I'm not sure who all posted on the thread where I said my Hubby and I were separating... We fully planned on it, looking for houses, I went to stay with my mom (but my 2 yr. old couldn't take it and threw a major fit, biting herself and hit her head twice on the wall before I got her restrained... then she refused to sleep and kept saying dad-dy, so we came home I couldn't take it) So anyways, we lived together but were planning a separation (which was really uncomfortable)...Then one night he offered to watch the baby so I could go out with friends, and as I was driving to town it was like all my anger and fury just kind of slowly dissipated. I didn't want to be with my friends.... I wanted to be home with him, I wanted my husband, family, and life back. So home I went, and we talked all night about all the things we both wanted to see change....so that is how it's going now for everyone who sent good thoughts, advice, and support, thank you all... It will be a long road but we are working on it. He even suggested going to church as a family (something I've wanted for a long time, but he told me never to ask him when we met)... Apparently someone up there wants us to stay together because the anger I felt is completely gone and originally I wanted nothing more than to get away.
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Update from my catsite magic post
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Erin~ I figured you would be, I especially wanted to thank you, for supporting whatever decision I made, and for not trying to tell me which one was right... I consider you a true friend.
Wow, that's amazing. I hope this works out for you!! Good luck.
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hehe I also gave him an ultimatum.... I told him I was keeping my black kitten and it wasn't a request (since I had planned on it during the separation and got verrrry attached to that one)~~ he said I get litter duty
Oh, Lori you are welcome!!!Originally Posted by MommaLori
Erin~ I figured you would be, I especially wanted to thank you, for supporting whatever decision I made, and for not trying to tell me which one was right... I consider you a true friend.
WOW! That's wonderful. Talking is the big one -- along with give-and-take -- and it sounds as if you've got both of them well under way, and are both in the right frame of mind to work things through together. I'll be pulling for you.
I support this! 100%Originally Posted by rapunzel47
WOW! That's wonderful. Talking is the big one -- along with give-and-take -- and it sounds as if you've got both of them well under way, and are both in the right frame of mind to work things through together. I'll be pulling for you.
My best wishes to you
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Thanks, I'm sure it won't be as easy as it seems at the moment but I've never been a big quitter
Oh, you're right about that! "Easy" isn't a word I'd use where relationships are concerned, especially when you've already had enough difficulty to have considered throwing in the towel. But now that you're building a more solid foundation, working through stuff is more likely to feel possible -- and quitting less tempting.
