i'm on match.com too!! so far only one wink from some wierd man who looks liek a woman.....LOL. i have a friend who met her "match" on match.com and another friend who married a guy from lavalife.
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ever done online dating?
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Amy and I met online in Dec 99 met in person 2 months later . in 2003 we got married .
Funny thing was that both of our parents we so against ppl meeting off the internet . My mother inlaw was so pissed but very happy that we met and fell in love and got hitched lol
Funny thing was that both of our parents we so against ppl meeting off the internet . My mother inlaw was so pissed but very happy that we met and fell in love and got hitched lol
One of my cloest freimds met her now husband on Match.com Neither of thme had very high expectations and a lot of same interests - so they clicked! They were so embarassed to tell anyone how they met.
Long before I met Eric the old-fashioned way (in person, by chance and no set up) I went on Match.com for a "free 7 days". I had a lot of dates but it seemed that every guy I met for snacks or coffee or whatnot, would go right back online and surf or cruise for other women just as soon as the date was over (I would check) and it made me ill. It was like a big game where nobody was ever sincere or serious about anybody else enough to let a relationship SLOWLY unfold. But that's just me, I guess.
Long before I met Eric the old-fashioned way (in person, by chance and no set up) I went on Match.com for a "free 7 days". I had a lot of dates but it seemed that every guy I met for snacks or coffee or whatnot, would go right back online and surf or cruise for other women just as soon as the date was over (I would check) and it made me ill. It was like a big game where nobody was ever sincere or serious about anybody else enough to let a relationship SLOWLY unfold. But that's just me, I guess.
I did that when I was 18 and had just moved to another state, because I was bored. I will say that at least back then, 90% of the respondants were only interested in sex. I got about 20 emails a day, so there were a lot to look through.
I recommend it, especially now-a-days, because it puts you in complete control of who you date. Now a lot of people have digital cameras/scanners or know someone that does, so you can see what they look like too. There are probably a lot more to choose from now also.
By the way, people on a dating site aren't looking for email pen-pals; they're look for you know, a date. They're not going to like emailing for months before getting to meet you--after all, that is what you are there for. It sounds romantic and all, but that's not how it works.
Did you watch the special series, Hooking Up? It showed what on-line dating is like. I think that the only major difference is that since you get so many 'hits', you are usually seeing more than 1 at a time. Therefore, you are comparing them to one another instead of just learning about one of them like you would be had you met the traditional way. It could either save a LOT of time, or be unfair, depending upon how you look at it.
It's not like meeting someone on-line in a chat room or on a forum and talking for a while before developing feelings; it's more like a blind date someone set you up on. You don't talk to that person for months before you go out with them. Just meet them in a public place until you get to know them. It's no more dangerous than going out with anyone, because even the most polite gentlemen can turn out to be serial killing cannibals.
Have fun/good luck!
I recommend it, especially now-a-days, because it puts you in complete control of who you date. Now a lot of people have digital cameras/scanners or know someone that does, so you can see what they look like too. There are probably a lot more to choose from now also.
By the way, people on a dating site aren't looking for email pen-pals; they're look for you know, a date. They're not going to like emailing for months before getting to meet you--after all, that is what you are there for. It sounds romantic and all, but that's not how it works.
Have fun/good luck!
I met my hubby online in a pets forum, we were both sysops (similar to mods here) and began chatting. We emailed for a couple of months that Fall, had a phone call in January - talked every day thereafter minus 3 or 4 days that first week until we married less than a year later
We were engaged the day after Valentine's day that year.
We just celebrated our 10th year anniversary! It helped that other forum members had actually met him in person, I knew he was 'real' and who he said he was. Past that, hand of God imho, as it took a lot of twists and turns over a number of years to bring us to the place where we met.
We just celebrated our 10th year anniversary! It helped that other forum members had actually met him in person, I knew he was 'real' and who he said he was. Past that, hand of God imho, as it took a lot of twists and turns over a number of years to bring us to the place where we met.
The Internet saved my social life! I moved to HI for a job, leaving all my friends and family behind in OH. I loved the atmosphere here on the islands, and I reveled in finally being able to “blend in,†both physically and culturally (Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m South Asian) in comparison to other places I had lived on the Mainland. Being a single young female, I didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t feel comfortable wandering around by myself in a new place, and it was difficult for me to meet people through work, since there was a large age gap between my colleagues and myself. Also, being new I didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t know where all one could go socially to meet people. (I have a TERRIBLE sense of direction, lol!) I turned to the Internet for help.
I can now honestly say that most of my friends here on Oahu are due to the Internet, and as I had suspected and planned, getting my foot through the social door allowed me to later meet further people through more “traditional†social avenues. Two of the three guys I dated in HI I met through the Internet, including the one Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve been dating for almost two years now. Since there is still a bit of social stigma attached to meeting people online, my boyfriend and I will sometimes “fudge the truth†with certain people. (We tell them we met in a restaurant, which is true, but only after meeting online initially and chatting and emailing back and forth first! If it is left up to me, however, I have no trouble with saying we met online.) In fact, my boyfriend and I are even adopted our bengal kittens together—and yup, we found them through the Internet too!
As a result of my experiences, I started an online group, “The Newcomerâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s Ohana,†though the name is misleading (many of the members are life-long or long-time Oahu residents). Itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s for 20- and 30-somethings on the island who want to expand their social horizons, a “place†where people can get together to meet others offline and invite others to interesting happenings they know about going on Oahu, as well as a “place†to ask for advice. My group even got mentioned in the newspaper because of a martini party I threw, which—you guessed it—was primarily organized via Internet.
Hereâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s a link to the article:
http://the.honoluluadvertiser.com/a...2/il/il01a.html
For me the Internet was a valuable social stepping stone and still is an important social tool I use to reach out and connect to others I might not otherwise meet. As with any social avenue, one must exercise certain precautions, but that the nature of any endeavor involving humans, unfortunately. I'm not saying that the Internet is for everyone, but for those who give it a shot, who actually take the "next step" and choose to meet "offline," it can be a life-changing experience (both good or bad).
The Internet is also is a great way to keep up with my friends and family back in OH--if I see them online I can save myself the expense of a costly phone bill, as well saving myself the worry that I woke them up or caught them at a bad time.
I guess there are a few people with whom I'd prefer to keep the Internet friendship simply that--an online thing only--but that's usually due to distance or a knowledge that hugely differing viewpoints on issues/lifestyles, while making for a good online debate, would make hanging out socially a negative experience offline. Other times, it's nice to have someone to talk to who understands or shares your perspective (or who can offer you a perspective you'd never considered before!) but who doesn't know you personally and therefore can feel comfortable telling you things honestly to your face that your "real" friends won't because they fear hurting your feelings or who might see certain truths to your situation because they are so far removed from your life.
Just my two cents on the Internet as a people-connector!
I can now honestly say that most of my friends here on Oahu are due to the Internet, and as I had suspected and planned, getting my foot through the social door allowed me to later meet further people through more “traditional†social avenues. Two of the three guys I dated in HI I met through the Internet, including the one Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve been dating for almost two years now. Since there is still a bit of social stigma attached to meeting people online, my boyfriend and I will sometimes “fudge the truth†with certain people. (We tell them we met in a restaurant, which is true, but only after meeting online initially and chatting and emailing back and forth first! If it is left up to me, however, I have no trouble with saying we met online.) In fact, my boyfriend and I are even adopted our bengal kittens together—and yup, we found them through the Internet too!
As a result of my experiences, I started an online group, “The Newcomerâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s Ohana,†though the name is misleading (many of the members are life-long or long-time Oahu residents). Itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s for 20- and 30-somethings on the island who want to expand their social horizons, a “place†where people can get together to meet others offline and invite others to interesting happenings they know about going on Oahu, as well as a “place†to ask for advice. My group even got mentioned in the newspaper because of a martini party I threw, which—you guessed it—was primarily organized via Internet.
Hereâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s a link to the article:
http://the.honoluluadvertiser.com/a...2/il/il01a.html
For me the Internet was a valuable social stepping stone and still is an important social tool I use to reach out and connect to others I might not otherwise meet. As with any social avenue, one must exercise certain precautions, but that the nature of any endeavor involving humans, unfortunately. I'm not saying that the Internet is for everyone, but for those who give it a shot, who actually take the "next step" and choose to meet "offline," it can be a life-changing experience (both good or bad).
The Internet is also is a great way to keep up with my friends and family back in OH--if I see them online I can save myself the expense of a costly phone bill, as well saving myself the worry that I woke them up or caught them at a bad time.
I guess there are a few people with whom I'd prefer to keep the Internet friendship simply that--an online thing only--but that's usually due to distance or a knowledge that hugely differing viewpoints on issues/lifestyles, while making for a good online debate, would make hanging out socially a negative experience offline. Other times, it's nice to have someone to talk to who understands or shares your perspective (or who can offer you a perspective you'd never considered before!) but who doesn't know you personally and therefore can feel comfortable telling you things honestly to your face that your "real" friends won't because they fear hurting your feelings or who might see certain truths to your situation because they are so far removed from your life.
Just my two cents on the Internet as a people-connector!
Well I have done it.
When I was 18/19, i met this guy in a chat (not really trying to meet anyone) and we fell madly in love VERY quick and i went out to see him twice, but we broke up once within a year then got back "together" and then broke up again because after the second time it just wasnt the same in person as it was online. So from then on, I beleived in meeting someone rather quickly after talking to them online if you think you might be interested, because like one of the posts said, it's not the same at all.
I did it a couple times since then, met a few people that i still talk to, but nothing too serious came out of any of them, some nice, some freaks, haha.
But I think it can be a good grounds to try... although I do now prefer to just meet someone out and see where it goes from there.
The guy that I love
right now, I e-mailed him because we worked at the same company in different offices and went to the same high school but never talked then, and when we started talking we met up and then the feelings just came I guess.
I would say good luck, be careful, and have fun!!
When I was 18/19, i met this guy in a chat (not really trying to meet anyone) and we fell madly in love VERY quick and i went out to see him twice, but we broke up once within a year then got back "together" and then broke up again because after the second time it just wasnt the same in person as it was online. So from then on, I beleived in meeting someone rather quickly after talking to them online if you think you might be interested, because like one of the posts said, it's not the same at all.
I did it a couple times since then, met a few people that i still talk to, but nothing too serious came out of any of them, some nice, some freaks, haha.
The guy that I love
I would say good luck, be careful, and have fun!!
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I met my wife online back in the mid-90s. In fact, I met her on the Usenet newsgroup rec.pets.cats!
It couldn't have worked out any better. We've been happily married now for 7 years.
It couldn't have worked out any better. We've been happily married now for 7 years.
I met my husband on Match.com! We talked for a couple of months, met in person, dated for 2.5 years, and then got married. We just celebrated our one year anniversary.Originally Posted by Talon
I met my hubby on an on-line pet care forum too (birds though - sorry kitties) - we were both mods/chat hosts. We've been married a little over 8 years.
The thing that struck me as "different" in a good way was that he sent me pictures of his cats! I loved that, as I wasn't allowed to have a cat at the time, and he knew I adored them. And I just loved how he talked so lovingly about them.
Just a tip: If a gentleman loves animals (preferably mammals, but birds and fish too), OK, just pets, he's probably worth a try. If he can love a pet, he might just be able to love you...
Good luck! I met a couple of doozies myself...it may take a couple of tries!
I have to say "YES" I have online dated............As a matter of fact. That is how i meet I better-half.
You all would know her as Zazusmom here on the TCS.
We met on Yahoo.
My youngest step-daughter signed up with Yahoo Online Dating. They matched her up with her sister's ex-husband!
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My youngest step-daughter signed up with Yahoo Online Dating. They matched her up with her sister's ex-husband!
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