It's pretty evident in the fact that you have given her a week that you really aren't interested in going out of you way to help her.
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My cat needs a new home Please help
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The week wasn't My choice. And I just don't see spaying as a medically necessary thing to do. Its surgery, why put an animal though the trauma of surgery when there is no valid reason. She is extremely healthy and other than catching a kitty flu when she was like 2 years old has had no problems whatsoever. But you have your opinion and I'm not here to even want to change it so there is no point in you arguing with me about it.
"It's pretty evident in the fact that you have given her a week that you really aren't interested in going out of you way to help her.
Katie"
I think driving 200 miles when you have to work the next day is a little EXTREME for any person so don't even give me that. And how many times do I have to say this, I HAVE NO CHOICE, or trust me, she would not be leaving this house. But I prefer to keep my husband, the father of my child, over a cat. I'm sorry I'm not like you but I tend to put committed relationships first if it comes to that.
Anyway.. nothing is getting resolved here so this post can be closed now. Thanks.
"It's pretty evident in the fact that you have given her a week that you really aren't interested in going out of you way to help her.
Katie"
I think driving 200 miles when you have to work the next day is a little EXTREME for any person so don't even give me that. And how many times do I have to say this, I HAVE NO CHOICE, or trust me, she would not be leaving this house. But I prefer to keep my husband, the father of my child, over a cat. I'm sorry I'm not like you but I tend to put committed relationships first if it comes to that.
Anyway.. nothing is getting resolved here so this post can be closed now. Thanks.
I'm sorry you've been given an ultimatum like this. It's really unfair.
Poor Nikki.
For her sake, I hope you find a loving home for her soon. She at least deserves that, you know. Please don't take her to a kill shelter. She hasn't done anything wrong. She's just being a cat.
Poor Nikki.
But you had this cat for 6 YEARS...and you are now saying that isn't a commitment?? I think giving a cat a week to find a new home is a little extreme...especially in the face of so much evidence that you could do things to help this cat stay in your household. As a rescuer...I know that it can take months for the right person to come along and rescues do all they can for cats that are under threat of euthanasia...but oftentimes cats get overlooked for kittens. I do wish you had more time.
I would say that the surgery would have probably saved her life because it would have had only a positive impact on her behavior and thus..you wouldn't be looking for a new home for her. If it were my cat...I would do as much as I possibly could to keep her out of the shelter...even if it meant having to set her up in a room on her own until I could arrange for her to be spayed..that is what I would do.
If you ever decide to get another animal...I hope you consider the commitment you are making to that animal as a member of your family...not just the commitment you are making to your husband or child.
I did crosspost this on Petfinder in order to try to help your cat.
I will pray that someone comes through for this girl...she really shouldn't have to lose her life over this.
Katie
Wow! Onyx is GORGEOUS!!! And Nikki has some very unique, beautiful markings! I hope and pray that you find a good home for her very soon! Sorry that your attempts here at TCS have not turned out the way you like. {{{Prayers & vibes}}} for an easy, quick delivery & on a healthy baby!
Hope to see you in the forums soon under better circumstances!
Susan
Hope to see you in the forums soon under better circumstances!
I agree that Onyx is quite beautiful. However, I do not think she will be alive in a few weeks, and that is very sad.
You came here looking for a home for Onxy, rather than advice. But honestly, most of us at TCS are already overloaded with cats we foster or adopted from owners who no longer want them. I truly don't hold much hope that a six year old cat who goes wacky around a dog and probably hasn't seen a vet for 4 years will be adopted. Whoever takes her will need to spend enough to bring her up to date on her vaccinations and spay her. I'm sure money is tight for you, and with a baby on the way you need to make difficult choices. TNR tried to offer you low cost clinics, but not knowing exactly where you live it is hard.
I would suggest you google a search on low-cost spay if that is even an option. It really could totally correct the problem with her aggression. Otherwise google cat rescue, and see if a rescue will take her for you. Good luck.
You came here looking for a home for Onxy, rather than advice. But honestly, most of us at TCS are already overloaded with cats we foster or adopted from owners who no longer want them. I truly don't hold much hope that a six year old cat who goes wacky around a dog and probably hasn't seen a vet for 4 years will be adopted. Whoever takes her will need to spend enough to bring her up to date on her vaccinations and spay her. I'm sure money is tight for you, and with a baby on the way you need to make difficult choices. TNR tried to offer you low cost clinics, but not knowing exactly where you live it is hard.
I would suggest you google a search on low-cost spay if that is even an option. It really could totally correct the problem with her aggression. Otherwise google cat rescue, and see if a rescue will take her for you. Good luck.
GET YOUR CAT SPAYED. Save lives , spay and neuter
This kitty has been with you for 6 yrs and is not yet spayed???? OMG!!! If that is your husband's idea, I think he needs to go!!! Seriously, you need to stand up to him and explain that we now live in a society where we care for animals - wwe do not declaw cats so they are horribly maimed, we care for them as well as we do our children (they are beings with feelings after all!!) and they hurt just as we do. This poor kitty needs you t syand up and care for her - take her to a vet and have her spayed and she should be fine!!! Rehoming her will be so stressful to her - she has given you love and attention for six long years. You owe her at the very least love and help!!
Just saw the comment about the alledged :trauma" of surgery. Now sure who wrote that but I hope you are kidding!!!! Sure it is surgery but it is not all that invasive and cats do very well - some tnr programs release kitties back to their feral colonies even 48 hrs postop. However, before I say anything I will regret, I do want to point out it is a greater trauma to have litter mn after litter of kittens or to suffer through heat time and time again. Anyone who lets their cat go thru that certainly does not have their cat's health at heart - unless they are a registereed breeder or just do not know any better. And of course breeders ultimately spay their cats after 3 yrs or so. This cat has been suffering for 6 yrs (that alone makes me so angry I could scream!!! - but I'll pet my baby instead). She is a prime candidate for disease and she will not live as long as an unspayed kitty. Have her spayed, NOW!!!! Regardless of what your husband says. Educate yourself!!! And tell him she is part of the family whether he likes it or not. Or get rid of him! (If any man told me to get rid of an animal, he would be long gone!)
Just saw the comment about the alledged :trauma" of surgery. Now sure who wrote that but I hope you are kidding!!!! Sure it is surgery but it is not all that invasive and cats do very well - some tnr programs release kitties back to their feral colonies even 48 hrs postop. However, before I say anything I will regret, I do want to point out it is a greater trauma to have litter mn after litter of kittens or to suffer through heat time and time again. Anyone who lets their cat go thru that certainly does not have their cat's health at heart - unless they are a registereed breeder or just do not know any better. And of course breeders ultimately spay their cats after 3 yrs or so. This cat has been suffering for 6 yrs (that alone makes me so angry I could scream!!! - but I'll pet my baby instead). She is a prime candidate for disease and she will not live as long as an unspayed kitty. Have her spayed, NOW!!!! Regardless of what your husband says. Educate yourself!!! And tell him she is part of the family whether he likes it or not. Or get rid of him! (If any man told me to get rid of an animal, he would be long gone!)
Your kitty is 6 years old. Her chances of being adopted are slim. Please tell your husband that cats are not disposable and when you adopt one you can't later decide to just "get rid of them". He is asking you to throw away your baby like so much garbage. You are supposed to be his equal. What gives him the right to issue such an unreasonable ultimatum?
Getting her spayed will drastically reduce her aggression. She will be more affectionate too. She has been a member of your family for 6 years. Please don't forget that.
where do you live? I would take this cat. I foster cats for a no kill shelter.
It is very sweet of you to offer but the OP hasn't been on this site for weeks. I'm afraid she did take the cat to the shelter. The first page gives her email address...you may want to try to reach her through her email.
Katie
How sad!! 1 week is ridiculous for rehoming a kitty. Rehoming this cat is ridiculous in general. Poor thing.
I agree with most of you that this kitty should/should have been spayed. And as for it being unnecessary, I beg to differ. You are preventing behavioural problems, overpopulation, diseases, and cancers to your cat (the chance for reproductive cancers increases by 80% or so for unspayed cats).
I agree with most of you that this kitty should/should have been spayed. And as for it being unnecessary, I beg to differ. You are preventing behavioural problems, overpopulation, diseases, and cancers to your cat (the chance for reproductive cancers increases by 80% or so for unspayed cats).
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Ok guys, thanks for trying. But the OP has moved on, and this thread is being locked.
The sad part about this scenario is it plays out in homes all over the country. Cats are at times considered disposable. If they act out, or appear to act inappropriately by their owner, they are often dumped off at shelters, left in the woods, or dumped near places such as I have that rescue cats.
This cat should have been spayed many years ago. By keeping her intact, the owner made her go through repeated heat cycles, and who knows how many kittens she had? Maybe none, which then opens her up to pyometra a deadly disease if not treated. There are other concerns as well in leaving a female intact.
Yes it is a surgery, but a neccessary surgery unless you are an ethical, registered breeder and not the backyard variety type.
So bottom line, our responsible members knew the right thing to do under these circumstances, but the OP was not receptive to the suggestions and the cat lost out. Hopefully, the cat didn't lose her life over this.
This thread is now closed. If you have any comments about it closing please direct those comments to a moderator
The sad part about this scenario is it plays out in homes all over the country. Cats are at times considered disposable. If they act out, or appear to act inappropriately by their owner, they are often dumped off at shelters, left in the woods, or dumped near places such as I have that rescue cats.
This cat should have been spayed many years ago. By keeping her intact, the owner made her go through repeated heat cycles, and who knows how many kittens she had? Maybe none, which then opens her up to pyometra a deadly disease if not treated. There are other concerns as well in leaving a female intact.
Yes it is a surgery, but a neccessary surgery unless you are an ethical, registered breeder and not the backyard variety type.
So bottom line, our responsible members knew the right thing to do under these circumstances, but the OP was not receptive to the suggestions and the cat lost out. Hopefully, the cat didn't lose her life over this.
This thread is now closed. If you have any comments about it closing please direct those comments to a moderator
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