that was an isolated case...

Edit: You could even adopt another baby you're sure she'll get along with. When two cats are together in a room by themselves they don't feel as lonely and left out as one kitty all by herself away from her mommy (you).

jane_vernon · Nov 16, 2005

Yes, for you it does. You cannot get rid of her just because she is being a little naughty. Would you get rid of your child because they are chewing everything in site and getting into all the cupboards?? No, you would teach the child to do the right thing. You have to do the same thing with your cat.

She needs to be kept stimulated.

tuxedokitties · Nov 16, 2005

If this is your first cat, I'd also suggest you find a good book about cats and cat behavior - Good Owners, Great Cats is a really good book. Amy Shojai is a good author, and Wendy Christiansen who writes the cat behavior columns for TCS has a good book too. Once you start learning about your cat's needs, and what motivates her to behave the way she does, you'll be able to help shape her behavior (and your own expectations) in a way you can both live with.

serenity · Nov 16, 2005

Originally Posted by Cherriey

Do you mean to tell me that absolutely NONE of your family or friends likes fluffy felines even a little bit? They dislike them so much that they don't want any of them near them when they come to visit? Wow. I must be sheltered; I've never heard of that before! True I do know a lady who finds the feel of cat fur disgusting and repulsive (much like some people and snake skin) but I thought that was an isolated case...

Edit: You could even adopt another baby you're sure she'll get along with. When two cats are together in a room by themselves they don't feel as lonely and left out as one kitty all by herself away from her mommy (you).

Yes, NONE! I've heard: cats are sneaky, nasty, etc.

She is at her worst when my boyfriend is over, she won't leave us alone. Even when someone else is there for her to snuggle with.

Adopting another cat is NOT an option, its enough work cleaning the litterbox 2x a day as it is with the one I have now and hearing what is that smell when she first uses it when I have company.

, not aside from the fact that I've come into some finacial hard times, so no more money left over nor space in my small home for another cat.

serenity · Nov 16, 2005

Originally Posted by tuxedokitties

If this is your first cat, I'd also suggest you find a good book about cats and cat behavior - Good Owners, Great Cats is a really good book. Amy Shojai is a good author, and Wendy Christiansen who writes the cat behavior columns for TCS has a good book too. Once you start learning about your cat's needs, and what motivates her to behave the way she does, you'll be able to help shape her behavior (and your own expectations) in a way you can both live with.

This isn't my first cat. I had a cat many years ago. Thanks for the book recommendations though.

sweety72785 · Nov 16, 2005

You almost sound like you dont want a cat at all anymore. Did you know how your friends and family were going to to react when you got your cat?

serenity · Nov 16, 2005

I don't, but, I would miss her. I kind of just wish she could just be an outdoor cat, but, I know that's not best.

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